Any other hot parties that I should be visiting?
Also what's the coolest restaurant in town?
I want to go to TAO but are there better places? looking for good food and cool ambience?

There will be LOTS of hot parties advertised. Places like thefloatingworld.com might have the PUBLIC ones, but the private ones are sort of for people "in the know". You might try and find out some while on the ground, though- lovely ladies like yourself are typically the most wanted type of crashers.

As for clubs to hit...

http://www.jackcolton.com
http://thecircuitlv.com/

Work from there.

I think one of the coolest restaurants in LV is actually in an off-strip shopping mall on Sahara...

http://www.saipinchutima.com/

but casinos have many, MANY choices. A friend just spent $285 on an incomparable dinner at Joel Robuchon...