What is the generally accepted protocol for a 4 hour dinner date?  Time in the room followed by dinner followed by time in the room?  Dinner then time in the room? Room and then dinner?
Thanks
Bob

....there is no set protocol, but you may want to discuss before hand with your date how you would like the evening to flow or she may have a preference as well.  I have done this with my favorite lady in all of the above mentioned ways. It has always been a great experience!

I think dinner followed by time in the room is the most normal. But any of those other scenarios could also work. Just ask your date what she would be comfortable with! Every girl is different.

T.L.

There is no certain protocol. I guess it is about personal preference.
Although I am flexible to what my date would like to do , I personally prefer dinner then time in the room.

Why ??  For two main reasons.
Going to dinner first gives more of a date feel.
Getting to know someone first over dinner sets the tone to feel more intimate and close to the person you are with.
Having stimulating conversation with your date is a huge turn on.(well it is for me)by the time I get back to the room I am very horny.  

Men seem to forget what it takes for a women to get ready for a date.
Since all they usually worry about is hopping in the shower and putting their clothes on.

When I get to a room my hair and make up is all perfect looking to go out in public.

If we start with time in the room well by the time I am done with that, my make up is all running ( and I don’t even wear a lot of make up ) My mascara gave me raccoon eyes. My hair is messy. I look like I had wild sex in the bedroom (because I did  LOL LOL ) ………….Although guys love that look it isn’t exactly the look you want to have when you go out to dinner. So now I have to spend time “putting myself back together”  
If you first go to dinner ,you don’t have to worry about all that later.

So my vote is - dinner first then back to the room for desert


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I usually pay for 1 or 2 hours and buy the meal. Also, I am more fit on an empty stomach, personally.

"I usually pay for 1 or 2 hours and buy the meal."

So you need only 30 minutes of room time ?



I can be a smart ass too.

Having dinner off the clock is a YMMV thing that I doubt if most girls would want to be made public. I would never count on it, especially on the first date with a provider, and if it ever happened, I would keep it to myself.

T.L.

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I am sure no one would argue that just plain expecting dinner off the clock is just rude.
especially on the first date.

Not talking about you T.L. I know you would never count on it or expect it.

Maybe I am wrong but his post came across like it is a given.

I wonder if my laywer would agree to have lunch with me off the clock cause hey,I am paying for the food LOL LOL LOL

... but the thing is, that's liable to be in the context of a far, far more expensive and long-standing professional relationship than a first-time date with escort, plus it's not a given- some might, some won't. In fact, some would PREFER some professional distance from their lawyer.

The bottom line for our original poster is it's an easy way to kill a relationship by presuming upon it too much... and you should expect to pay for ALL of your time with a lady. That's the easiest way to keep yourself from being disappointed when your charm and good looks doesn't end up getting you a free dinner companion.

I agree with your bottom line.

BTW I can tell you many stories ( and I am sure you know some too ) of off the clock dinners that ended up in the long run costing the hobbyist more ......financially,emotionally and other.

so long as you negotiate an off- the-clock dinner arrangement ahead of time but- it’s a real bad idea for a first date.

       First, most ladies state on their website that rates are non-negotiable, and if you try to do this anyway you immediately create a degree of tension that gets the evening off to a bad start.

      Second, the notion that the lady should be happy with a free dinner and your companionship may inflate your charm and certainly ignores the opportunity cost to the lady who might prefer to book two or three shorter but fully compensated dates for the day.

          A better approach would be to search for a lady who has a rate structure that contains a built-in discount for dinner dates. You still will be “on the clock” for dinner but at a lower rate that makes the entire arrangement more palatable to both parties.

       As to the sequence –  dinner/room, room/dinner, or my personal favorite room/dinner/room – that’s totally up to you and the lady.

Sorry I am on a roll today LOL LOL

I forgot to mention - maybe your "off the clock free time" is actually costing the lady money.

As you mentioned missing out on actually being on an appointment. but also maybe missing out on booking future appointments. After all how rude it would be to answer the phone while keeping you company for a free dinner.

What if she has kids and has to pay the sitter for that extra time.

There are more reasons,but enough "spice opinions" for one night.  LOL LOL LOL

different just ask who your interested in ...and give her your input and go from there ... in other words there is no set rule cut in stone .... I've done dinners on the clock and off the clock ... it all depends on your date and what she feels comfortable with .....


shit let's cut to the chase ... don't even do dinner and with the money you save get a second lady for dessert .......



spinner


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Multi task to maximize your pleasure.

Cindy, you should know that there is never a time when you don't look great. And you also are very, VERY stimulating, in sooooo many ways

Dinner first so as not to mess up hair and makeup then make a connection and have a great time in the room.

Now as for a free dinner....nah I would pass as I have so many better things to do with my time.....laundry, watch a hockey game hmm the list could go on.  I'm sure it is YMMV type of situation because heck somebody might just really be hungry who knows!

xxooxx,
Sara

ohhhhhhhhhhhh you are so sweet and VERY stimulating too *wink wink*

I am not worried that I don't look great. Just not the type of look I want to have while having dinner in a public place.
but I am very much game to just stay in and have room service then I don't have to worry about my hair and make up

...go to bed on an empty stomach; feed her first!  

I've gone for beer on a few occasions with my attorney.  It was off the clock, and did some serious shit-talking too!

I think the key, as it is with providers, is that there needs to be a cordial comfort that makes being around you something that they'd do without compensation.  I'd guess it to be rare for it to happen on a first meeting.

This one goes under "miscelleanous" charges.

The big firms bill even for answering your phone calls. Not even the most lawyerly provider would not try that one.

That's why my attorney works for a firm of TWO.  Last time I got his bill, I called him and asked what it was for, and he said..."Aw, never mind".

And no, I'm not going to give everyone here his name, lol.

If you are trying to maximize your time, I would recommend room service.  There is no waiting for elevators, and depending on the location you care to eat at no lines for cabs.  
If you do this than your lady can come all beautiful, you can look at the menu. Since it takes a bit of time for food to arrive, I am sure you can find some activities to keep busy. After some fun you can get all freshened up, and put on some robes and than eat, and play again.

There is nothing like working up a good appetite, and finishing with some dessert!!!  

that you make it VERY clear what donation you expect to pay.  I've heard too many stories of girls thinking they were shorted because the hobbyist assumed dinner was off the clock.  Like Cindy and Sara said, I think most girls have better things to do than to hang out with hobbyists.

The dates that I offer start with 3 hours. I love getting dolled up for a date, enjoying seductive conversation over our meal (lunch or dinner) and then really turning the heat on after dinner. It has a really sophisticated feel to enjoying an evening with a client when one shares a sensual meal together, so my vote is FEED ME FIRST!

LOL..Sitara Devi

No shit Sara, why haven't you ever told me you were a hockey gal.  So many stars games missed over the years...we need to go to a game, badly!!!

But I digress, this thread is about food and dating... hell, you can get your date hot dogs and lots of beer at a frig'n hockey game!

(I hope this picture link thing works...I'm technically challenged)

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