it is not the city that determines what type of experience is enjoyed.  I think the people involved determine if an experience will go beyond the surface level of our "shells" or not.  

If someone is merely looking for a physical connection and release, then that is what they will have.

If someone desires to have a connection beyond that, they will take the time to do so.  They will do their research to find someone that they will click with.  Reviews are very revealing in this sense I think.

Also, I think chemistry plays into this quite a bit, as well as timeframe.

It's hard to have an emotional connection in one hour in my experience, though it has been known to happen....if you have the same interests or hobbies etc...it sets up a foundation to build on while you are together.

Ultimately, I think the universal law of "like attracts like" comes into play.  I always ask gents to completely read my website.  I don't want to waste anyone's time.  I enjoy chatting and getting to know someone a bit before the clothes are stripped away.  I think it makes everyone involved more comfortable and feel more connected.  
I cannot begin to count the times where someone has shared a story or life experience with me that has moved me; and those stories, thoughts, and feelings stay with me forever. Even if I don't ever see that individual again, it feels like they gave me a gift by sharing their mind with me.

And, I definitely don't think there is anything wrong with just enjoying the physical; in fact, it can be quite amazing at times.  Though, I enjoy trying to connect on deeper levels much more; and, find that it makes for a more gratifying and satisfying time together.  That's just my view and my preference.

Most gentlemen that I visit tell me that they choose to share time with me, because they did read my website and tell me they enjoyed doing so....and that they had something in common or felt the same way about something I wrote about in a blog.  In fact, just the other day someone told me that usually they do not care for blondes, but after reading a blog they felt they had to meet me.  We got along wonderfully and I ended up staying and talking much longer than our "scheduled" time because we were both enjoying ourselves so much.

Honestly, one of the things that I like most about providing is meeting people from all walks of life and, as they say in Hawaii "talking stories".

Thanks for the great post...it is an interesting topic to think about.

Smiles....

SS

Last year on a trip to Vegas I met someone that I developed an almost immediate emotional connection with. Our personalities clicked and we had a great time even before it got physical.

I have seen her several times for overnight dates and it is always the emotional and mental connection that makes the time memorable. (The physical is amazing...but I am no spring chicken so that takes up less time than it used to).

Thanks to Tawny I will always have a reason to return to L.V.

I was reading a post by a gentleman who was looking for both a physical and an emotional encounter and wondered if that was possible to have here.

I have worked in Washington, D.C. and NYC previously and, while they may seem like fast-moving, cold places to work, they were, in fact, the very opposite.

It was actually quite easy to have a first-time experience and it be emotionally and physically satisfying, ie. warmth, good conversation, good feelings that I've only experienced a few times here.

It seems like with people coming in and out of the city that the attitude steers from that and just focuses on the physical. I'm wondering if that's because of the transitory nature of this city and it's visitors.

This post is purely to quell my curiosity and not to complain.

Thanks!

I agree with Sam, for me personally I try for the connection first.

I generally do a lot of research before I make the initial contact, not just reviews, but how someone places their ads, and responds to board posts.
I like to flirt on the boards, so a connection may even start at that point.

If there is a connection then the physical seems to just happen naturally.
I consider myself to be extremely lucky, almost every one of my encounters have led to a friendship with benefits.

Then return visits build a much more satisfying relationship.

I think the main issue is not necessarily the transitory nature of this city, but rather the mindset of a lot of people who come here to visit. For the most part, people who come here aren't looking for the warmth, good conversation and good feelings that you mention. They are coming here to release their inhibitions and basically go all-out for the short time they are here without wasting a minute. People "expect" Vegas to be a certain way regardless of the reality. I have lived here for 18 years and I can't tell you how many times I have been asked by people if I live on the Strip, or have had people assume that I must gamble every day, am in clubs every night and must be out drinking until 4AM every night just because I happen to live here. I think a lot of that goes into what people are looking for when it comes to encounters. I would venture to guess that if you were to have encounters with many of these same people in another city, say, Chicago or New York, the experience would be quite different than it is here.

To answer your question, I do believe that it is definitely possible to have that sort of encounter here. I say that because I have experienced it myself. Sometimes it can be hit-or-miss but that's true of anything. People are different. If someone, such as the gentleman who made that post, is looking for it, I am confident that he will find it.

I do agree with the post about expectations in Vegas. Because the reputation of the city is a very fast, anything-goes kind of thing, I suppose that mindset should be expected.

I just feel like the emotional connection makes it so worth it to me. I really couldn't do this if I didn't connect on some level almost every time I meet with someone and in Vegas that's proving to be slightly more difficult than other places I've worked.

Thank you for all the thoughtful responses, I've enjoyed reading them.

I've been fortunate over the years in having meet ladies that I've been able to connect with on numerous levels.  I do  my best to make sure before I see someone that we have some  level of "click". I usually book at least a 3 hour date so there is time to talk before, during break time and after.  I've had some great conversations with a lot of the ladies I've seen.  I've been real lucky to have meet 3 ladies who in knowing them they have helped to make me much better person and  I just like to spend time with them.

I believe it can happen because I've experienced it many times while visiting one of my favorite towns!  I have so many favorites in Vegas, I just wish that I were able to visit more often ...LOL.

I've also been very fortunate to have met several providers over the years where we shared great chemistry together.  If the chemistry is mutual, I really enjoy the longer sessions (i.e. overnighters) including dining, shows, etc. where we can both relax, have good conversations, and just have some fun together.  I've always felt that it made the "physical" part of the encounter much better too.

Like when I have a bad experience (you know, below a 5 on the TER scale), and I think about the money I just wasted, I'll start crying.

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I have been enjoying the company of a number of wonderful ladies in Vegas over the past several years. Most have been great while some I know where just in it for the cash. Either way the times were always memorable. This year I happen to connect with my ATF and the emotional connection was almost immediate. I have been very fortunate to spend quite a bit of time with her over the past 5 months and will continue to for the foreseeable future. This may sound corny but she fills a void in my life that lets me unleash not only my sexual inner self but also my emotional inner self, I can be myself with her and she can be herself with me. This really makes the physical connection that much better. Niceguy75 and I have never met before but we do share a common bond, Thanks Tawny.....you're a special person and very much cared for and appreciated.