K-girls

Re: I've been
badger48 153 Reviews 1551 reads
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1 / 12

So, you meet the Kgirl and it's a swinging session, they all are.
Good chemistry and better sex, "The Honeymoon" phase!
A few months go by and you see her every 7 or 10 days, never under two hours for your sessions.

The next visit, you enter, and start one of the many ways you've been doing since the first time you met.
But something is off, it's like you can't get going, is it that you feel bad for the Kgirl and the work she does.
There's a real high percentage, in the upper 90's, she would not do this with you if it weren't for the money.

Where I'm going with this is you really like her, not love or in love, you just like her as a person, you've probably learned a good amount about her and kinda feel bad that she is in P4P and you just can't get started or into the session/playtime!

I guess you are cock blocking yourself!!

Any experiences or thoughts?

mrfisher 115 Reviews 78 reads
posted
2 / 12

found in some salesmen, who after a long and successful relationship with a client, start to doubt themselves and let their game go south, thus losing the client.

It's called the "will to starve to death".

Psychotherapy is usually recommended.

In this case, I would say with a sex therapist.

team_rocket_qwerty 35 Reviews 73 reads
posted
3 / 12

Not the question I wanted to bring up but probably should be asked.  

 
I would say it's somewhat similar to my lust/affection dilemma, but in my case I just have worse sex and/or performance when I have strong affection, because my mind is rerouted in a certain way. Ie, I like animal style sex but it's not something I'd do with someone whom I have strong feelings for.

I don't know. My advice would be to ask girl otc. If she declines (most likely scenario) then just see someone else.  

 
When you're trying to save them is where it all will go wrong.  
Imo

badger48 153 Reviews 84 reads
posted
4 / 12

saving anyone, it's not like that.
You can have the sex, just not down 'n' dirty.
As for the other Kgirls, first and second sessions are best*, even though you 'click', you just don't have a strong/deeper connection with them. And you can walk away easier because a connection hasn't been built up, it's a straight up client, provider relationship.

Now, a question for the Rocket.
IMO, strong feelings should not stop you from having any kind of sex you, she or both of you want and build up to.

The question:
 You never started a relationship just holding hands and ended up with wild sex with the girl that lets you know that it's on with anything, anytime, anywhere, and means it? And you go for it?

 
She drops her clutch bag at the restaurant and gives you head under the table, hits the stop button in the elevator and shows you she is sans panties or you ask for anal and she says, in a sexy voice with wild eyes, "YES, Daddy", as she brings that special oil out of that clutch bag! Any Time, Place or Where!!
Wow, kinda got into that^^!

Happened to me quite a while back, started kind of Ozzie 'n' Harriet and ended up XXX rated!

 
Nothing to ask, she is good with whatever I want, it's me that is thinking too much.
Last week was 85% back to our regular style session, I will see what this week brings.

 

*Well first and second visits with 99% are best.

badger48 153 Reviews 78 reads
posted
5 / 12

using the Kgirls as sex therapists off and on for awhile.

36363jensen 4 Reviews 90 reads
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6 / 12

Why does this make me think of a Green Day song?

team_rocket_qwerty 35 Reviews 78 reads
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7 / 12

I mean you yourself said you're starting to feel bad for her after a few visits. So how do you reconcile this feeling? It just goes away?

 
As far as your question. I think it's complicated because of my sex addiction, and how my relationships have been with mostly girls who weren't into p0rn type of animal sex but rather pretty vanilla. It's more of a personal thing though, not p4p related. I enjoy vigorous and "animal" sex the most hence me seeing a lot of service queen girls.

36363jensen 4 Reviews 83 reads
posted
8 / 12

Going back and rereading the OP and this comment. Certainly many things could be going on but have you considered just the old "familiarity breeds contempt" avenue? If you've seen her a lot and frequently sometimes it's just hard not to feel you're in some type of a rut. I know I've had that feeling with some ATFs over the years. Most of the time I find that just taking a break (leveraging the old "absence make the heart grow fonder", knowing that we're not talking about love in the fairy tale/classic love story sense)?

 
Some times you have to step back to see what you were appreciating before. Is that some form of self-cock-blocking? IDK, maybe but I've certainly found that the thrill can return to after it seems to have faded a bit. If that is what you're hoping for maybe try a sabbatical for a while.

badger48 153 Reviews 82 reads
posted
9 / 12

I said we met and after a few months of weekly sessions, I was getting to know her more than just a SW, I felt kinda bad and couldn't get going with our regular wild sessions. I couldn't follow through; it was not on her at all.
So, I don't know where you get your "after a few visits I felt bad". All was well and *one* day it went south in my head.
There was no build up to the way I felt.

 
I said my last session was back to 85% of our regular session style. 85%, IMO, is the situation reconciled and the other 15% ain't that far off. I just went in with the old mindset.

 
You said when you have a strong affection, [feelings?] your sex/performance isn't the best because you can't get down 'n' dirty. Like soiling the one you really like/love.  
I just thought you were talking about a civie GF.
I was talking about my O & H style to XXX with civie GF's and why can't anyone go from vanilla and build up to wet 'n' wild?

badger48 153 Reviews 91 reads
posted
10 / 12

taking a break can work, depending on the situation, I didn't think about doing that.
The sessions were fun in other areas, just parts of the sex were off.  
So, I just kept booking her, got "my mind right", and I am back on track, at least 85%^^!

 
Curious, sabbatical from her or Kgirls?

36363jensen 4 Reviews 82 reads
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11 / 12
team_rocket_qwerty 35 Reviews 77 reads
posted
12 / 12

Well, ok, not sure whyre youre picking on my wording there.

The point is, you arrived at an instance where you felt bad for her and that she wouldn't be doing this with you if it wasn't for money. You said so yourself. So I just asked how do you end up reconciling this feeling. I guess it just went awaythe next time, so that's good.  

 
For me, if I ever get such feelings they sit at the back of my mind. However, me engaging in p4p to start with kinda means I have to put such feelings away. Ie at least to me it would be hypocritical to feel sorry for the girl as I'm jackhammering her balls deep. I'd either have to pull out and not see her in general or just shrug those feelings off. Having both of them is not good because it kinda implicates myself as being a part of the problem. Not saying it applies to you or anyone else, but that's how I see it and how I reason.  

 
Yeah you assessed my post right I was taking more about gf. But again, it's just how my brain is wired. I guess decades of pr0n, sex addiction, gang bang parties etc. Took their toll on how I view sex. When I have feelings for a girl I want to hug and cuddle more than I want animal sex. She can make it sexy, but it doesn't compare to "walk in, girl drops on her knees takes your dick out and dts herself with it". Perhaps it could change with more sex-crazed girls in my relationships. Idk.

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