I set an appt.in advance with a well known Vegas Independent(who based on reviews is the reason I picked), She shows up,we  take care of the bussines trans $$$1/2. then we get comfortable, then she tells me that its that time of  of the month..So she limited in activity.Anyway, I went through a half hearted session, but was expecting from reviews a great one, So Im thinking WTF..Is it me or Im thinking wrong,Why or dont schedual any appointments if you not ready...Im looking for feedback on this thanx Alan

1) She should have given you the chance to back out of the session. At least she should have called in advance and let you know. I have ran into this situation a couple of times and the provider either called and cancelled or gave me the chance to cancel. I was disapointed that we didn't spend time together, however, these types of things can't be avoided.

2) Write a review. From what you said, this is completly unprofessional on her part. She should have let you know before money was exchanged and at least gave you the oppurtunity to back out. Since she was "limited" in her activities she should have charged you "limited" money.

Please use her name, saying "well known Vegas Independent" puts a black eye of the rest of them.

I agree with Cheese Chronicles.  Not to tell a client in advance and give him the chance to cancel is very unfair and you have every right to feel agrieved.

Ya man, let us know who she was and write a review.  I know a couple "well known Vegas Independents" and they would not have done that to you.

I've never fronted the donation at the start of a session with any of the Vegas ladies that I have seen, nor have I ever been asked for it. Did you offer the donation up front, or was it asked for by the lady?

If it was asked for by the lady, I have to assume that she was guaranteeing her donation, before dropping the menstrual bomb on you. Either way, it is unacceptable behavior, and the fellas here are right, a review needs to be written about this. I know that business may be somewhat slow, but this just isn't right. MfSD.

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By withholding the name, not only do you give "well known Vegas Independent" a black eye, it can lead to speculation, rumors, and innuendos of who is the possible culprit.

While I've not had to front money when I've known and seen the same provider before, I've always had to pay up front the first time I've seen anyone in this town.  Call it a force of habit, but I think most expect this, even after the first time (I don't think anyone escort wants to be shorted, and that's a real possibility with the slots and tables in the casinos nearby).

Just another aside, while most independents set a flat fee for time spent, if you do have a good time, make sure you leave a good tip.  This town is extremely service oriented and the regular stiffs working hard everyday are dependent on tips (so it's a good habit to get into while you're in town).  While I don't think most of the established and reputable independents are hurting, if you thought they did a fab job, giving them a little extra shows your appreciation.

Bob

is during the session.  That goes for anything that may be wrong or not to your liking.  Posts here suggest that she should have given you an opportunity to back out of the appointment.  Maybe she would have if you had only asked, and her view of the appointment may be just that.  It's true that it's her job to make sure you have a great time.  And you can post a negative review and teach her a big lesson perhaps.  But you gave your tacit approval to the process by not objecting when she told you the situation REGARDLESS that you had already given her the funds.  Being passive and not actively trying to get what you wanted doesn't get your money back.  Sure you can post, and I'm not arguing that you should not, but next time voice your concerns on the spot.

The provider knew in advance she was going to be "limited" in her abilities. She got the money in advance and then dropped the bombshell. She put the guy in an awkward position and in most cases she knows that most guys are going to give "tacit approval" and not ask for the money back. And if he did ask for his money back, I wonder if this provider would have requested a cancellation fee?

No true professional (whatever that profession maybe) would ever put a client in such an awkward position.

Bottom line...she knew... and didn't disclose that fact. She is more at fault than the guy.

As for writing a "And you can post a negative review and teach her a big lesson perhaps.", I don't look at it as a negative review - it's just his version of his experience.

and that's not what I said.  I said to stand up at the moment - stand your ground during the appointment.  If you are walking across a street, look both ways.  It doesn't do you any good if it's someone else's fault that they run over you in a car - you're still the one in the hospital.  We guys, and I've been guilty of this too, have a tendency to let the girls off when we're with them and then complain later.  We can all be reminded to have stiffer backbones in their presence.

