Have had a couple over the years. One we used to have good conversations and it was very GFE. Saw her after a few months of my inactivity and she got very mechanical. Seen her a few times over the years but after a few years in the business she’s gotten a little jaded. The other one was a regular and she would even make gifts for my daughter, she mentioned that I had gotten fat and that just shut me down to her anymore. Yep I put on a few cause of some medications but dam I’m paying for the fantasy not a reminder why I’m not getting attention in the real world.
I had this thought in my head last week. Not to make ourselves sound needy but its true, being taken for granted. One of my ATF's that Ive seen at least a dozen times just goes through the motions now. More scripted and mechanical and it never was that way but by visit number 8 I sensed it. Its probably best that it does happen, that way you keep hunting for something new. I dont believe in ATF anymore. The most Ill see a hot one is 3 times.
For me, weight gain or falling out of shape is the primary reason an ex-ATF loses their allure. Call me particular, but I have an undeniable preference for slender, skinny beauties.
After my ATF "retired" after the COVID episode a few years ago, I thought I found her replacement, but then she disappeared without a trace. Another well-known gal in the Northern VA area popped up, but she " ghosted" me on an appointment when I was already parked at her doorstep. So........ yeah.....she falls off my Top 3
Gotta have: > Chemistry (doesn't have to be a 10, but I have to be attracted to her!) > Enthusiasm (she's gotta be glad to see me, or at least act like it!) > Promptness (ghosting after a confirmed appt where I'm there waiting? huh!) Not too much to ask, right?
But for one of my top favorites when that became noticeable I did two things. One, took a little bit of a break and then when I saw her again I make an effort to change things up a bit. Seems to have worked well and the following year and a bit sessions were again very enjoyable and not just going through the motions.
Clearly that is not going to work all the time and sometimes things/relationships, even transactional ones like this, do just get in a rut, stay the same and become boring, and you feel you're taken for granted.
I think we need to keep in mind that although she may be your ATF, you are probably not her ATF. Just imagine all that she has to choose from, which is far more of a field than you. Also, unless you're on your death-bed, the next one could just as easily become your new ATF, so I think we should coin a phrase "ATFSO" (All-Time-Favorite-So-Far) and accept the fact that things change on both sides, and move on. For example, my ATF was Nami, then Jenna, Pink, Reah, Beka, White, Lucky, Kona, ...?? As for the feeling of being under-appreciated or taken advantage of, I can't see why anyone would short-change themselves by thinking this way. You gave her what you were willing to give, and she gave you what she could in return. Should we expect emotional loyalty just because we gave them some disposable material gifts? Now, if you married her and provided for her every need, that would be a different story, but I don't think that is the case here. I think we should just be happy that they took our money and gifts in exchange for some personal enjoyment. Just my 2-cents.
Some are manipulative and can still make you feel like you're their "atf" but then after a while, you won't feel like they're trying as hard as they did in the beginning.
That's why I say, never focus on one and always keep your options open. It's our money so we should always have backups and a few girls on our rotation.
As I mentioned I dropped my ATF. Felt like I was being taken for granted. Quickly replaced my former ATF with another. Wow my new ATF is hotter and down to earth. We've already spent a night out. Hope this ATF sticks around.
I was seeing this young lady, she was gorgeous, body was a prefect 10, unbelievable skills, but then one day she didn’t get in to it like she did the other times, I chalked it up as a bad day, but then the next time same thing and this continues until I figure she probably brunt out, because of how beautiful she is I’m pretty sure she get a tone of business, it can’t be easy for these ladies who see a lot of guys to give a top natch performance every time,it’s to bad because I really liked her, I would give her 1500 every time I saw her that’s how awesome she was!
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