Interesting article...do you think it's true?

Are men more distressed by physical infidelity than women?

Are women more distressed by emotional infidelity than men?

Points to ponder....

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I think the points you raised in your post are consistent with my experience.  For a noteworthy example, look at David Vitter, senator from Louisiana.  He was caught in the DC Madam scandal and his wife stood by him.  Saved his political bacon.  

The ex-governor, Spitzer, had a very different experience and is now divorced. In that instance, his wife gave up a very lucrative career on Wall Street to be a political wife.  I could see how the physical betrayal would be particularly damaging.

Men, face it we're all pigs, are much more motivated by the physical aspects of a relationship.  Women by the emotional.

From an evolutionary perspective this gender difference makes sense.
Traditionally men preferred not to support children that weren't their own which could result from physical infidelity.
Traditionally women wanted support from the father of their child, and that support would be more threatened by emotional infidelity.
How do providers and hobbyists justify their roles?  What proportion of each are in significant relationships?  My sense is that fewer providers than hobbyists are.  Am I wrong?

Interesting points...tho, did Spitzer fall in love?...are you saying that was his downfall?

When news breaks of infidelity, if the woman is single, she alone wears the scarlet letter.  It seems that people whisper about the man, "can't believe he did that?", "why did he do that""..."why didn't he cover his tracks?"...and then they move on after a few days or a couple of weeks.  Whereas, the woman involved is called a homewrecker, a slut, a tramp, a whore...and she pays the price in society forever after.  While men are busy high~fiving the philanderer for his prowess, the woman in question is shunned or called names.

I always imagined if I were to have a husband who cheated, I would rather it be physical than emotional.  This is because I find that in the emotional realm is where true intimacy resides.

Personally, I don't feel the need to justify my role.  This is only because I do find the proof is in the pudding.  I offer an escape from reality.  I help people.  I am a healer.  I don't want my client to leave his family or significant other.  I just want him to be happy for a while, while he is in my company...and then we part ways.  I understand my role, and it doesn't involve taking someone away from their home life.  I want to send a man back to his significant other smiling and stress free.

I am not in a relationship, currently.  At this time in my life, t is by choice.  I am focused on my own personal growth and goals, currently.  When I have been in a relationship while continuing my professional life, I've found it takes a man who has a very strong mind to understand what I do and how I do it; the separation I have between my professional life versus my personal life is immense.  And, mine is mirrored in the services I offer, as well.  I save some things that are very special and very intimate, to me, for my personal life

his trip I had a photo taken of me in an "old style" photo booth. We were kissing and smiling.  It looked really sweet, I felt like a teenager again.  

I had to leave that photo in Vegas, if my wife ever saw it she would b major hurt.  

Now all the "other" photos, you know, slutty poses, and some "action" shots; those she understands, but the sweet romantic pictures kissing in a photo booth ?

No way, my hobby days would be over.

I must have picked the exact wrong moment to click.

I think that Spitzer, like Tiger Woods, was living an entirely different life.  I think that figures into it.  I think his wife had more reason to feel betrayed because she was a woman of substantial accomplishment prior to marrying him.  If a wealthy heir/heiress plucked a waiter/waitress from a just getting by existence, the one just getting by probably has less to complain about.  Doesn't mean it doesn't hurt, just means you got to live rich for awhile.  Spitzer's wife didn't need him.  She was a successful attorney on Wall Street and gave up that life for him.  I would be very bitter in that situation.

As for Spitzer falling in love...

I have yet to meet a politician who didn't see the love of his life in the mirror every morning.

Thanks for that.  To me its much better than having an affair where the emotions get involved.