Many of you won’t want to read this. It’s White Knight stuff. I get that way when I’m annoyed.


I’ve been dwelling on some recent posts. In a service industry that’s based on human relationship, the worst possible failure is misunderstanding. I have been dwelling on the issue of a provider who, in essence, calls in sick.

A short while back I had the good fortune to meet Miss LaRue McCay at a social event. Although she looked like a million bucks, she had confided with me early in the evening that she was in pain. Honestly, as the evening progressed, I believed she had gotten over it. No one, I thought, could put that much active energy into entertaining and catering to these men (and women), and be so “on”, and still be living with the migraine headache she’d mentioned earlier. In truth, I found out later that she had been suffering greatly the entire evening. To me, that’s commitment.

Then I see the post suggesting this lady caused a problem because she called in sick. A no-show is a problem. A phone call is, at the least, well intentioned, and not worthy of complaint in a public forum.

Nothing is guaranteed. Man has not yet figured out how to get a warranty on companionship (if he could, there’d be a lot more contented husbands). I’ve been fortunate that I’ve never been no-showed, but I’ve gotten that call before, from a lovely young woman I had expended effort and rented accommodations to see. Was I disappointed? Hell yeah. Did it occur to me that she was at fault somehow? Hell no. The only thing that disappointed me was that I couldn’t reschedule: She’d decided to retire. (For several months I harbored a small guilt that I caused Arianna to quit the business, LOL)

So, Igottaask: What the f**k were you thinking when you pulled an attitude on a gal with an excellent reputation? Couldn’t you even consider balancing the smug feeling you’d get for calling her insincere against the damage you’d cause by possibly accusing an innocent (well – maybe that’s not the best term) and well meaning person. Many of these women still love men in spite of us. Every time someone pulls a stunt like yours you’re pissing in the well we all drink from, each time making a gal a little more cynical; a little more bitter, a little less of the GFE we want.

What you did was not about your nut. It was about authority. A poor premise for anyone looking for that next date.

Hey you do not know what kind of inconvience he had due to her cancellation. So why don't you shut the f**k up!

If Miss Larue was in such pain and suffering migranes then maybe she should not have attended the party Huh!!.

Most of us know, or at least know of, LaRue enough to realize that igottaask was being a horse's ass.

I can understand his disappointment in her having to cancel.  You build anticipation for the fun time to be had, and *poof*, it's gone.  It sucks, but that's life.  We've all been there.  But, the tale of who he is is told by his reaction.  He screamed "its all about me", and to a certain extent that's OK in the pay-4-play environment.  But he took it to the level where it intersects REAL life.

He probably hurt her feelings, but I'm confident she'll get past it.  The damage he's done to his reputation won't heal as quickly.  And that's OK by me.

I've been watching this controversy unfold for  several days now & one question has not been addressed : when Igottaask couldn't meet with LaRue, why didn't he ask to be fixed up w/ Stevie Sands ( who she works with ),or some other provider that she knows ? Hell---that's what I would have done-----publicly complaining
about a provider who has the common courtesy to cancel out due to health problems, is a very selfish/stupid thing to do on the part of this hobbyist. Apparently he's not the sharpest knife in the drawer. I think SOMEONE is gonna land on the blacklist of many Vegas providers----

Lastly, though I've never met Larue, she's very highly regarded by the hobbyists here & seems to be a very nice person. I wish her the best of luck on her upcoming surgery & hope she feels better soon.

No one has said that what happened was not a shame! Inconvenience? Yes, of course! What about wasted time that could have been spent enjoying some of the other enjoyable activities that Vegas offers? What about wasted expense? Some guys bring their family to Vegas with them! Then they have to book another room for their party with a provider! We DO know how frustrating a late cancellation can be for a hobbyist! In fact, most of us have had that happen at one time or another! If we don't have a backup plan, our whole trip to Vegas can feel like a miserable experience, especially if we were not lucky at the tables either!

