I am an older gentleman that makes it to Henderson a couple of times a year.  I know I am not that exciting and I guess that is the issue.  When I look at all the wonderful ladies here I become intimidated buy their looks and experience.  I would love to spend several hours with one but when I look at their reviews I realize that I really have nothing to offer to make it enjoyable for them.

A number of the ladies offer duos with their friends, or bachlor parties and have so many great reviews where so many exciting things have happened all I can see is an evening that is boring for them with just me having a quiet evening.  Am I out of the norm where I would like to have the time enjoyable for them also?  I love to touch, kiss and explore a ladies body and I receive a tremendous amount of satisfaction when there are multiple O's on the ladies part.  But based on what I see the reviews are not like that.  Or is it??  Crap, I had a 3 hour meeting, with a wonderful reviewed provider here, where the first 2 hours were spent with her just talking.  Don't get me wrong I enjoy conversation but for 2/3 of the date??

Does anyone else identify with this?  If so, how is this overcome?

Thanks for your time!!

There are actually many Vegas Providers very down to earth that would probably love to hang with you.

I agree don't give up stop going for only looks chemistry is everything friend!

Just what your seeking.

what do you mean nothing to offer? How bout the envelop with the donation. Remember it's their job and your fantasy.  Have you ever been to a Meet & Greet and seen what your fellow hobbyists look like. Trust me, not to many hobbyists are all that exciting. And don't beleive everything you read in the reviews, all those Os and guys coming multiple times in an hour or two.

And concerning your  3 hour date with two hours of talking, my advice, next time take control, when you're ready to go BCD, get up from the couch, take her by the hand and tell her your ready for the "real" fun to begin and walk with her into the bedroom.  

Take the time to do the proper research, read the websites, don't take the reviews as gospel and pm a reviewer or two and ask them questions. Since you've written a few reviews, hobbyists should respond to your questions.  

You do just fine. Don't worry about it. Most providers enjoy some great company and whatever makes you feel good makes them feel good. Remember as others have said "it's all about you".
It is a time for you to just enjoy the time with them and if you do as most of us do there is no reason to feel that you are boring them. If you are wondering what to do or where to go for entertainment for both of you before the festivities ask them and most will be happy to arrange a great time for both of you.  Enjoy Vegas.

I assumed you were talking about this type of situation:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W3j6XXL1l2M

In which case, you'd certainly be within the Norm.

My plans for longer engagements, those longer than 2 hours, is to plan on some cocktails or dinner for public time followed by private time.  IMHO, a three hour date is pretty lengthy for a first encounter.  I am older as well and I can't go at it for 3 hours.  Again, IMHO 2 hours is sufficient time to engage a lady to see you are compatible.  I realize its is the lady's job to entertain, but sometimes you just don't click.  In the parlance of speed dating, that just means it is time to say "next".

I would say most likely you do have something to offer the ladies.  The mere fact that you are concerned about "offering" them something is a good starting point.  Find out what they enjoy drinking and have it on hand, I have yet to meet a lady that did not enjoy flowers and just conversing about hobby experiences will usually carry conversation for at least a while.

2 hours of chatting in a 3 hour date is not unusual, but 2 straight hours of talking and then reverting to physical is an unusual split.  I would have expected them to be mixed together.  You are allowed to make the first move.

I know that I do.  I live Henderson away from the hustle and bustle of the strip and enjoy quiet evenings in with my "friends".  I have a great pool to have drinks by, a great jaccuzzi for bubble baths while having a nice glass of wine, great conversation, and all the other fun stuff afterwards and in between.

Nothing boring about that!

Have fun and relax!  There many wonderful women in this town who would love what you have to offer!

Kasey

You are the producer of your own private fantasy. It can be lame. It can be crazy and wild. It's up to you. You should forget about the reviews (that's other people's fantasy). You are not competing for an Oscar. Since it's private you don't need to worry about people laughing at you or judging you. The lady can to be your director, screen writer, actress, etc. It's your choice. Once you convey your desire, I am sure most of the ladies will try their best to fulfill your fantasy.

I have met 5 wonderful ladies from Vegas. From their reviews and scores and my personal experience, I think it's safe to say they are all gorgeous. Yet, they are all super friendly and really want to please. Katie, who posted above, was one of them and I highly recommend her. I certainly think she would qualify as gorgeous. I really don't think you need to worry. If you see someone you like then just contact her. I am 99% sure that you won't need to worry about how gorgeous she looks or how little you have to offer.

You may want to check out the 60 and Over board. The crowd there is very friendly and helpful and supportive. It has a very different feel than other TER boards. They will welcome you even if you are not over 60. Nobody is going to check your ID. You just need to "play nice".

