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Re:Dinner Date Primer- How to avoid "Whining" while Dining!
Nice post. I can speak from experience with three different dinner dates.
The whole concept of what to talk about is key. If you are someone who can hold a conversation on any topic whether you care about it or not then you might not have any problems. That is not my comfort level--I'm not that excited about talking about nothing.
My first dinner experience was from a provider who required a dinner as part of the arrangement. (1 hour dinner 2-3 hours play) It was a bit of a struggle. I was sitting next to someone I knew nothing about (well almost nothing) and there were several moments during the dinner where we just ran out of things to talk about. Luckily the place was somewhat private so we could talk a bit about her business.
On the other hand, I have had dinners with two ladies (one at a time) that I had seen before and it was a very pleasant experience. I wouldn't say it was erotic or anything, but they were interesting to talk with since we knew each other a little.
my two cents
Being the type of companion that primarily does dinner dates I think it's a wonderful idea to venture into what I feel is a higher echelon of the hobby. So here are some tips when selecting a dinner companion:
1. How will the time be divided up? Meaning how much time will spent outside of the room and how much time would be behind closed doors? Most girls have a preset amount of time they offer as a dinner package… Personally I offer a 3hr and a 4hr option but I have a preference in how I like to divvy up the time in the room vs. the time outside of the room for each option... With my 3hr dinner we usually will spend 1.5hrs at dinner then 1.5hrs back in the room and with the 4hr dinner is also 1.5hrs at dinner and then 2.5 hrs of play time in the room. (though personally I prefer to break that 2.5 hrs into 1hr of one-on-one fun in the room before dinner and ask my girlfriend Sara to join us for the 1.5 hr second round of playtime after dinner... Again be sure that you get a clear idea of how she divides up the time because you don’t want to end up on a 3hr dinner date where she expects to be outside of the room for 2.5 hrs and only 30 min BCD.
2. Be aware of how comfortable you would be being seen out in public with her. This doesn’t mean if you are seen by co-workers but more about the glances you may get from the hostess if you walk into Picasso with a girl that looks like your granddaughter who’s dressed in a mini skirt and clear stripper heels… eeek! Even if she doesn’t take wardrobe requests, a friendly reminder email about the dress code of the restaurant or even a mention of how you will be dressed is helpful (so she doesn’t show up in a black cocktail dress and you’re sporting a Jimmy Buffet shirt for dinner at Samba.
3. Most importantly you need to garner a sense of what spending time with her will actually be like. I’m sure many clients have been in that situation where you’ve got a girl in your room for a 2hr date, and the conversation has hit a wall…in that situation you have an escape route as you can always adjourn to the bedroom and not worry about talking… Imagine the same conversation hitting the wall as the sommelier is opening the wine and the rest of dinner is filled with awkward silences or her abnormal ranting about her psycho boyfriend or losing her dog (I’ve been on doubles dinner dates where my client and I met up with an associate of his and some unknown girl and you wouldn’t believe the vapid things I’ve heard some of these girls speak about). The best way to do this is by evaluating her posts on TER or the way her website is written (assuming she’s the author), looking at the email dialogue between the 2 of you or even request a brief phone chat to see if the conversation flows freely!
4. And Finally- Check The Reviews!!! I know it’s a common sense answer but I’m not talking about checking to see if she provides all of the acronyms you seek. But read deeper to see if she has reviews of dinner dates where the client has commented on her ability to carry on a conversation, or how she was dressed or if he felt awkward having her on his arm. Basically it’s the best way to ensure that all the potential issues above are covered to your satisfaction!
Good Luck and Bon Appetit!!
It took me so a while to compose the above message that I was signed out of and when I signed in again it posted as a new topic...
Sorry!
As far as etiquette and tips on rules of engagement for this aspect of the Hobby I could not agree with you more. While Chase would be a very good dinner date, it has been my experience that most Providers specialize in the behind closed doors aspect of the Hobby. Additionally, most Hobbyist and non Hobbyist are itching at the trigger to get to the bcd, even if they have requested time for a public dinner date.
I would be more inclined to see a show or concert with a Provider as I can determine when to leave and it helps fill any empty moments. Also, I try to avoid conversations that are mood altering. I don't talk about my horrible wife, girl friend or what sucks in my life. The date is a win, win for the Hobbyist and the Provider because we have the same goals; get in and get out and have a little fun along the way.
However, it is fun to play, escort not an escort while people watching. It's Vegas baby. If you don't see a gal in a mini skirt latched onto to an older guy, you're in the wrong town.
Great information
Thank you!
Thanks so much for taking the time to give this great overview. Very informing and greatly appreciated.
Nice post. I can speak from experience with three different dinner dates.
The whole concept of what to talk about is key. If you are someone who can hold a conversation on any topic whether you care about it or not then you might not have any problems. That is not my comfort level--I'm not that excited about talking about nothing.
My first dinner experience was from a provider who required a dinner as part of the arrangement. (1 hour dinner 2-3 hours play) It was a bit of a struggle. I was sitting next to someone I knew nothing about (well almost nothing) and there were several moments during the dinner where we just ran out of things to talk about. Luckily the place was somewhat private so we could talk a bit about her business.
On the other hand, I have had dinners with two ladies (one at a time) that I had seen before and it was a very pleasant experience. I wouldn't say it was erotic or anything, but they were interesting to talk with since we knew each other a little.
my two cents
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