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need some advice....(kinda long...)
bobbybobby420 2 Reviews 6238 reads
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Hi Folks,

I'm really hoping some of you hobbyists AND providers can set me straight on this one because it's really starting to drive me slightly batpoo.

OK, here's the situation:
A few months ago, I met up with a certain provider. We had a few sessions and ended up becoming kinda-sorta friends. Now, last month she went to So-Cal to work for the summer. I wouldn't be too worried but as it turns out she's working out of a cheap hotel at seriously discounted rates. I guess it's to raise funds quickly. However, I don't think she uses her regular screening process which leaves her open to all sorts of bad things. But, she assured me that she's OK and she'll be fine. (She's pretty young but this is none of my business)

Just saw her a few weeks ago and everything seemed OK. After that, she met up with a girl and they started working together out of the same hotel in So-Cal. Still no problem. She's also been posting ads regularly on CL down there and that does scare me because CL is freaky to begin with and LE is all over that thing (JMO)

SOOOOO...I've been following her posts and it seems all good. However, suddenly she's stopped posting completely and hasn't returned a call or e-mail in a couple of weeks. I think her cell is off and there's no answer on the home phone. AND, last week her friend re-appeared working for an agency out there but my little pal is still nowhere to be found. No posts in 11 days and counting.

Now to my question:

I'm HOPING that everything is OK but I got this funny feeling. Part of me says don't sweat it, she's fine and will be home soon. Another part says she probably got busted, or worse. And part of me says forget her because she's obviously blowing me off. And another part of me got her friend's cell number and wants to call it. Now, I'm really not looking to be the stalker type and I do know that her life is her own and outside the part she shares with me occasionally the rest is none of my business. I really do understand that.And I really don't wanna blow her off because she's fun to be with and I'd like to see her a few more times.

So TER, I leave it to you folks
Any words of wisdom would be really appreciated.
Especially from the providers. Like I said, I'm not trying to be a freak and if she knew I was writing this, she'd probably be really pissed. And I know if I call the friend, unless there's a real problem, that's most likely gonna kill the friendship. But I can't lose this feeling that something bad happened.

Please PM me or post a response here.
I really don't know what to do and I think you guys are the only ones that might (maybe) understand. Nobody else in my world gets why I give a crap about a provider. But she's a really excellent woman and I've lost too many friends to tragedy in my lifetime.

Thank each and every one of you in advance.

bestwishes
bobby

PS: I don't post stuff too often, but I really enjoy reading your stuff every day....thanx.

I understand your concerns for this lady but really not much you can do .
You may think you know her .................but there may be things you really don't know .( infact I am sure there are things you don't know )


You may have thought your relationship is more then provider/client maybe it wasn't really what you thought

It is nice for you to care about her and worry about her ..............................but you can't .
If you emailed her a few times left her messages then that is all you can do .
If she wants to get a hold of you, I am sure she knows how .


There can be many maybes ............ You can only pray and hope for the best .

If you really really can't get past it then call her friend . Just be casual. say you are wondering if she saw her friend lately because you can't seem to reach her . Don't go on and on about your concerns . Keep it short and simple.

Hope this helps .
I hope all turns out well .

xoxo CindySpice

P.S. Glad you find the Vegas board entertaining ;-)

belichick3589 reads

bobby remember this is just a fantasy and all of us at one timeoranother become infatuated and think we have fallen in love. talking from experience remember this is a business and after justa couple of visits it is hard to believe you are real friends because realfriends are far and few betweeen acquaintences aren't. think with the right head and the answer will come to or when she needs something she will call(experience again) if it were me i would count my blessings and move  on my advice is NEXT

I understand your concern, but women drop out of this business for any number of reasons.  I once was seeing a ladie on a semi-regular basis.  The last time i saw her she told me she was getting married in two weeks, and would be quiting the business.  It is primarily a business relationship after all, and you most likely could not help her anyway.  I would not dwell on it too much.

I agree with the rest.  While I am sure you concidered her a friend and conducted yourself in that manner.  Just something you have to ask yourself.  Do you know her real first and last name.  If not then were you really friends or just a maybe a little more than client/ provider relationship sort of a causal aquaintance as some have said.  For as Cind stated how could you help her anyway without know "real" information about her.
Best of luck

sexxygirrl5023 reads

I can understand your concern about her welfare since you were friendly at one time and had regular communication.

Since you've already written and called the provider without response, I don't see anything wrong with tactfully calling her friend just to make sure she's OK so you don't have to worry any more. You could tell the friend to have the provider contact you if she needs help--that's a nice gesture.

Don't ask for any new email or phone info--that would be an invasion of privacy.

She may have left the business, maybe has a new boyfriend, or is taking a long needed vacation. For many women, when they leave the business, a complete break from the past feels best, so they deliberately don't keep in contact, and even ignore communication with prior clients.

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