Why did you tell scheduler that you made appt with another provider? Obviously they won't reply now no one like to be choice #2.

You have PM.

Tricky situation

I think that you should have continued to follow through with Provider #2 since she was the one responding first.  When Provider #1 called you could have tentativly set an appointment for a date stating your plans are not that flexible.  Ddepending on if you had luck with Provider #2 you can always call #1 to say it wont work out, and hopefully next time.  On the other hand, you just may have sent provider 2 home cause she isn't want you wanted or you are in the mood for more provider 1 is still on stand-by.  IMO

Your integrity is appreciated. Yes you did the right thing.You played by the rules ( if story as is )

Shame on provider #2 for changing plans IF she told you to call the night before or the morning of the appointment.
Personally I think she should have picked one option for confirmation so things would be very clear.
Like – call me night before to confirm PERIOD. Then if you didn’t she can assume you may be flaking and make other plans.

I am curious what did provider #1 say to you when you asked-  “for their thoughts on how to handle the situation”

If a lady feels offended because she was second/third/fourth choice or if a lady gets upset because by the time she got back to you, you booked someone else ………..... well she should get thicker skin or find another profession.
As Boneboybob said- money is money still spent the same.

Second choice isn’t a bad thing , hey I have a few long time regulars because of that
Of course it is important that the guy doesn’t have an attitude regarding his second choice. That isn’t nice.
You can have a 2nd choice and still be a gentleman about it.

So you did the right thing and you got screwed and not in the good way , sorry that happened to you. ;-(;-(

So does this mean that next time you should do things different ? No ! Because two wrongs don’t make a right.

Now next time if you chose to contact the same ladies again ( which many guys do)  …………. Well then don’t come crying on our shoulders.

Lesson learned- time to find other ladies who are more reliable.

Hope you have better luck next time.
all the best
Xoxo CindySpice

Whenever I'm looking for a new companion in a busy city like Las Vegas, I always contact 3 or 4 at the same time and tell them all that I'm contacting a handful of gals at the same time and the first to book with me gets my business.  I give up on things like '1st choice, 2nd choice' and just have a 'possible to-do' list.  Just be up front and honest about it, and I think the gals will understand.  If they don't, you probably didn't want to see them anyway.