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Outstanding post!
I mean.: we are people. We just choose to have an adventurous job. 
Wisdom, I will always be on a quest to be more wise. I would never trade youth for for wisdom though. I just had a conversation with a coworker recently, we were looking at a hot young co op girl and he asked me "wouldn't it be nice to be 25 years younger". I immediately replied "no, unless I could bring the wisdom back with me". If I had to be the dumb asshole I was at 25, forget it. I don't mean dumb as in not intelligent I mean dumb as in real life smarts, inmaturity and the big one "tolerance". When I was 25 I thought I knew it all and that everything was about me. I've come to know the difference between confident and cocky, cocky is thinking you have to boast about yourself or your accomplishments so that everyone around you knows, confidence is knowing that you don't have to, it will be evident from your actions and how you treat others.
It sounds to me like you have that inner peace and confidence Lynette, you should be very proud of that.I figure most may be hesitant to answer but I will ask anyway. Perhaps I will get an answer privately. The question is for providers here. Do you find it difficult to maintain personal relationships with people? Im not solely asking about boyfriends, but personal relationships in general.
Thanks to anyone who answers. I dont know why I have wondered this, I just do.
I consider several of the "ladies" my friends and quite frankly find them no different than any other lady. "Erotic pleasure" benefits aside, they are cool friends and absolutely no different than my "non-provider" friends. I suspect many would find your inquiry offensive.
Desperado. ...I admit its not normal. I have just always wondered it lol. I would think its difficult but rather than just guess, I figured I would ask.
...ladies/girls/women do not have a life outside of this business. They work 24/7. Some need to support their families, are putting themselves through school, saving for retirement, etc.
Hugs and Kisses,
Kell
I second that. That's every slice of society and every profession. People are people. In every cross section there are people who have trouble with social connections and relationships. There's nothing special about this profession that changes the statistics.
......I enjoy another profession which takes me through out the United States. I have a small, but very close circle of friends, I know I can count on, no matter what. Family is very important, as is being involved in my community via volunteering and church.
Due to this, and my other profession, there are times I find myself alone, but I am never lonely.
Hugs and Kisses,
Kelly
Thank you Kelly for responding. I found it rather difficult to admit to my friends I am a hobbyist. That being said, its easier for me to hide that than it would be to hide my profession. I hope you did not find the question offensive.
...because this is mostly a secret society and we strive for discretion and respect for one another's anonymity. Maybe you have some real cool friends who would dig that you're a hobbyist. I have some very cool friends that I might confide in but I've decided that I probably shouldn't because of the misunderstanding and stigma that pay for play has for those outside of this world. Realize that, in your other life, you have rivals who will try to take any opportunity to take away what you have for their own benefit. Revelation that you are 'paying for it' could be devastating to one's career so, there's no need to brag about your sexual exploits to outsiders...we'll just keep it to ourselves.
I greatly admire LynetteMarie's decision to live her life out loud and I enjoy russbbj's insight about wisdom. Here's a little wisdom from me; seek friendships and personal relationships from within the hobby; let the others figure it out for themselves. And...
'Relax....it's just sex!'
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When I was trying to keep my life as a sex worker a secret from friends, family, neighbors, church groups, etc..it was difficult for me to truly be myself with others. Naturally, living "in hiding" put a damper on my relationships because I wasn't comfortable sharing this element of my life with others. The relationships I had were not 100% real as a result, and I absolutely hated lying to people who I cared about.
As age and wisdom sunk in, I became more comfortable in my own skin and balancing my life and relationships. Bottom line to me is if someone cannot accept me whether I'm a sex worker, a coal miner, a Christian, agnostic, left wing or conservative...well, that person is simply not meant to be a part of my life.
I'm very fortunate to have hit the jackpot with the people who surround me. I have friends and family along with a very strong support system, and I feel loved and accepted by all of them.
Namaste!
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Wisdom, I will always be on a quest to be more wise. I would never trade youth for for wisdom though. I just had a conversation with a coworker recently, we were looking at a hot young co op girl and he asked me "wouldn't it be nice to be 25 years younger". I immediately replied "no, unless I could bring the wisdom back with me". If I had to be the dumb asshole I was at 25, forget it. I don't mean dumb as in not intelligent I mean dumb as in real life smarts, inmaturity and the big one "tolerance". When I was 25 I thought I knew it all and that everything was about me. I've come to know the difference between confident and cocky, cocky is thinking you have to boast about yourself or your accomplishments so that everyone around you knows, confidence is knowing that you don't have to, it will be evident from your actions and how you treat others.
It sounds to me like you have that inner peace and confidence Lynette, you should be very proud of that.
How could Kate Winslet go to work day in and day out with Leo Dicaprio and not find themselves putting a restraining order on each other outside of work..
Or how do the cast members of dancing with the stars do it..
I mean.: we are people. We just choose to have an adventurous job.
...and then there's no potential for offense, and you'd get a wider response.
And I've loved the provider's responses
And, if you don't ask it both ways, I may steal your question and post it myself, because THEN I would have a story to tell with a desire for observation/feedback in that vein.
I think it is not an inherently mean-spirited question at all, just phrased in a paternalistic way. But potentially provocative.
Not seeing the paternalism dude.
A delicate subject asked respectfully.
I too like the provider responses. It re-enforces my belief that most providers are intelligent, independent and gutsy.
Thank you to everyone for your input on this thread, but a huge thanks to you providers that have responded. Your responses have offered in my opinion, a little more human element to the hobby.
When reading reviews it is clear, the providers who bring the human element are the ones that are rated among the best. Not many people care for the simple and mechanical lets go through the motiins providers.
Peace to you all.
All of us "providers" as well as "hobbyists" have lives outside of this. We have family, friends, loved ones that we interact with on a daily basis. I have many interests outside of the hobby and being a provider as well as all these fine ladies. That is what makes interactions so exciting. We can share these passions along with this passion!
Holly
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