Actually the vast majority of the time that's the reason, but on rare occasions it's because she likes you. Unless she calls you to go out, or even just to chat I wouldn't read too much into it.
From my experience it was mixed. One situation was to keep Me interested in going back to her... she would text cute emojis saying she missed me and when I was planning on seeing her. But it never went beyond flirting back and forth.
On another situation with another kgirl, there was mutual interest. We ended up dating when she took “long breaks” from the job. It was fun and there was a connection. Eventually it fizzled out and she worked for a little while longer and ended up going back to Korea. So it can vary. Good luck !
so on a slow day or week, they can send you a "Honey, I miss you" text. If they send it to 20 guys, they will get three or four to book and improve a slow slow period. So its for targeted marketing, not much else.
One time out of 50, a girl might have a romantic interest in you. If they ask for your number at a session, and then text you the same day before the sun goes down, its generally a positive sign that she MIGHT have some interest in you that is other than professional. The other 49 out of 50 will wait a respectable number of days (usually 3 or 4) and then give you a text calculated to get you to come in for another session. As twoon says, its to "turn" you from a "random" visitor to a regular. AND as GaG says, building a "book" of customers allows them to work for a different org and take their customer list with them to insure their own success, just like it does in any other sales or marketing business.
as friends or as a customer. i think of the latter as a loyalty card: a sweet note after sessions, asking when you'll see her again, etc.
i tend to fall into the former. i'm on the younger side, relatively affluent, handsome (so i've been told). at the risk of sounding like a simp, i treat ladies like i'm their boyfriend or a friend with benefits. better connections with indie and gfe RA's, imo. i'll swap personal numbers and kakao's if we trust each other. some girls i see as an awesome drinking buddy, an experimental sex buddy, and only on one instance, a romantic interest. if we mutually think it's cool for us to hang out during off-hours/break day (unpaid), then i'll agree to swap my real number. the ra's that i've hung out with tend to be lonely despite this field of work, so i've been told, and it's nice for them to be comfortable enough around you to just be themselves. some girls are obviously in it for the money with their sugar daddies, while others are just mad conscious about who they're seen out and about with. a few occasions it's a walk around the park or a small picnic, others it was a movie (pre-covid). i never initiate sleeping together unless she hints at it.
a couple of times. Received a few texts for various reasons, to say hi, where you been, bring food or drink when you visit, I'm bored what are you doing. It can also pay off, a favorite left the org she was working at. A few days later I received a text from a new booker saying she had just set up and check out her site. I asked how she knew to text me, she said some of the girls she worked with gave my number as a good client! Turned out my favorite just started working for her!
I’ve had 2 kgirls ask me for my number. One was from a girl whom I had seen many times and become close to, who had romantic intentions and/or was looking for a sugar daddy exit strategy., which unfortunately I am not really available for.
The other was from a young girl with whom there was good chemistry, and whom I had tipped with a gift card after a repeat visit. We texted a few times over the ensuing months, but she has not returned to the area again yet.
Mainly to maintain your business. That is the reason.
If you’re looking for a legitimate relationship with a k girl, that will take more than just an exchanging of phone numbers. A serious amount of money usually must be spent to obtain a k girl as your girlfriend. That is just the start of it. In some cases the k girl may not even respond for a day or even multiple days. That does not always apply, but in many cases this will apply. It depends on the girl. In other words, the level of benefit received out of exchanging numbers with a k girl is varied. It depends on your relationship with k girl.
you have never had a "legitimate" Kgirlfriend. I don't pay anything MORE when I have a RL Kgirlfriend than I do if she's a civvie girl. As Jensen says, you are describing having a Kgirl as a mistress or a sugarbaby. If you want to know if its real or not, at some point fairly early on she will say the magic words without any prompting from you . . . . . . "You're my boyfriend now, so you don't have too pay anymore." If you don't hear that, then its NOT a "legitimate" relationship. You are correct at that point that a lot of money will be involved, but don't think for a minute that you are in a "legitimate" relationship. You're just a classic sugardaddy.
I have found over a period of several decades doing this that the amount of money you spend on a K-Girl has an INVERSE correlation to your chances of ever having something "real" with her.
