Dating is complicated, and I'm not looking for a "date" per se.  I want to experience a little life before I get too old, and not risk my relationship with my wife.  This is safe and exciting.  And convenient.  No strings, no future expectations...I let you know how it goes when I get back (I go to Vegas next week).

No, thanks. I only have the time and energy for one SO, and I don't really want to take away from that relationship. Seeing providers makes it better*, having a girlfriend would take away from it.*Unless I get caught ---"Sometimes you just have to take the leap, and build your wings on the way down."---Kobi Yamada

Guilt.  Thats what it comes down to for me.  When I am unattached, and don't particularly want to be, its casual sex and I don't have to worry about the lady misinterpreting my intentions.Falcon