Sorry, I read it that way, but you do make an excellent point about standing up. I'm not sure if your analogy fits this situation - unless we assume the driver was drinking and he/she was "limited" in his/her ability to drive (pun indented) ..

This guy is in the "hospital" ...

I still stand behind my original post, he needs to write a review and it's not because he is going to teach that provider a lesson. Speaking for myself, I want avoid booking time with this provider because I don't want to get into a similar situation with her. Who knows what other excuse she may use... "I ran out of condoms for a second round... I just remember I have an urgent appointment with (fill in the blank) and I'll make it up to you next time... Not only is she unprofessional and not forthcoming with the truth, she doesn't care about repeat business.

Speaking of standing up, wouldn't you agree that alan_69 should stand up and reveal the name of the provider and not hide behind cloak of "well known Vegas Independent"?

The fact of the matter is providers know that many if not most men are not going to raise a stink once they have the money. I know I likely would not do more than sound disappointed. To do more one might be made to feel crass and classless. This isn't like a restaurnat where you eat first and then pay. It's easy to send back your food if you haven't paid. As a hobbyist one might feel more than a token complaint would lead to subpar performance on even the limited activities available.....Bottom line this is unprofessional behavior and unacceptable.........just my 2 cents

I'm just as curious as everyone else as to the identity of "well known independent", however it would be in his best interest to hold back on the public board.  If he had revealed the provider's name in his original post, fans of "well known independent" would have jumped to her defense and flamed him into eternal humility.  The same people currently posting messages of alliance would instead pounce on him as the enemy.  Let's be honest, we've seen it and probably even participated in it numerous times.  I don't blame him for not wanting salt thrown on his wounds.

Yeah you're right about the analogy - it doesn't really fit - I just meant that trying to solve problems after the event doesn't work as well as looking for solutions on the spot.

Whether or not he should name the provider is another whole issue.  I understand his reluctance to name her - I've been in two very similar situations and I didn't say anything negative publicly.  I didn't because I felt I had to take some responsibility for spinelessly accepting what happened.  But I had good relations with the ladies before the incidents and there was a basis for communication and I was able to make my complaints and get make-up type satisfaction later.

I see nothing wrong with posting a review.  Before I would post a negative review, however, I would at least make a complaint to the lady and see if she was interested in making it up to me.  OK, here's another bad analogy:  If I had a problem with my new Sears tires, before I wrote a letter to Auto Week I would probably go talk to the guys at Sears, lol!!  

I see his comment that he went through with a "half hearted session" but I see nothing that indicates he ever made any complaint to the lady, before or after the session.  Does she even know how he feels?  Just how complicent was he in going through with the session?  To express no disatisfaction to the lady and give her no opportunity to make things better and then to write a negative review later behind closed doors seems rather cowardly to me.

On the other hand, if she's rude about the situation, doesn't think she has anything to make up for, isn't interested in making it up, then BLAST AWAY!!!  Post it on every board you can find and make sure it stands out.  

Hey Marco,

I've had the same experience, with the exception of a couple of agency girls I've hired.  In your case, could it be that your reputation may be preceeding you? lol!!!!  In my case, I'm sure it's because of my references and because I tend to have rather extensive email and/or telephone contact with ladies before appointments.

As a general rule, I wouldn't shag anyone who can't count to 28 myself. Must've been blonde!

WOW this is a timely post for me!!
I just had to canncel an apointment with a gentelman last Sat.
Due to the same problem he had already made a deposit up front
in advance and then when he called to ask about the apointment I said I couldn't because It was a bad time of the month for me...it came a week earlyand hit hard.....really messed up a good week for me too. I felt like a real jerk for cancelling on him and refunded the money right away (thank you paypal) But I still feel like I should have made good on the appointment.....
I actually said that I would come anyway but he said no thank you
I know if someone cancels an apointment on me it makes me feel trerible regardless the reason that may have been what the girl thought too....but thanks for you oppinion of the subject I feel better about what happened to me. I know its true I would not have been at my best had I gone!! TAke care everyone!

long time no see, can't wait to do something about that.