TER provides a great overview  
The ladies provide additional info on there websites and there ads
most of which are listed at the top of the page.
find the type if ladies you like and see where they advertise

It is pretty easy to find
just have to work a little
you can also ask for specilties in the regional discussion board

As I am one of the women here that don't list all activities that I enjoy. Although TER provide a sense of things we do and don't do. P411 also has a list of what we do and don't do, but has cleaned up the descriptions for legal purposes. Once I saw that I too made some cleaning on my website so, I no longer have my menu list up. As far as fetishes goes, once you see a lady that your interested in and she states that she provide fetishes it's no harm in asking what type of fetishes she is into. Or, you could post an ISO on the board that cater to these needs being specific with what your looking for.

I also agree with prolonging the fun which I address as foreplay. Or role play if you can handle ;-}

You have a pm.

And I love fetish!

Usually if you post what you want you will get plenty of responses from providers that enjoy doing what you ask, then you can email them specifics just to make sure…

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Bondassage is the same.  I totally agree with menus.  Here sex is one way if I am providing strapon this should be reflected on my menu here on TER.