I am beginning to think that all this coverage (pardon the pun) that blacklisting is getting is essentially equivalent to clickbait.
Blacklisting sounds horrible. And, when and if it happens, it is not fun. From what I’ve seen actual blacklisting, especially the nearly mythical global blacklist “you’ll never monger in this town again” is very rare. When I was helping to run a monger forum I had a few mongers on the forum who had been blacklisted from an org come to me and ask advice. Every time I was able to show them how to resolve their issue and clear the blacklist over time. But it does virtually always require the monger to recognize and own the fact that they made mistakes (though sometimes quite minor) that led to the blacklisting. I have known only one monger who simply could not accept that fact.
Can blacklisting occur because of a misunderstanding on the part of someone at the org? Certainly. People have bad days. But it’s quite unusual for that to happen if the monger has actually done nothing to trigger the response. Frankly, though I know it is possible, I’ve never looked into any such occurrence where the monger had no responsibility for the problem.
Blacklisting, in my experience, is one of the most preventable issues in mongering. But only for people who are willing to change their behavior.
Still, even with independent girls misunderstandings occur that result in a girl blocking a particular monger’s calls. This is a risk that can only be minimized in the sex industry. You just can’t eliminate it entirely.
Except to the die hard BBFS fans out there, wearing a condom is a no brainer precaution that has very significant benefits to all involved. The same type of thinking that leads a monger to always wear a condom is involved when modifying monger behavior to reduce the risk of being blacklisted.
I am fully aware of the self proclaimed “pro monger” advocate (is there more than one?) who would be outraged at the suggestion that a monger might be at fault (innocently or otherwise) for getting blacklisted. They are entitled to their beliefs. And the consequences that come with acting in accordance to those beliefs.
If we want to have a discussion on blacklisting, though, we should be responsible forum members and start a dedicated thread on the topic. I’ll be happy to repost this if someone thinks there is actual reason for further discussion and starts a thread.
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