I received an email from a wife..
YES!! I know every provider has..

This one went like this: " you piece of shit you almost ruined my marriage.. get a real job!"

Now anyone that really knows me.. knows that I felt bad for her..
NO, I did not respond..

I actually had to cancel the appointment with him due to a family issue..(a few months back)

yet, he recently inquired about seeing me..
the email from the wife was from HER email NOT his..

I recognized the last name..
should I continue to ignore him .. or do I tell him what occured?
Normally I would go to "providers Only" board .
yet, I want to know how the men would want me to handle this..

I genuinely feel horrible and just want to brush this under the rug..
thanks
Lorena

I'd want to know.

I'd really be concerned why you were ignoring me.

I think you're right to ignore her messages.

He needs to know for all sorts of reasons and after advising him, you should then have  no further contact with this guy.

It's not worth the chance that when she found out, she compromised the email address that you have.  Unless you can be 10000% sure that it's his and his alone, lose it, and him.

He'll figure it out when the frying pan hits him in the forehead.

at this point you at least owe it to him that his wife is onto him. Forward her email if you feel that HIS email is secure and she will not read another exchange between you and him. If that is not the case, don't.

From there on ignore, ignore and ignore some more and that would be to both parties, him and her.

Move on and chalk it up to experience. The last thing you want to have happen is have some wise ass lawyer dragging you into a divorce dispute.

It is very natural for women to blame the other woman for her husbands philandering. They don't want to believe the worst in their marriage so they take blame. You being a provider has nothing to do with their marriage and you had nothing to do with their problems.

He needs to know he has something to work on at home, and that you want nothing to do with it. Ignore her email do not respond, though I would be very tempted to.

You have one of the biggest hearts here and I know this is hurting you because you don't like upsetting people.

This is the right thing to do, forward the email and continue on with being yourself.

I would forward the email and leave it at that.I have never had to deal with this one myself .I have got many calls but not a email .She must have got into his email somehow or how else would she know?

Whatever you choose to do I hope that it goes well for you .You have to move on and try not to let it get you down .

It's not your problem.  At this point she said "almost ruined" vice "ruined".  Any contact shows you have interest in this situation.  No contact, no interest.  

Your non-response shows you have no human bond with her husband.  As far as she is concerned, he was just a trick and nothing more.

in a situation like this.  But unless you know absolutely for sure, I wouldn't even touch it.  

We also don't know your relationship to him.  Have you ever seen him, or was the cancelled appointment going to be the first time.  So, you may know more than us about how safe it may be to contact him.  If not, I think discretion is best.

...from the "fiancee". She left a voicemail informing me who she was and that she wanted to "talk" about the nature of my relationship with him. Ugh! She wasn't demeaning or ugly and I felt terrible when I heard it. I genuinely thought he was single, too. Perhaps he was, perhaps she was a stalker... who knows? It was too much for me to try and untangle and it wasn't my issue.

I forwarded the message to him and then never responded to him again.

I agree with Karrie. Tell him and continue on with being yourself.

Sorry this happened.

For any provider or any woman messing around with a married man.....if the wife contacts you.....IGNORE HER.

She could be calling your bluff.....if you respond in anyway....it will be all the ammunition she needs to hang her hubby, and possibly fuck up your business for a while.

Once a dudes wife finds out.......and contacts me......I will not respond to anymore of his emails, I would not tell him shit....bc you don't know who is opening the "tell all" email you are sending him.

She is married to him, you are not....do not insert yourself in their drama. You are not responsible for his hobby habits. He found your information, not the other way around.

There is no brushing this under the rug.....FOR THEM....but for you....move on....this is not your battle.

First we are the one's who call you it's never you calling us. So it's us that make the choice. Second I would tell him about the email and that you will no longer be seeing him. Stay strong and keep working hard at your JOB

Sound advise Allure....remember that if you get an email from my wife.

That is, if he has any money left.

I say you should let him know, but only if you're sure his e-mail is secure or if he calls.  You don't need to forward him the e-mail.

This not only can help him, but might prevent other ladies from getting the same e-mail from the wife in the future.

Then ignore him.

My two cents is that Allure's advice is spot on.....
if I were in this dude's situation, I would not want you emailing anything...........maybe a phone call to make him aware of the situation but NOT an email..........

If someone else answers the phone, hang up.

I had a principal tell me something many years ago that I fondly recall..........."don't let other people's problems become yours"  

Best of luck!

I feel it is probably the best to hope for the best for him and his SO..and it is to his benefit that I keep distance and not even email/etc..
I believe it is best for me to leave it alone..
Thank you all for your time and input..
I value everyone's advice.. it truly has helped me to come to the proper decision.. (I dont want to be involved)
It is a sad situation and I hope all works out for them both. Again, this has shed some new light on the other side of every coin.. My heart feels for her..I prefer to not add salt to any wounds..
I take no pride in ever hurting anyone.
Sincerely
Lorena

I'm sorry I don't know you, I have never seen you, you have no reviews, I don't see newbies...

Why on EARTH would I get an email from your wife? Are you a hobbyist or a provider?

Allure` ALWAYS gives me damn good advice. I don't always follow it, but it makes perfect sense at the time!

It's THEIR battle, Lorena. Not your's. You're providing a service. Don't lower yourself to their shit. There's a reason why the guy's hobbying. And it doesn't matter if it's with you or any other lady.

Just blow the fucker off. He'll get the hint eventually. Like LP says. He'll get the business end of the skillet upside his face and he'll know why!

check your PM

I think you should stay away from the drama. do not respond to him or her as far as that goes. Just keep yourself safe, there is alot of crazy SOB's out there.

The wife is blaming you for her man's transgression.  I'm sure there are other providers or guilty parties.  You are not at fault, don't beat yourself up