Do you guys ever feel bad bc the girl is obviously in pain from the size of your D? Again, NOT a humble brag thread, I’m dead average in length and maybe a touch above average in girth, full disclosure, but I’m just feeling kinda bummed bc it seems like at least once every 4-5 sessions (so once a month or so lol) I can tell the girl is clearly in pain, and since I am totally in love with Asian women and kgirls in particular, it’s hard for me to stop seeing them. But it just bums me out when this happens. Obviously Asian ladies are smaller/tighter than other ethnicities down there.  

Any suggestions? Helpful bro advice? This board has been really good for that the last few years so thanks in advance.

Your bro,

Sunny

pumping so fast that it slips out of her pussy and slides back into her ass on the next stroke.  

 
If you want ladies that can handle a magnum comfortably, filter your search for girls that are taller, 5-9 and above, but not skinny. There are not many, but they come around from time to time.  

 
Further, if a girl is really aroused, her pussy will relax to accommodate a larger member.  COMPETENT DATY first is a good way to accomplish this.  It also helps if you create a good connection with your social game.  If she is more business-like and just looks at you as an ATM she can call "honey", it will be a continuing problem.  Preliminaries matter in this regard.  

Thanks CDL. Makes sense. The problem is, I'm on EC, so my selection isn't nearly what yours is. So, I may have 1 or 2 choices tops as far as taller girls go. Most kgirls we get are of the usual petite variety, and I typically like more petite and skinny girls anyways with few exceptions (patiently waiting on my queen CherryDD to return)

WRT DATY to warm em up, I'll be honest, I'm not wild about going down on these girls, never was, even before I realized how widespread BBFS has become. So now I'm really not about that.

I will follow your advice and try to warm em up with some convo etc. Guess this just comes with the territory and I have to accept that.

I'm sure some may get off on that, but I certainly don't. Hence why ability to take an average dick balls deep is something I consider important when evaluating sex workers.

 
I hear you guys on the east coast can even (and do get) BLd for having simply above average members, let alone magnums.

Yep, you heard right my bro, I can tell you from firsthand experience, I got banned from the old club VIP (now DBA JJ Clubs) for that very reason. I believe it was my session with Baby that did me in LOL  

She was freaking tight as hell but took it like a champ in the moment!!! I had no idea!!!

as a gift if you don't want to do DATY.  Even the most desensitized veteran Kgirls are often powerless to resist arousal from a vibrator.  However, there is one major rule that goes with gifting sex toys . . . . .

 
Present it to her still in the package and then hand her the appropriate batteries from your pocket to install herself when she opens it.  Suggest she wash it first because there is sometimes dirt or other contaminants from the factory were they were made and packaged.  She will appreciate your attention to hygiene.   Kgirls will not use insertable toys that have already been opened, and they will think you're gross for bringing them something you have used on another girl, whether you have or not.  Don't ask for it back no matter what happens, or she will still think you're gross.  Tell her it's hers and suggest she will keep it in a drawer for the two of you to use next time.  Anyway, this is the only workaround I know of for skipping DATY and achieving the same level of arousal, which in turn, makes entry with an oversized sausage a little easier.

I've sometimes seen that too and cam definitely not magnum, just average Joe. I think there are several things to think about. Could be the woman is just small -- women are like men in that regard and come in many shapes and sizes with regard to vagina. Sometimes I have a session and we just "fit" like we were made for one another. Could be the case that with some that fit is just wrong.  

 
Could also be that you're session is after someone that was very large so she is already hurting and not much is really about you.

 
Last, it seems like some just make that expression as if that's what's suppose to be her "I'm cumming" act. Not sure why that particular expression.

 
What to do? I try to just change the pace and change angel of entry or change position entirely.  

 
It is something you can talk with them about to see if it is something about you or about their day or just how the expressions they are making. Like you I'm not interested in causing pain for these ladies, it is supposed to be about pleasure and I'm not signing up for some SM like experience.

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Ugh.  Yeah it sucks when Kgirl is uncomfortable. When it happens I do plan be which is 69 until cim.  

Daty with lots of spit every 5” helps do the Kgirl isn’t impaled for more than 50-60 strokes at a time helps.  

I had a civie with a small pussy.  I could only go 1/2 in. Period. So that’s how we did it.  

To be posted soon is my experience fucking a 4’9” Kgirl   Very small Kgirl. I didn’t think this girl could get my dick in her.  I’m a magnum.  Guess what?  She sucked my hard dick in like an industrial vacuum cleaner.  

Clearly some girls have pussy talents and some should probably stick to massages blowjobs.

It’s a combination of attitude and the willingness to learn and adopt skills.

Although I do agree with CDL that DATY is probably the best tool for helping a smaller girl warm up, I know from experience that there are other ways as well.

Granted, I had no real choice but to learn these things. When I first started mongering with Asian girls one out of every 3 girls either gave me my money back and told me I was too big or would only give me a somewhat fearful BBBJ and some slip ‘n slide with little to no insertion involved.  

What I found was that I needed to do three things in order to avoid having the above issues.

1) Learn to identify girls that were a bit more wild and known for having a great attitude. This is not too hard to tell from reviews. Back in the days that PSE meant something other than BBFS this was admittedly easier.

2) Develop a set of verbal and non verbal communication skills that showed a girl I was watching her carefully for signals to make sure she was OK and that I valued her safety and comfort as an integral part of getting my own pleasure. This might sound counter intuitive to some. But when even a quite small (in comparison to you) girl knows you are going to make sure you don’t hurt her she will be able to relax much more completely. This is a key predecessor to that moment when she moans in pleasure and amazement that you are all the way inside her. After that, inhibitions almost completely disappear.