What we are all saying is that Igottoask had good reason to be unhappy, but that he should NOT have blamed LaRue and castigated her on the board the way he did! We have all heard of some girls who wouldn't even have called him in a situation like that! LaRue really wanted to make that date, which is why she waited until an hour before to make that call, I'm sure. As soon as she realized that her pain was too unbearable to give him the great experience he was expecting, and to which she felt he was entitled, she DID call him! I'm sure that call was very difficult for her. She was in pain and she felt bad to be delivering an unwelcome message, I bet! By doing that, she has once again shown herself to be a sweetheart, a selfless trooper, and a true professional! What could she have done that would have been better?

LaRue, I also hope and pray that you will feel much better soon! I hope your operation is relatively painless and very successful! You are still on my short list! I look forward to your return! In the mean time, I hope it helps you to know that you have a lot of friends who care about you!

T.L.

I think the number of times a provider is no showed is a lot more than the number of times it happens to us. In those cases there is no phone call, no calling sick, just a no show. That can also be very expensive for the provider, in time, and lost chances.

 We have it so much easier, and should quit acting like spoiled children.

Everyone would grow up and honor their commitments.  I'll know I'm there when I win Megabucks twice in a week.  Until then, it's a fact of life; it sucks, but getting over it helps you get through the day with a lot less stress.

thank you for backing me up on this...what would i do without my wonderful friends and fans from TER....

Always,
LaRue

Blue balls don't require surgery like LaRue's problems do.

And, well, she showed at that party because she's a trouper, and there were several friends/longtime clients she made through the hobby there. But I could tell she was in pretty serious pain, and had she decided NOT to attend, I suspect none of us would have complained a whit.

Hello ,

I am sure that LaRue is the best person and provider around, I am not qualified to comment on this, but it seems that with the support coming out for her it has to be so.

My question still has not been answered, if you were in so much pain that it required surgery(any surgery is a big deal) maybe it was not the best idea to be out at a meet and great right.?

It is obvious that your fans would have understood if you could not attend right.?  

I understand LaRue's point very well, but I do not think that the gentleman who was cancelled on with an hours notice is being understood properly.  It is his right to say so if he wishes , and maybe the rest of us should just stay the f**k out of their business.

Hey Delmar1 buddy.....why don't you shut the fu-k up.  Even though you seem too incapable of walking a mile in anothers shoes, give it a try. She shouldn't be called on the carpet and asked to explain herself for jack shit.  She's a stellar provider, with an excellent reputation and anyone who has a problem with what went down must be perfect.  I have never met a perfect person. We are human and have our ups and downs.  It's the natural way of things. Your post is nothing but an advertisment of a less than perfect person. It's a blatant advertisment for "DUMB ASSHOLE."  Maybe we should bottle a cologne named that. Similar to the AXE commercials for mens body sprays and call it exactly that....DUMB ASSHOLE COLOGNE.  Ha. that's good shit. You could hand out the little tester spray papers for it at the mall.
Love to you LaRue
xoxoxoxoxo
AJ

-- Modified on 11/16/2007 6:51:21 PM

I agree with Priapus53's post.  Stuff happens and seeing if LaRue could arrange a substitute would have been a very suitable request in this situation.  

I do have one question which has so far went unanswered in this situation.  What did Igottaask expect to accomplish by handling his complaint in the manner choosen.  Attacking an established and highly regarded provider, who happens to have a valid reason for canceling, in a public forum is just dumb.  Did Igottaask expect people to agree with his stance?  Doubt it.  I am sensing a common name being added to DNS lists all over Vegas.

I have never meet LaRue but I wish her well in her recovery and hope to meet her someday.

