If I want to get an Asian girlfriend, is regularly banging Asian hookers preventing me from getting an Asian girlfriend?

I feel like I’m taking the easy way out, and not forcing myself to go find Asian girls out in the wild. What are your thoughts? Have you found this to be the case or the opposite?

Not to mention all the money I am spending, and we know Asian girls love money. I feel like it would be a good investment to forego kgirls for a month or two and spend that money on a trip to Asia.

Thoughts?

Everyone is different. For some people, banging kgirls helps them with their drab sex life with SOs. For some it helps loneliness. For some, it's a complement. For some, it's a substitute.

 
If you feel like it's a substitute and you're falling and never trying to date or just fuck some civvies... better stop and re-evaluate your life goals imo. But again, only you can make an evaluation that is pertitent to you. Some folks are fine with combining the two and so forth. There is no right answer here. Sex and working girls can only get you so far imo, but then it's pretty damn far as far as primal instinct and sex drive is concerned.  

 
This probably was of no help whatsoever, but I tried....

Why not try both on separate tracks?

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so saying you're looking for an Asian GF narrows it down to some 2 billion of so? First think you need to ask is why Asian for a GF. Seeing Asian escorts/hookers is not setting you up to relate with Asian women.  

 
I don't really think seeing Asian escorts is preventing you from searching for a real world Asian GF -- but might be if you let it. So perhaps your thought might be one approach. That said, before you spend a bunch of money on ticket somewhere on the other side of the world I would suggest checking out the many social network sites related to meeting Asians of all types (Korean, Filipino, Thai, Chinese, Japanese, Malay, Indonesian, Indian, Viet....). Google Cupid and your preferred nationality/ethnicity and you'll get started on that path.

 
You will run into a lot of scammers on Cupid and similar sites so be sure to do your due diligence and image look ups. While a good indication you are getting setup is if they quickly start telling you about how they need you to send some money that is not a certain sign. A lot of these women are living in poor countries and struggling to get by so praying the can meet a well off westerner who can support them. That said, most are not just there to be some paid home slave and do have a lot of personal pride so it's not just about the money. Respect is still important -- both respect that is given and the self-respect they can have themselves.

 
Going back to the "Why Asian?" question. If you are not somewhat informed regarding history and culture of your place of interest you're probably basing your desire on some type of (romantic?) stereotype rather than reality. Hopping on a plane and showing up without any basic understanding you're going to be a fish out of water. Finding a foreign GF is something of a long-term plan so you might consider looking for some language-culture exchange opportunities locally (Meetups) or online. You'll find plenty of Asian's interested in improving their English and more than happy to share something about their culture and country.  You might even find someone via that route.

Civvie Asian girls love money just as much as working Asian girls.  Your success in Asia with anything other than sex worker will be doubtful unless you are from the same nationality as the country in which you want to fish for a girlfriend.  In a limited time period of a few months, I'm not sure what the odds are of finding your soulmate among Asian civvies, but I think they are substantial based on my own experiences overseas.  I have had better luck visiting retired Kgirls in Seoul for periods of 2 weeks to a month.  I pay for everything we do, just like I would a civvie girl, but no direct compensation for her time UNLESS she invites me to stay at her place, and then I will give her a little towards the rent while I'm there.  It's kind of hot fucking your innkeeper as long as it's a good-looking woman.  

 
Here's an alternative . . . . . why not just make one of your regulars an outside girlfriend?  I've done it successfully over a dozen times for anywhere from 3 months to a year.  I've had a few marriages that were shorter than that, so 3 months CAN seem like a long time with one woman.   The more she loves you, the longer it will work, but if she doesn't love you, then the more you give her, the longer it will work.  Something to think about.

I have an asian S/O. Lets just say she really cares about $$.  
I really don't see problem banging them and trying to find an asian GF.  
One youre trying to create a connection and the other is your getting laid with no connection.

It really comes down to what kind Asian civvies you are looking for in a girlfriend.  Although money gives you more options,  it is not always the deciding factor.  Most Americanized or somewhat westernized  chicks care more about your status and potential.  By status I am referring to having a degree from a good school and/or coming from a good family and having a good job/career.   All my civvies are professionals who earned more  than me, but I was able to complement them with my education, having a good job (though I earned less), and they were impressed by my brief stint in the service.  It really comes down to your personality, how you present yourself,  make them feel, and whether they see you as spousal material.  

If you are thinking about going to Asia to find a girlfriend, Thailand is probably your best bet.   The odds are against you in  China, Japan, and Korea, unless you go into the rural areas.  

My advice is to keep fucking Kgirls, until you find a  civvie girlfriend who will  puts out.

