So I have been communicating with a avid contributor to this board and a popular provider in LV for a month or two.. I will be arriving next week and wanted to get together. I have provided several references ( E mail addresses) which I shared with her for screening.. Unfortunately those references have not gotten back to her in a timely fashion and now she will not see me. I respect her comfort level and not going to beg.. I am an expired P411 member and have been hobbying for quite some time... Just feel a great sense of frustration as I am somewhat particular and prefer to plan in advance...
Has anyone run into this situation before? I understand everyone has their level of screening, but at this point may have to move on and look for some other choices

that don't require references and are non invasive. We all have preferences but need to be flexible for each situation.

Best of luck sweetie

If as you say you've got multiple and I'm assume double digits okays on P411, you shouldn't have a hard time finding a date.  

I don't fixate on any given lady. I use the star system on P411 and the favorites list here and just go through them occasionally and pick a few out and go from there. Even when I was a newbie on P411 I had no issues scheduling. Like you, I prefer to have things lined up well in advance and have done so for my next trip. We'll I've set up two dates, probably will squeeze one or two more in  

Email me anytime -  
link to my site below
Char xo

You are already screened as far as I am concerned. I would not require any further screening for you.

I would love to see you and have no problem screening you.  

Kendra Marie  

www.KendraMarie702.com

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In re to whitelists, the most recent one is from over 12 months ago.
I emailed the three providers that he provided me their contact info and no one replied.
He touched base, I sent them out again. Radio silence.
He asked if his expired p411 would work, which he mentioned in this post, and I said unfortunately no.
I mentioned a $50 deposit towards the date, it didn't go over well.

I'm not sure why this has to be drawn out so much. I know that no names were included, but if I don't feel ok taking whitelists from over a year ago that's my decision.
To each their own.

I actually said earlier that maybe it was best to find someone else, but he kept trying. Which is fine, but I made a decision last night, a final decision, not a suggestion, to please look elsewhere. I wished him well. And he wouldn't move on.

If I don't vibe with someone via email, I'm not sure why I am expected to take the request.

I'm now wondering if this was written as an attempt to have me reply as after I said that I had given up and to please look elsewhere I didn't reply to his emails or PMs. If so, you won.

Either way, I still wish you to have a good time just like I did before. I'm just not sure why a calling the situation out, even if there wasn't a name, was necessary.
My screening isn't anywhere near as "strict" as many, but if I can't get what I look for, well ....that's that!

I won't reply any more to this. This reply was already too much.
Xo

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This guy is well known, and a great communicator.

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that's the beauty of being an entrepreneurs!   This high risk/high reward game means you have to stay within your own comfort zone, no matter what anyone else thinks.  I totally support the ladies (and gents) in making their own choices.  Do your research, then go with your gut.  If it ain't feeling like a fit, don't push it.  That's when you have issues.  Speaking from my own experience!

Well there are always 2 sides to every story.  

 It seems she was not comfortable, made is clear, and asked him to move on.  She gave him plenty of notice and clearly it looks like he will have zero problem finding another provider.

It seems that he was set on her looks/profile/bio and wanted her bad!!!!  So frustration on his part when he could not get verified in a (obviously) timely manner.  To his credit, he did not out her in this situation so he was professional in his frustration

It also appears that no harm was done here either way.  Just chalk it up to a connection that never worked out.  

Both parties... no harm no foul.  It really comes down to comfort on both ends.  If one part is uncomfortable, then walking away is the best for all involved.... why start a date with "pressure" on either participant.  

Best of luck to you both!!!

Look, he didn't pass Alyssa's screening. I've seen Alyssa, and I'm seeing her again, (whiteknight?) and her screening was super easy.  

P411 request. Date. I don't recall needing to do anything else.

She said she made multiple attempts to screen him. Which didn't work out. He acknowledged that.  

Honestly, I don't even understand the complaint. He let his P411 screening lapse, and his references didn't come through, I can't imagine the majority of ladies would see him either. I wasn't aware some ladies took an outdated whitelist or reviews as screening. I learn daily.

Like I said, before, and I obviously missed the part where your P411 lapsed, there are many other options. Had I read that more carefully, I would have laid the blame directly on that fact. Fix that shit. Its 129.00 dollars a year for fucks sake

For your responses...
I have received quite a few replies to my post and look forward to my trip scheduling several appointments. I shared my frustration on the board wondering if anyone has experienced this situation before. I did not mention the provider to protect her anonominity, but she was gracious enough to respond publicly.. To be clear, I respect everyone's level of comfort and if  they should chose not to see me, so be it.. We move on.. Sometimes we get smitten with our choices and will exhaust all efforts to make it happen.. It did not.. E mailing back-n-forth can get misconstrued... Nevertheless, I wish everyone to stay safe and be happy... See ya' all next week!!!