Of course, we are where we are, and the men here are providing compensation for a lady's time and affections and we all know that.  In THEORY the most old and unattractive of us can book time with an 18 year old '10' and go for it.  Also in THEORY the lady in question would ignore our age, weight, lack of hair, etc etc etc.  

For me, the reality is slightly different.  Sure, I could book that nymph - if I could forget that she is younger than my GRAND DAUGHTER!!   And how, exactly, do I have a fantasy while we are 'engaged' that she actually might like me when the contrast is so severe.  Lets face it, if I saw her in a Mall, I would just be a totally invisible old man to her.  

So I go for more mature ladies to play with.  Are they any more intersted in me than the 18 year old spinner?  Probably not, but I can more readily con myself into believing that the experience has SOME connection beyond Ben Franklin if I can at least talk to her and have some idea what she is talkiing about!!  

Its all about the fantasy and what it makes to make it happen!!

Just my .02

MVR

I sometimes find myself in similar situations.  I think it has as much to do with how the ladies market themselves as it has to do with my feeling of a possible connection.  Some of the most beautiful websites and corresponding "premium" rates (I consider these over $400/hr) do intimidate me.  I believe that their marketing and pricing is directed toward  much more of a "jet-setter", fast money crowd.  If I was to follow these types of individuals, I imagine I would find high dollar penthouse suites, bottle service at high end clubs, premium exotic meals at the most exclusive restaurants etc.  etc. g

To be honest, that is not me, and not the type of "fun" I like to have.  While I could stretch my budget to book with these amazing ladies, I would be uncomfortable that they would find my time not boring, but rather they would feel like they were "slumming" with me.  Honestly, it is not a knock on either them, their marketing or me, but rather the realization that I would be uncomfortable in my casual wear, having a cocktail, or bringing a bottle and appetizers to the room to kick back and relax thinking that I was being compared the the "hotshots" that can throw money around and provide the above described experience.  

If I am not comfortable in my ability to connect with a lady, then how could I possibly expect her to be at their best in connecting with me.  I KNOW this is all about fantasy, but I believe to really enjoy time (especially extended time like I tend to book)  that chemistry is vital.  But the chemistry must go both ways.  Call it old, call it misguided, call it a dose of reality in a fantasy world, but I admire the ladies that can spend time and make an old "fuddy duddy" like me escape and truly live the fantasy for a few hours.  Thank you ladies.

I have been a hobbyist since early 2003, though I really don't like the word 'hobby.' I have experienced lovely women from Tampa to San Francisco, Los Angeles to New York, and several times in Las Vegas too.  Only rarely have I met an under 30 provider. Often I have met over 40 providers, even several over 50.  They might not have been hard bodies like manu 20 something providers, but that did not make them any less beautiful, or lessen the experience in any way.  I do like multiple hour dates, but at my age that means some down time, no pun intended.  I can relate to women of a certain age, and I too am afraid of seeming boring to younger providers.  Still, I have never experienced a threesome in all my years of being in the hobby, and I am wondering if I should rethink my position-again, no pun intended, regarding seeing younger providers.  From their sites, a threesome with Katie Flowers and Michelle Mata or Michelle Mata and Ava Ivy or Angela Avery or Nikki Cannon seems like something I should try at least once in my life.  Or maybe a foursome with three of the lovely ladies.

Younger, beautiful women do intimidate me some, especially when I read of them seeing professional athletes, etc.  Still, logic says the envelope levels the playing field, so why not enjoy my early January trip to Las Vegas with something beyond description?

I think the problem is more of our own creation. I don't think that's what most ladies are worrying or thinking about when they meet us. If I have a big grin/smile on my face when I meet my lady of choice she seems to relax/relief that I am happy with what I am seeing. I think that's their biggest concern. It may seem crazy from our point of view, but we all have our own concerns. If we can not overcome our own mental phobias then we can always stay in our comfort zone and choose ladies who we feel comfortable and enjoy them. Nothing wrong with that, but you might be missing some wonderful fun time that you could have enjoyed.

Thank you for the information you have shared.  I wasn't sure what kind of reception this topic would bring and I am appreciative of all the responses and PM's.

Again thank you for your input!!

We see the ads of all these beautiful ladies; but we do NOT see the ads of the hobbyists - like you and me.

I do not know where in the US you are from; but I walk around the local shopping mall and most men are not the 20 something, 6 ft. 2 blonde blue eyed model, jet setters

Relax and select a lady you are attracted to (ones that have been reviewed on here) and have a good time. My guess is that most ladies on here are very nice, they are human and they are concerned about your pleasure.