3) Develop a set of skills that you can adapt to the girl and the occasion to warm her up physically. If DATY is not your cup of tea, there are other ways to do it. With one girl I knew, gentle kissing and breathing on her skin near the top of her legs made her quite wet. There are so many ways to warm up a girl without DATY that listing them would turn this post into a Rocket-like wall of text. So I’ll spare everyone that experience.

Just know that this really isn’t hard. It’s a simple exercise in listening and paying close attention to body language. The reward, in my experience, is very well worth it.  I haven’t had a repeat of anything like my earlier experiences in many years. On the contrary, I’ve had more than a few small girls get wild with me in ways that never show up in any of their reviews.  

Do with this whatever you think fits you best. And have fun.

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I'm pretty sure the correlation between height and magnum-approval is very weak, like the weak correlations between race and penis size.  
I've fucked some really tiny girls who got quite enthusiastic, and the last wincing I experienced was with a very tall K-Girl (who took me in just fine on the previous session and, after careful inquiry, on the succeeding session too).  
It seems to me that painful intercourse mostly results from previous misadventure rather than inherent incapacity.

You feel bad when a K-girl is in pain but you also are looking for "a sub provider that is into receiving impact play (HARD impact play)..."
http://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion-boards/bdsm-55/if-i-could-find-10928?page=

 
Why the double standard, dude?  You don't want to inflict pain on K-girls but only nine months ago you were looking for a provider you could strike repeatedly for your sexual gratification.  You mean it's okay to beat the shit out of an 'indie' provider but it's not okay if your dick is too big for a K-girl's pussy?

 
Since you love Asian providers so much, why don't you look for one who is into HARD impact play.  That would be the best of both worlds for you so that you could REALLY get your rocks off, lol.

that says taller girls do not have bigger vaginas than short girls?  That sounds contrary to medical science, and I would sure like to read it?   I'm willing to stand corrected if that is, indeed, the case.   In my experience, just about everything on a taller girl is bigger than on a short girl, i.e., feet, hands, etc.  Even their tits (in natural form) are generally bigger, although they often look smaller because of the size of the frame, but do a double with a tall and short girl, put them side by side and you will see that it's an optical illusion that makes the taller girl's tits look smaller because of her height and larger bone structure.  I don't doubt that you can point to dozens or even hundreds of outliers, but I'm talking about the norm over the entire population.  

 
I would hesitate to use a girl who took you in with no problem twice and then winced on the third as an example.  Reread the part of my post where it says arousal level is often a key factor in accommodating large sausage.  If she wasn't aroused enough, is that ENTIRELY her fault?  Yelling, "Brace yourself for a big one" is not considered by most to be foreplay.  Lol

You are a really weird freak. Get a life dude

This is an excellent suggestion. I will do some vibrator shopping this weekend lol

I mentioned bringing a small vibrator to my next session (for both of us, of course) and my girl got so excited at the idea that I can't wait to see what she will do with it. A vibrator has always been a bit of an ice breaker for me when meeting a provider for the first time. It's amazing how it can bring people together

a few girls even gave you a nickname a while back, number one big in DMV
probably no one from your private groups  told you!  
you should be proud instead of upset for being bl'ed by jj

But this ain't it bigp.

 
There is a BIG difference between providers who are into bdsm and enjoy rough sex, who have safe words etc....and providers who troop through pain they don't enjoy.

 
I enjoy rough sex wit providers and non-providers who also are into it. I don't enjoy rough sex with providers or women who hate it and are in pain. At all. It's rapey.

that looking at a challenge from a woman's perspective will often yield the best solution.  

My condolences. It's a bs reason to be BLd from an org.

 
Especially since a lot of girls who are fob are content with just gritting their teeth and trying troop through the pain, instead of telling you outright to go slower and/or that you're causing pain.

You don't think it's disturbing that you know who Sunny is irl and know and discuss him and his  nickname with girls?

LOLLLL are you kidding me??? That is hilarious.

Did you hear that from you-know-who, or another girl?

Too funny...

Haha ... "yelling 'brace yourself'"?  Must have confused me with BPS or some such.  
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And it was the second, not the third, encounter.  
And I checked afterward (via the PO) that the girl would see me again, and got strong approval, and it was good.  
And yes I licked her pussy for fun and foreplay, each time, and observed signs of her arousal.  I enjoy that.  
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I said "correlation" with perhaps a tad more reference to the technical definition than was appreciated, so no, outliers are not at issue.  Correlation is the statistical operation that computes that "norm over the population" which is what I was talking about.  However, my personal data set isn't sufficiently large for good statistical power, so low correlation is just an impression from my experience and not a publishable result.  Also the women whose pussies I have plumbed are not exactly a random sample of the population; whose would be?   Note also that optical illusion is ruled out by geometric considerations... .
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I would suspect, though, that investigations of pussy size are at least as subject to bias as those of penis size.
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Do you believe penis size is strongly correlated with height?  Why or why not?

Which is bigger?

Spoiler: They are same size twins. http://oceanswebsite.com/Amesroom1.html

Blvd. that has about 20 of these illusions set up inside a building where you can insert yourself (and others) into the photo.  It's a unique experience and if you have a group, you can hire a photographer to take all the photos and make copies for everyone.