There is a current provider in particular who I've come to believe has mastered the art of GFE which essentially has become the secret sauce of her tremendous success.  Her ability to create such a "realistic" GFE Fantasy with her clients of choice have caused some to become so addicted to her like a crack head's craving for .....  Many of you who are "addicts" of this wonderful provider know exactly who I'm talking about.  

As an example, she accomplishes this "realistic" fantasy with soft whispers of  "I love you" directly in to ones ears during your intimate love making or "I miss you already" as one is standing behind the door preparing to leave.  
These simple gestures although seemingly innocent is delivered in "such" a convincing way, one truly feels a "deep" connection is being established and in your head...you're the only one she expresses this too.  

The issue is that this along with a combination of other subtle physical innuendos can cause a false sense of reality and thus create a tremendous emotional struggle for some who then cannot differentiate reality from fantasy.  Being this "hooked" can lead to sleepless nights, insecurities and jealousy.  

My question is....should there be a line drawn, which the provider should "not" cross in acts of intentionally "over delivering" the GFE experience and creating emotional confusion & instability for those individuals who lack the ability to compose themselves emotionally.

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Forgetting boundaries is obviously a serious problem on both sides, and each could end up with all kinds of woes.

But on the other hand, to have an experience that lands you head over heels is something that I would always want.

It may be one of those questions for the ages, like when Homer wrote of Odysseus being bound to the mast of his ship while his crew had their ears plugged with wax so that he alone could hear the song of the Sirens

For me, there is no such thing as too much GFE.  The better and more realistic the experience, the more likely I am to repeat, or in some cases, to become a regular.  Its up to the hobbyist to understand that this is an entertainment service, and if they are too emotionally fragile, lonely, or lacking in experience with women to keep things in perspective, then I agree that things are likely to get out of hand for them.  But then you come back to the question of us all being grownups, and its up to each of us to set out own terms and conditions for hobbying in a way that we can enjoy ourselves WITHOUT going off the deep end into thinking its all real.  We cannot be our brother's keeper, so imposing or suggesting limitations on the service to keep a provider from "crossing a line" will impair the enjoyment for those of us that can handle whatever she can dish out just in order to protect the emotionally fragile among us.  Sounds like a big-brother approach to me.  This is not a good hobby for those that cannot distinguish between fantasy and reality.

I don't think there is or should be a "GFE line" drawn for a session.  Part of what I pay for, what I *know* I'm paying for, is the fantasy.  For that one hour (or 90 minutes), I'm the king of her world.  And she, mine. (Well, princess, LOL).  I WANT her to act like she is happy to see my, relishes our time together, and hates to see me go.  I like to lose myself into a session so it seems like I'm the only person she does this for.  And if she wants to whisper sweet nothings into my ear, or have cuddle-time pillow talk in the afterglow, all's the better.

But check my words above:  "act"; "fantasy"; "seems like"; and "session."  I'm under no illusions that her next date will have the opportunity to be treated the same way.

In deference to the girl, I try to follow her lead.  Some K-girls are more comfortable with the script and the last thing I want to do is force some pillow talk cuddle time with a girl who's obviously just ready to get me showered and dressed and out the door.  But I do my homework and let the reviews guide me as to how mechanical vs. GFE a girl might be, and try to pick my spots.

Perhaps it's easier for a DC area guy such as myself.  None of the K-girls around here (except one, that I'm aware of), stick around.  2 weeks only; 3 max, and then off to the next city.  There's no real chance for a fellow to take a GFE girl more seriously than he should.

Part of the goal of this post was to enact the effects of "splashing cold water" on to ones face.  It was intended to collect input from other members and to put it out in the open forum for those who "are" struggling quietly, to read, process the information and re-evaluate their emotional and hobbying circumstances.  I appreciate everyone's input thus far.

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total understanding and lack of confusion about what's really going on, and still getting the most you can out of it.  Good post.  

I'm not sure which girl the OP is speaking of, because there are dozens that fit his description of outstanding over-the-top GFE service that feels real WHILE YOU'RE THERE.  We all have our favorites.

It's her job to create the fantasy (though you should certainly participate in the effort) but it's you're job to control your emotional state when you walk out the door.

So in terms of these emotional/psychological devices no line should be imposed. You can read the thread below to think about physical actions that one might say should be lines not to cross.

If that is your goal, let me spell it out plainly for those that need help.  If the girl took your envelope, it is service and nothing more than part of the fantasy.  

I don't know which girl you are talking about either, but I would like to since I generally prefer gfe providers. If I haven't seen her I will put her on my TDL

Nor do I ever plan on growing up, EVER. lol

but I mainly agree with the rest of your post.

I have found that some girls are so good at the GFE "act" it's actually had me fooled a couple of times, especially considering the fact that I am quite open to "dating" providers and have dated several over the years.  

It's usually pretty easy to tell if a girl is sincere with the pap she serves you. Lets take the case of a K-girl who asks for your number and then contacts you with an "I miss you" text. The first thought that goes through a lot of guys minds is that yes she does indeed miss me and maybe she "really likes me". So you respond, "I miss you too, can't wait to see you again" The next text is usually when you find out the truth, it's when instead of texting you back with "I get off work at 9PM tonight, would you like to take me to dinner" you get a  text that says "I would really like to see you again, I have openings at 2 PM and 4 PM if you would like to make an appointment"  That's when fantasy runs right into reality. lol

Even the most experienced of us. But it's like a narcotic. You HAVE to go back for more.

I've had two of my friends fall in love with strippers when we were out once. My friends kept going to the atm. I was ready to leave but they kept saying, "no, she really likes me." I told them, no she likes your money. Duh