I built up good relationships with both a J-Girl and a K-Girl by being a regular. By regular I mean I saw each one about three times a week (both stayed for three weeks I believe) during each of their bi-annual visits to the DMV. I did full hours with the K-Girl but did some two hour sessions with the J-Girl. During a late evening session with the J-Girl when I was the last client of the day, she wanted me to stay longer and hang out before we played again, so we talked a lot about the area, food, etc. As most Asian providers on tour, she wasn’t able to see much of the area or eat much beyond what the handlers bought for them (lots of salads) and never really ate American food beyond fast food. So I invited her out. She was happy to go, asked her handler to stop a little early one night, but she fully expected to be paid for her time. Was I disappointed that I still had to pay without play on top of paying for our night out? A little bit, but it was actually a nice little date where I got to expose her to some of the finer points of the American lifestyle and I still enjoyed my time albeit I felt like a simp. She was amazing arm candy though and gave occasional PDAs so at least I got a temporary ego boost in public.
No matter what, they’re business women and are here for that reason (unless they’re looking for a husband I suppose), and you should expect as much. Have some guys had better “luck”? Probably. But, I will say one thing. The date ended up paying dividends as the sessions with her after that were the best I’ve ever had throughout my hobbying lifetime by far. The only thing that could’ve been a drag, and another post mentioned this, is that she did ask for help with something that could’ve been risky, but she ended up not needing the favor. Would I do it again? Guess it depends how I feel at the time and if work is kicking my ass, but probably so.
Since I did mention taking a K-Girl out too, I’ll wrap up by saying she also expected to be paid for her time which ended up being a two-hour fee. The difference was that we spent almost four hours together — three hours to eat and briefly sightsee, then she had me come in and we had some fun before I left around 2am, and she told me not to worry about time. The other difference was that she really wanted to go to IHOP instead of a nice restaurant because she wanted to have pancakes then she also wanted ice cream so we went to a grocery store since everything was closed. She fell in love with Ben & Jerry’s, and I essentially got off cheap in comparison which was unexpected plus her requests were kind of cute and funny.
The moral of the story is that it may well cost you the donation to “date” a J or K-Girl, it could be a pleasant time, and you might end up being a source for help, but it might also be a worthwhile investment in the end.