I will be staying on the strip around Thanksgiving so I decided to try and set up seeing a lady or 2 while in town. I've seen a few ladies in various different locations and posted as honestly as I could on this site about the experiences.  

While trying to set up for my incoming trip I've contacted a few ladies who honestly told me after checking my reviews that they would not see me because of what i've posted in the past for fear of me posting similar reviews which could hurt there business. The last thing I ever tried to do was make things harder for the ladies. I just tried to be as honest as possible.

I'm wondering what is the best way to convince ladies that I'm not a jerk trying to mess with there business and who would be interested in meeting while I'm in town to give me a chance to prove this?

Their business ! I think I would expand my list and keep calling !!! B

If your reputation precedes you, it is what it is.  Whatever you've written publicly is viewable to anyone who bothers to look, and you have to deal with the consequences.  Just like ladies have to deal with the consequences of underwhelming reviews.  Writing truthful reviews is fine, but no lady wants to get skewered publicly by an unflattering review.  Keep looking & maybe you'll find someone who doesn't check a guys board presence before she agrees to an appt.  In the future, maybe you can find a balance between being honest & coming across as unkind.  Just my thoughts...

where do I start!!!!!    this post is making you sound a little needy, insecure or maybe desperate but after taking the time to read your reviews I don't think you're a jerk!!  So a few ladies declined because of what? You told the truth? Isn't that what this is all about?????  I pretty much doubt its because of the reviews you have posted! That's just a bs excuse as far as im concerned.  Any of the top providers on here will know how good they are and wont give a shit if you have given someone else a 5 or whatever! As long as you treat them ok then what have you to prove?  You're not dating, its business, nothing more, don't be fooled!
Get back out there!  There's any amount of girls in vegas who WILL see you just as long as you're descent and honest!  
Just don't be so desperate !!

There is a very fine line between being honest , bending the truth , being unkind or flat out just being a jerk .

Reading your reviews , I wouldn't say you are a jerk .... but here is an example maybe why  
your reviews don't come across very well .  

In one review you wrote - "I got flaked on by 3 different providers in the middle of a non busy week, which is odd."

I am sorry , but based on what are YOU deciding that it is a non busy week ?  
Also regardless what you think is a busy week or not busy week ....... doesn't mean the lady doesn't maybe have other "busy things" to do.
We are people too. Our lives don't revolve going from meeting to meeting .

Now flaking out is a whole different issue.  and NOT ok for a lady to flake unless she was in jail ,  
in the hospital or dead .

So was it a no show/no cancel  ( that is flake ) , or just cancel . There is a difference .  

A few of my pet peeves in a review is when gents are inconsistent ,complain about things just to complain or give back hand compliments .

Things like - "If you have no problem with a BBW, then she is the one for you"
Unless the lady doesn't advertise as a BBW or if she doesn't look like her photos , well then such a comment isn't really necessary.    

In one review you say  - "She is a serious talker"  
Then you say - "I was kind of talkative myself so she really didn't do it for too long. "
Then you end with - " I will try her again with less chit chat "
Maybe I am wrong , but it comes across as you complaining about the chit chat .

Where as in another review you wrote about the chit chat in a positive way .

So is chit chat good or bad ? Some gents like it , some don't , but how are we suppose to know ?  

Chit chat can be very important to help break the ice , feel more comfortable and even help create a better connection between 2 people ...... making other things better too.  

If a gent doesn't want chit chat , then in a polite way just tell your lady what you prefer , instead of the lady finding out in a review that you didn't want chit chat.

I don't know what exactly happened , but I have had reviews written about me where the gent
was kinda complaining about my chit chat ...... but he fails to mention that I stayed over my time because of that or that HE was asking me a million questions causing that chit chat to happen .

 
Not saying that is what you did , this is just an example.  since my posts are about bringing up issues that others ( lurkers and posters ) may have or related to the OP's subject  , not just answering your specific issue.
Hoping more then one person can grow and learn from my posts , or have some type of positive take away from my posts .

Side bar - reason why my posts get a bit long . Of course one doesn't have to read my posts if they feel my posts are too long  
Since I don't exceed TER's per post word limit , I guess TER doesn't see my posts as too long *wink wink*  

So I see that your last 2 reviews have improved in the way you describe ladies performance.
That's cool.

Now regarding looks , while I am all for beauty is in the eye of the beholder .
and while I am all for changing the looks score system to something like-  
"Looks better then photo"
"Looks like photo"
" Looks almost like photo "
"Looks nothing like photo "  

This way each person can look at the ladies photo and make up their own mind about the "rating number " for each lady ....... rather then complaining - well I don't think everyone can be a 10 .
or I wouldn't rate her a 9  

Not to talk about that one mans 5 can be another mans 10  

One reason numbers can be an issue.
For appearance -  
Many gents say that a 7 score in looks is a great score , but then on the flip side of that they turn
around and make an ISO post or do a search for 8- 10 only .  
Not saying all gents do that , but many do .
So ladies who get anything less then an 8 , may fall off the search and that is hurtful to her business......
especially when the lady looks like her photo .
Cause lets be honest , what gents puts a 5 ( or less ) or even a 6 while making a search ???

