I've seen several websites, and now just saw an ad, that basically says (paraphrasing) "If you cancel you owe me xxx".  

First off cancellations happen, they really suck especially if you only see 1-2 clients per week but plans change because meetings run long, flights get canceled and business partners insist on buying you dinner... For a girl to threaten you that you owe her if you cancel is pretty ballsy and a bad business practice (especially if guy wants to see you the next time they are in town). I have had clients send me an amazon gift card or paypal when they had to cancel but it was always their suggestion/idea and obviously very kind but never expected.  

Actually..she offers extra time, or a discount. It seemed fair to me! And a nice gesture...because cancellations DO go both ways.

as does my hair salon, massage therapist and my nail tech. Just like I have to pay for a missed appointment I also expect the same courtesy from my clients. My policy says less than 24 hours notice and 50% is required, 100% for NCNS. Now, in reality only upstanding gents  ever pay this to me. So the majority of the time I cannot collect. It is a gentleman's agreement so that a gentleman knows what is expected of him. He checks a box on my site that he agrees to this cancellation. They are able to make compensation electronically or by mail or any other agreeable situation.  
I know I have had many guys pass on seeing me because of this. I also offer that if I have to cancel or am late I make up the time to him, gratis.  
All this being said, our hobby life is supported by our reputation. My reputation would be tarnished if I canceled and did not follow up with a free or discounted date. Although I would never use his personal information to extort payment I will follow up with his references to let them know that they are giving a good reference to a bad client. I feel justified in saying he is a bad client because he could not make the date with me unless he agreed to my cancellation policy. In the case of a NCNS I will also put his name on as many blacklists as I can find.  
If I give a reference for a client and then he is a bad client I would hope that the lady would contact me so I could make note to either refuse him references or at least include that information to the next lady who asked.  

Makes sense. I think what you said here is typical.

If you're going to "quote" somebody, please use their words, not your interpreted made up version.

Well, I know to never make an appointment with you

Somehow I didn't even see the part where she wrote blacklist..

Do you NCNS? Then I appreciate that you never make an appointment with me. I have never done that so it is not part of my repertoire.  

In ten years of hobbying, I have not NCNS'ed once.   A NCNS can happen for any number of perfectly benign reasons.  A simple misunderstanding regarding date and time, a lost phone number or malfunctioning phone.  Under your theory of customer service, the poor schmuck who made an appointment with you is going to be on "every blacklist you can find".

provider that has that policy. It sounds like a threat, so it does not matter how hot she may be; I will pass. I am looking to enjoy their company and have a fun time. I do not need the drama.

It does amaze me that it is not common courtesy to show up as promised and make up for it when you cannot. Anyway, I am sorry that I responded in the first place. I want this to be a positive environment  and not a hate fest. I really didn't know what I was getting into. I do want to clear one thing up because I am afraid that there may have been a misunderstanding.  
First of all there is no reason to blacklist nice guys who happen to get lost on the way to an appointment. They are not a NCNS because a nice guy will eventually call to explain himself.  
NCNS means no call/ no show. It is when the guy stands you up for an appointment and then never contacts you again to apologize or anything. For instance, recently I exchanged 40 emails with a client planning his date. He told me all his fantasies and requested 5 wardrobe changes. I also had to get the hotel room for our meeting. We were in constant communication up until about 30 minutes prior to the date. Then he doesn't show. I leave messages. Maybe he is lost or running late. I email him asking if I should wait around because he is running late. He NEVER responds. He turns off his phone and never, not the next day, not the next week, but never contacts me to explain why I got all dressed to see him and paid for a room and he didn't show.  

Heather, you miss the point.

For her sake, I am sorry I asked the question. As much as she admitted she was sorry for answering it.

I don't think tone of the board was venomous.  She stated a position and several others disagreed with it and pointed out potential consequences for her business.  

I understand that it is a business and the main source of income for most providers; and when a hobbyist does a NCNS it may cost them in lost income. But I think a better way would be to have a policy that future appointments will not be made if someone NCNS (without a legitimate reason because life happens); rather than advertising a cancellation fee policy which will turn away potential clients.

Hey heather..

I know what you meant.

Heather d'angelo is an fantastic provider and receives my highest recommendation, ESPECIALLY for a long date, and here is why.

The board could have discussions where people could state their thoughts without people jumping down their throats, then ok..

Not coming to the appointment, not calling in advance if you have problem or need to cancel, AND not calling afterwards to explain your self.  

I think this one came very close, much better than others

That's a really good post.

Ok having read what has been said i have something to say.