I think the problem everyone is having is with the way the situation was handled in such a public manner. If Igottoask wanted to make a comment to LaRue about what happened, then maybe he should have done so in a more private manner. He chose to do so publicly, with a provider who has an excellent reputation, and was trying to see if she could go on with the appointment. Alas, she was unable to keep the appointment, but she had the courtesy and professionalism to call and let him know. We all know that there are many providers who would "no show", rather than call. It seems to me that everyone is jumping all over Igottoask, and I am one of them. But my reasoning is based strictly on how he went about it. I too would be upset if I was in the same situation. But I like to think that I would have the decency to be more discreet in my handling of it, and hopefully with more tact. And, knowing LaRue the little that I do, and knowing that she is a beautiful person, I will stick to my guns and defend her, even though she needs no defending, as LaRue can most assuredly handle this on her own. I am sorry if this is throwing gasoline on the fire, but that is just my opinion.

Happy Thanksgiving to all,

B.

1. Everybody thinks they're going to get better - until they don't.
2. It wasn't a Meet & Greet. It was a commitment for good friends.
3. Whatever any other reason, the constant here is that a lot of folks do not doubt she had good reason. It is not up to her to convince you, the point is that more than a few are annoyed that any further convincing would be necessary.

Remember, she didn't no-show. She called responsibly enough. This fellow being rude with her and selfish when she says she's in pain is a far lower act than any possibility that she may have been lying to him for some unknown reason.

You are free to doubt her honesty on this issue. If you do it publicly, others are free to flame or DNS you. My advice is to consider how many reputable folks on this board have rushed to speak in support of her, and make your own opinion. Privately, so I can close this thread.

thx

I've hung with & met at several m&g's & even delta with a matter or two of the personal level with her. she has never been anything but helpful, charming & sweet no matter what the situation was. I'm not sure what exactly her medical issue is but it sounds a lot like something i w nt thru years ago after a car accident i was in. so i understand & wish her the best as well as will keep her in my prayers. the treatments have come a long way but are far from perfect for this. while some medication may take the edge off of the pain it doesn't always get rid of it esp not enough to perform as she would have been expected to do. Considering that I feel she did the right thing in cancling & for someone to complain openly about it consisering the circumstances, yea he's ass.

I recently Went thru with an apt when I wasn't feeling 100% myself & even tho the guy was very happy twice while he was here he wrote a nasty review on me. Oh well such is life but had I seen into the future I know now i should have cancled & maybe referred him to someone else. So see either way sometimes it doesn't matter because too many guys think with the selfish little head & don't consider the bigger picture at all.

sometimes your just damed if ya do & damed if ya don't.

She will always be a great provider & a wonderful friend no matter what anyone else thinks in the eys of those of us who call her a friend.

You have met ONE perfect person.  Oh, and I'm cute, and shy too.

Give me a white knight any day!!!

Why do providers make appointments with people when they are not feeling well?

A cervical neck injury your provider friend suffered is a very serious injury. That kind of injury LaRue has she should not even be taking clients. The neck injury she has could have gotten even worse if she carried out with the appointment. Everyone hopes LaRue gets better. You guys were too hard on igottaask for bringing up a cancelation on a discussion board.  

We all know some of these providers are your friends, but when you never take a fair evaluation of a situation it doesn't look good.

-- Modified on 11/19/2007 4:26:52 PM

Do you honestly think they're going to stop making future appointments every time they're not feeling well? They've got bills to pay like everybody else.

But I warned everyone it was a white knight post.

I didn't jump to conclusions, though, or attempt to diagnose the injury. I simply chastised a fellow for being rude to a lady (whom I don't know any better than any other acquaintance, and whom I have no aspirations to impress or gain favor).

In my book it was a fair and correct evaluation: The man behaved poorly to a woman when she told him she was in pain.

The fact that he chose to bring "their business" onto a public forum makes it our business too. Igottaask has the right to say anything that he wishes, very true...and SO DO WE. Your demand that we STFU implies that you feel that we don't have the right to hold him accountable for what he says...just because you happen to agree with him.
Erm... sorry, free speech and accountability go hand in hand.  

Hey, it could have been worse...at least we didn't throw your buddy into a bottomless pit