While every person has their own idea of how they set their bar score for appearance , I think your bar isn't exactly in the right place.
Kinda like if you see a photo of lets say - Tayra Banks . And you think wow she is a 10 .
but in person although she still looks great , you can see a few physical flaws , but her personalty  
and how she treats you makes you kinda forget about some imperfections ( lets be honest . no one is perfect ) and you still look at her and see a 10 .

Does this make sense ? I hope so .

Nothing wrong with being honest , Just be careful of that fine line.

No need to attack the OP . He is expressing his problem , is looking for a solution and he is trying to do the right thing .......which is more then I can say about some people here.  

All the best  
xoxo CindySpice  
           

 
 

Your reviews are honest and most of them are flattering, but your numbers are tough. If fact your last review, the 5/9, sold me. Why? Because anyone that would give a 5 to the same girl they gave a 9; that 9 has got to be real.  

I hate the numbers, if I could submit a review without them I would, but you can't.  Next to pricing, numbers are they hardest thing to discuss.  The providers you are referring to are looking at your review list, seeing the numbers and making a decision based on that. If anything they are picking the one with the lowest score, reading that, then making their decision. If they read all your reviews, or a least a few of them, they would see you are a nice guy, with decent honest reviews.  

Here are my recommendations:

Understand that the providers turning you down may be a blessing in disguise. They are screening themselves.  

Tell them you are a nice guy, your reviews are a sincere effort to be an honest reviewer and ask them to read your others reviews and reconsider.  Offer them one you think is the better.  

Do not offer them your TER handle.  There is no need.  You don't have any whitelist, so there is no reference for you on TER.  Get a membership on P411 or Date check.  You can sign up with a different handle.  Those sites are strictly for verification.  Also you can just use previous providers for a reference.  Of course if they ask you directly if you review and if you are on TER, then you may need to be honest, lying will have even more serious consequences.  

You may want to reconsider your scoring methods.  Generally the girls get insulted if they get a 7 or below. A 5 may be considered a kinda harsh number.  

Good luck.  Thank you for being a conscientious hobbyist.

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Just read your reviews and can totally understand why the providers in question don't want to see you. You nit pick entirely too much dude. Also, you gave some of the providers in question entirely too low marks in the looks department. You have to use more common sense when posting reviews. You say that the last thing you would do is post something that could hurt a ladies business. You're kidding me right? There is nothing wrong with being honest, but that doesn't mean you always have to be BRUTALLY honest.

Very well said Rani!

Your reviews are fine and not out of line in ANY WAY (with regard to rating numbers) compared to their other reviews.  

YES. All of the ladies you have reviewed were reviewed MANY times by others and ALL their other reviews are in line with your scores.  

If you gave someone a 5 with CURRENT review averages of 8+ in both looks and performance you would be someone I would choose not to see.  

Unfortunately these ladies who chose not to see you simply looked at your lower posted numbers not at the people who were being reviewed.  

They assumed you would be difficult or judge them too hard and decided to pass.

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One of his reviews was on a bait and switch, and the other was an upsell, and he rolled with it!! He called the bait and switch "old faithful", that he will call again, for a "mystery middle aged Asian".

Even the chatty one he didn't complain about, he even assumed some responsibility for it, he just said next time he won't talk so much.  

There is only one critical one, and it wasn't that bad.  No, he's getting a raw deal.  

It is possible to go in and let him change his numbers?  And is that what we want? Is that what the girls want?

You know the girls really take a lot of risk being a "reviewed provider", then coming back on the board to partipate.  I always thought that took a lot of courage and character.  I guess the guys take some risk as well.

I would like to thank everybody for your honest opinions and information. I will seriously take into consideration most of what has been posted because it has all been helpful

Thanks for all your honestly .I wish all the guys would review like you . Most of the guys give these girls 10"s and there no way close to being a 5 .

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Or I am having a blond moment and that went right over my head  
OR people think they know me , but don't know me  
OR you are confused between what I don't care about personally for me , but do care  
about for others .....
Or never mind , you were just trying to be funny LOL LOL LOL
Sorry for some reason I only get Ol_D's sense of humor , even though I never met him either.  

xoxo CindySpice

change your alias to ezdude12345

"Jerry I am lost"

"Where are you?"

"I am in phone booth I am down town, I don't recognize anything"

"are there any landmarks near by "

"there's a Ray's pizza across the street"

"Is that Famous Ray's or Original Ray's or Original Famous Ray's"

"It just says Ray's pizza, there's a cross street sign. It's says I am at 1st and first streets!
How can the same street cross itself? I must be at the nexus of the universe!!"

"Hang in there KrAMER, I am coming to get you. Stay alive!

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