Dear Anna (and all other posters/readers),
I was brought up to honor my word ("word" being closely related to "promise" but not quite the same). If I tell a lady I am going to write a review of our encounter, I follow up on my word and write the review. I may not get to it the next day or even the next week, but I keep my word. Please note: I make reference to the review AFTER our encounter is completed. I some cases, I even ask permission from the lady because some women have a 'no review' policy.
Now, there are times when I have not written a review (and not given any assurance that a review would be involved) simply because I did not think a review from me would be very favorable. I chalk it up to the possibility that the lady was having an off day, had other life issues with which to contend or, possibly, I was being too critical. Rather than post something negative, I chose to remain silent on the matter.
However, if a provider is horrible...(slovenly, unkempt, not the lady in the photos, an up-seller extraordinaire, etc.), I will write a review...a factual review so that others will know what to expect. I see that as a duty to other hobbyists and as an obligation of sorts as a member of TER.
Under the circumstances, I think Anna was correct to expect a review if it was promised or there was some verbal assurance that a review would be forthcoming. Let us not forget that reviews can be a powerful form of advertising for the ladies and this is, after all, a business. And, let's be realistic about one thing: some hobbyists will give assurances of a review in the belief that they will somehow be able to coerce the provider into giving it her best, so to speak. They are dangling the carrot of a review in front of the lady's face, with no actual intention of following through. They usually do this BEFORE the session begins.
Finally, in providing references for both of these men in question, Anna took the high road by being professional and exhibiting more than a little class. Let's not forget, also, that references are solicited and given as a means for the ladies to weed out the psychos, weirdos, rip off artists and, even, the potentially violent hobbyists. So, Anna provided a service to the other providers, just as she expects them to do for her.
Bottom Line: Anna is certainly justified in being disappointed that her clients did not keep their word regarding a review for her. She did not retaliate by giving either man a negative reference. The men gave assurances they did not keep - or had no intention of keeping, perhaps.
PS (for Anna): You have met all kinds in this business (or you will if you wait long enough). Best to get used to the fact that you cannot always believe what you are told. You provided a service, were compensated for it and the men apparently behaved normally. That is what you should expect. If your expectations go beyond that, you will be setting yourself up for further disappointments.
