If you let her know you are strictly looking for massage and kissing that may help your case. A lot of ladies offer separate rates for those who don't wish for it all. If you choose a reputable provider she will accommodate to you and respect your wishes. Also I am from Idaho as well! I saw that was your handle name and I never meet many people from there so welcome!

Oddly enough, some providers will suck and fuck all day long but shy away from DFK. Regarding #1, that does sound weird. Any reason why?

I'd even go farther: Don't get locked into one lady too soon - two weeks out is about as far you want to commit - and simply voice your interest just like you did here. When you get responses, read those ladies reviews to get a sense of her personality to see if it suits your interests.

An escort is, or should be, more about companionship and fulfilling your wishes than it is about sex, so you'll have no trouble. Mind your budget, though, and have a great time.

There are a whole lot of ladies who would love to meet you. Seek out a GFE, get yourself screened and then describe your perfect evening. Soft kisses, Lily

I've actually encountered a few men that are in the same position. Everyone has their boundaries and what they don't want and do--nothing strange about that--we are all like that. Most girls are really good at making the experience special whether it is about sex or just an intimate meeting. Since you are looking for something a little less common, but not uncommon, look for someone that is good at providing a sensual stimulating experience. I would suggest emailing and talking to some girls. Some don't put up with emails, but if someone takes the time to talk and respond to you, then you know you're on the right track! Good luck.