sometimes that does not happen.I let gentleman know I am reference friendly and some will ask if it is okay.They will let me know a certain lady will be contacting me and it makes it a lot easier to okay a reference.But,some do not ask if it is okay I will contact the gentleman to see if he is using me as a reference just to be safe.

that it is a LOT better to ask the reference for permission before you use her as one. When I was brand new to the hobby, Itried to book a girl in Las Vegas that I had seen once before. But I was only driving through, and it was necessarily short notice. She was already booked, so I looked for someone else. I found another girl, she answered my phone call right away, and I gave her the original girl as a reference. When she called the original girl, the girl said she didn;t keep those kinds of records! The second girl saw me anyway, (she said she could tell by my voice on the phone that I was okay, but she took a BIG risk!) and I didn't know about that problem until after the second girl and I had become close friends. The original girl knew me, of course (we had talked on the phone only minutes before the reference call), but she didn't know the second girl at all, so she did what was prudent. If I had told her to expect a call from the second girl, I'm sure the reference would have been given happily!

T.L.