Don't most providers get paid upfront and check ID? I do and just had someone tell me it "wasn't normal" and canceled the date right then and there because of it. He lied about his first name and said it was his middle name even though it wasn't on his ID.. his reason was "it just isn't on there." I'm sorry but your FULL NAME goes on any ID.
Afterwards he called me back to back and threaten to leave me a bad review. I don't even know what I did wrong but whateverI always pay upfront and have never been asked for I.D. That has been my experience. Once screened, i'm not sure what purpose the ID serves, but I would gladly show it if asked. Like I said, however, no has ever asked. In terms of payment, I think it goes without saying that the lady should be paid upfront. If a man is unwilling to do so, I think it shows a lack of good faith. What could he possibly be thinking that would make him believe that payment is due AFTER services have been provided?
...on the nightstand and I'm about 100% outcall so the meeting is at my hotel. If left in the bathroom the lady can discreetly check the envelope at the beginning. Most times the lady only checks the envelope after she has left. I've rarely been asked to show my ID, not more than 5 times, I'm sure but I don't have a problem showing it.
I'm sorry to hear you had to deal with a bad client. Your requirements aren't unusual, tho. Are your requirements stated on your ad or website?
He was extremely paranoid and wanted to meet at Starbucks first, so I went out of my way to make sure he was comfortable. So he couldn't leave in the bathroom or anything first since I had to meet him in public.. it was just a mess from the beginning.
I say in my ads that I screen but maybe I should say that I do check ID as well.
I'm sorry to hear you had to deal with a bad client. Your requirements aren't unusual, tho. Are your requirements stated on your ad or website?
It is easy enough to slip you an envelope/card/whatever in public and then you could excuse yourself to the restroom to check it. Was this his first date? I have never had any issues with my donations and have never been shorted. Most people on here understand how it works. I think you need to make your instructions very clear so you are not put in this situation again.
Good luck!
Holly
I have never asked to see a photo ID before a date begins. I only ask during screening if I am unable to verify them 100%. I have had a few not respond after asking for it (and that is ok.) Most of the time I can figure out if they have lied about their name (with my screening process) and they are easy to just tell I can't see them since they weren't honest when filling out my contact form. I am not sure how you screen but I will PM you my thoughts on screening. Those who know me know I am a pretty harsh screener and if ever I get a bad vibe I won't go through with a date. That being said I haven't had a bad experience yet.
Hope this helps!
Holly
I belong to P411 in which my "handsome" photo and real name are on my profile I make available (to only two people that I have trusted so far). Better that photo than the truly ugly ones on my driver's license and VA ID. Alas, I do have to take my hat off when we begin our time together. I have no concern about giving my real name, etc. I can determine who to trust through web pages, one or two reviews, Twitter accounts and their language. (After all, gathering and analyzing information were a big part of my two careers; oh, and writing reports.) Being here with the beautiful career women of Las Vegas does not worry me at all. I am probably somewhat close to the last decade of my life and paranoia no longer floats around my mind.....much. Now, I firmly believe all of you need to do a very good job of screening. It doesn't bother me.
I agree. With a good screening I never really worry about ID upon first meeting. We both can relax and enjoy our time together!
I always pay up front. I don't believe I've ever been asked for ID at the beginning of a session. I've read about showing ID in reviews and seen it as part of an escort's screening. Quite frankly I just move on when this is part of an escorts screening.
If you're going to ask for ID make sure it's in your ads and web site. I'm not the only monger that won't show ID.
Afterwards he called me back to back and threaten to leave me a bad review. I don't even know what I did wrong but whatever.
You should be comfortable with who you are meeting before you show up. Once you are there an ID is not going to help you. I am sure I do not know the real names of many of my clients. If they have a well known online presence and favorable references I don't really care what their name is. If the client is an absolute newbie and I cannot find any other way to verify them then I ask them to send me a photo of their driver's license. It is very rare that this is necessary and is usually when they are using a brand new email address and a burner phone.
Yes, you should get paid upfront. If you do not see payment on the dresser or in the bathroom simply ask, "Do you have a gift for me?" before getting down to business.
I put the cash on the night stand or dresser in a very obvious spot as soon as I walk in. I will not so ID though, I don't even bring it
satisfactorily, then no need for ID. Who else knows about the meeting except the guy you screened? If I was asked for an ID once I got there, it would make me uneasy and I would probably leave, thinking it was some kind of an LE sting.
Donation up-front on the first visit. After that, at the end. Just my way. Others may disagree.
...but I never show ID. There's nothing to check because I don't give my last name. If my email addy, cell phone no. and TER handle aren't enough, I'll move on.
I think you made the right decision bailing on this appt. Doesn't feel right to me.
That being said, I am called by one name, but it's not on my ID, nor is this name broken down from my ID or short for. It's my fathers middle name, and my nickname since childhood. But obviously it's easily explainable.
I am not in 100% agreement with paying in the starbucks or casino bar or whatever. Even with an envelope. Way too easy to be a skip and just knowing that would make me less relaxed and possibly ruin a good date. I do however, leave in bathroom or someplace noticeable.
Maybe having a number of reviews I've posted also helps. I don't know.
That being said, when I go to one of our local hobby shops (pun intended) I am never asked up front. And we've both forgotten at times until I was dressed and leaving. But I have a good reputation so it's never an issue.