"Your success in Asia with anything other than sex worker will be doubtful unless you are from the same nationality as the country in which you want to fish for a girlfriend.  "

So how are white guys getting laid left and right in Asia? I see reports and youtube videos etc of white/nonAsian guys setting up Tinder or similar and cleaning up.... this does not jive with your experience?

White guys are idolized in Asian countries, and back home, most ABGs and FOBs are looking for them as well. CDL is speaking out of his ass again.

"Why not just make one of your regulars an outside girlfriend?"  

First of all, there are like 2 non-touring girls in NOVA. Second of all, it's cost-prohibitive and unsustainable. Not everyone wants to monger for 20+ years.

It was about finding a girlfriend.  Read his post and then read mine.  I said he is not going to find a soulmate in a few weeks time, but since SK has a higher percentage than almost any other county when it comes to women who have been sex workers at some point in their lives, getting laid is not particularly difficult.  Tell us how many of those guys in Youtube videos went home after a few weeks with a bride?  Once a girl has been a sex worker, it's much easer for them to justify trying to hustle a white American with a little free pussy.  Just remember that the more you spend on them, the more they will love you, but I don't think that's the kind of girl the OP was looking for.  

Floorchump speaks out of his ass, but CDL speaks from EXPERIENCE.  Read my response to Sunny.  

for everyone, but apparently, by your own admission in bring this point up, it is for you.   If I lived in Nova, I would give one of your two girls a try as outside GF, maybe both, if they met all of the criteria on my checklist for an outside GF.  Of course, WE have to meet all of the criteria on THEIR checklists, too.  Apparently, you don't.   Who said anything about 20 years?  I said they typically are of a relatively short duration, as relationships go generally.  I'm just talking about giving them a little taste of a normal life, which they don't get from their work.  Do you see now that your lack of experience makes you say shit that is just plain naive and stupid?   You need to hit your parents up for an increase in your allowance.  (And you're not the only one here)  Lol

You might find the link here of interest on the whole question of Korean attitudes towards dating and relationships with non-Koreans.

I would be interested in seeing the link. It seems that you forgot to add it to your post

I should have -- and now I cannot find the one I had before.  But this one references the same source as the other did (A book by one of the guys that started up the Cupid network using the statistics from their data.)

 
I has some of the same insights as the first one but just not a clearly made. The other one actually provided some statistics on intercultural dating by Koreans (both men and women) but seemed to reflect what this one says about preferences. Given the data source there is probably a bias towards attitudes of the younger people (guessing the under 40 dominates and there is still some skew to younger age)

 
Relevant to the original question -- in terms of Asians women in general, there often is a bias towards "white" guys. Pale skin points to NA and Europe (though Ausies and Kiwis get included I suspect). The developed nations and comes with a (right or wrong) assumption of wealthy rich guys who are not as patriarchal as most Asian men. This is likely a stronger effect in the less developed/poorer countries in Asia. Actually, I should be more precise, South East Asia but would not be surprised it holds more widely.

The line I quoted in the Subject box is so funny — typical CDL humor!  

when I just state the facts it comes off funnier than if I had TRIED to say something funny.  LOL

Are you talking about "Asian" or Korean? If you go to Thailand or the Philippines then yeah you can flaunt around your average American salary. If you go to South Korean you will just look like some dumb foreigner, they won't even let you into any of the clubs.

Civvie women can spot a guy who seems desperate for pussy a mile away, so I always make sure I see a Kgirl the day before a civvie date.  

 
Your assessment of Asian preferences in men is spot on, as well.  An advanced college degree, military service, and owning my own business have always proven to get the interest of Asian women, whether they are civvies or working girls.  If you AND the girl are very young and you're working on a graduate degree, they may consider you to have "potential" and accept you even though you are still relying on your parents for partial support.  I know many younger guys (under 30) who found a girl their own age who are still working on their Masters or a PHD that have bagged a DDG Asian civvie girlfriend.  Some will even pay more than their half to live with you until you finish school.  

 
I also agree with your point about Thai girls being the best bet.  Many of the Thai girls I see in London are girls that originally came into the country as the girlfriend of a British citizen.  

I would also add staying in shape  through a rigorous exercise regiment and maintaining a healthy diet really helps with finding a relationship with civvies.   Otherwise try and look good for your age group as the COVID lockdowns have taken its toll on everyone in California.

Although it’s getting harder ever year as I get older, I make sure I could pass the AFPT with the standards set for an 18 year old male.

Note-This may not necessarily apply to working girls, since they may see your good looks  as being too good for them in the real world.