"How many guys are falling in love with YOUR ATF and fucking her this week."  What's her name?  

Sometimes it works out OK.   I met a gal over 20 years ago, we got married about 13 years ago, still going strong.    On the other hand, we live 1,500 miles apart, so i think that helps.   She is totally cool with my hobbying lifestyle.

 
On the other hand, there were some real flame-outs which, given the circumstances, is totally understandable.    

 
My advice:   Tread lightly, give it time, don't over play your cards.   Enjoy it.   Remember to breathe.  

 
Oh, and if you are married, better get some advice on stowing away assets, just in case.  Forensic accountants are a bitch.

Get some distance.  Unless you are prepared to take care of her financially.  Or are prepared to let her keep having raw sex with other guys while you date her.

You fall in love and it becomes real life and all the hassles of a relationship that she doesn’t realize she’s in.
I suggest staying away from her for awhile.  
Not worth it.
From a longtime monger

Enjoy it for now, you can even be in love, just remember there may be other guys in the same situation. Remember your relationship started as a business proposition and may end that way. Keep it in the back of your mind that this will likely end one day and you'll have to be OK with that. I'm not saying your heart won't break, but it makes letting go a little easier.

is that the girl has emotions too and may not be interested. A few things to keep in mind.
1) She is your 1 hour (or however long the session is) girl friend. When you walk out the door at the end you should leave your emotional behind. (fantasy inside, reality outside)
2) Many of the girls really want to keep separation between their lives and their work -- work is a means to an end that the clients are too. They don't want complications.
3) Girls that are looking for someone will let you know -- then you need to figure out what they are actually looking for, it might not be a boy friend like you're thinking.
4) Many, who want to avoid complications in their lives, will simply block you if you become too attached and start pressuring them for a different type of relationship -- or even say that is your feelings. So quite often best to enjoy what you can. And, as some mentioned, if you feel you're not able to control your emotions here well enough go see some other girls to keep things in perspective.

Just some thoughts, and I agree it's sometimes hard to keep emotions in check, but there have been a lot of horror stories over the years. So always keep in mind you're starting from a fantasy and act, so don't confuse your attraction to the magic show with something that is real (or at least one-sided).

-- Modified on 5/28/2026 10:32:30 PM

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