First off, K-Girls, like most other women don't find "desperation" sexy, the more money you give her, the less respect she will have for you, most likely if you shower her with money, gifts, jewelry etc, you will be the running joke at the agency and not just she, but ALL the other girls will laugh at you. AND, you have to look at it this way, if you are really giving her THAT much money, she might not want to ever give up the golden goose to have a real relationship with you. But to tell the truth, she won't ever respect you enough to ever want to be your girlfriend any how, and THAT is why she will go days without answering your calls. You can bet she is answering the calls of her REAL boyfriend, but she doesn't feel obligated to answer the calls of some lovestruck, spineless jellyfish.
Trust me. This has happened before. I’ve bailed em out. Several times. I’ve had no issue paying their way in the past. And I will in the future. Because I care about these girls. If someone disagrees with my approach regarding them, I believe that can be disregarded.
If you don’t think spending money on your K girlfriend is a good idea, that’s on you.
Not only have I offered financial assistance to my K girlfriends in the past (and am more than willing to do so), but I prefer to spoil them and show them of the good life which they may have been seeking all along. I’m not opposed to paying whatever cost necessary to achieve this goal. What I offer to my K girlfriends is a legitimate relationship, and more. I believe that is the correct approach. I also will show them a good time for however long I have decided to date them for.
to Buy a Kgirlfriend and then deluding myself that there is something real going on between us. If you are spending more than you would on dating a civvie girl, you are NOT in a legitimate relationship, you are a Sugardaddy. The "Civvie-girl standard" sets the bar for whether you are buying her or not. When it comes to the quality of my dates, I take Kgirls the to same places I would take a civvie girl, so I'm not spending anything extra for a Kgirl's company. If I take a Kgirlfriend to Hawaii for a week like I did last summer, I pay for the trip the SAME as I would a civvie girlfriend, but I don't give her any direct compensation for her time or the sex we will have twice a day.
If you want a wake-up call, tell her that you had a financial reversal, so you won't be able to give her any money for 90 days, but you would still like to date her on the outside. You will quickly find out just how REAL your relationship is. Your way may be the correct approach for you. We don't know what you look like or what your personality is like. For the right amount of money, Kgirls are willing to look past such details. They are professional escorts, which is what you are purchasing with "whatever cost is necessary to achieve this goal."
Earlier you stated that spending money on a K-Girl GF was a "must" if you expect to keep her and as anyone who has actually ever dated a K-Girl who actually liked and respected them already knows, that statement was complete and total bullshit.
Your K Girlfriends are "girlfriends" at all, the MOST you can claim is Sugar Daddy status if you have to spend gobs of money on them to get them to return your calls. What you are offering them is indeed a "legitimate relationship" as you said, only it's a legitimate P4P relationship, not a "real" relationship as you have deluded yourself into believing. If your K Girlfriends were really into you, then rather than you waiting days for a return call they'd be texting you all day telling you how they are thinking about cutting their workday short so as to be able to spend more time with you.
The Korean women I know, including the kgirls I’ve gotten to know, have somewhat high relationship expectations. Granted that Korean women who grew up in the U.S. don’t have the same level of expectations. But, for the most part, with kgirls we are not talking about girls who grew up in the U.S. Korean girls text a lot. Though, as they get older this decreases a good bit. But, if you’re starting an IRL relationship with a kgirl, one of the indicators is a relatively high communication frequency. As I was still new at seeing kgirls, I made mistakes that allowed a couple of them to fall for me. In my experience, when that texting/communication frequency from your kgirl goes up substantially there is a very good chance that you have a kgirl falling for you. Though, it is also possible there is a scam. But that will almost always involve a request for money. A significant increase in communication frequency that is not money related is what I consider to be very likely the sign of a kgirl who has become interested in you. Advice on how to handle that has already been given many times. And, in any case, is highly dependent on the circumstances and desires of the individuals involved.
an increase in the frequency of texting. They COULD be falling for you, but there is even a greater chance they have you pegged as an easy mark, just as you suggested. The increase in texting is then used to create the illusion they are into you until they can figure out the best way to get you to part with some money for no other reason than you being flattered that they are texting you a lot. The only thing you left out is that its often difficult to know whether she is sincere or contemplating a scam until the money-move hits, and that could be a few months down the road. These girls are not averse to running the long con if they think it will pay off. That's why you need to be cautious about getting carried away by your own emotions early on. It often takes time to recognize the signs that she is sincere about you. Some are just sincere about your money, and that can be just as convincing to somebody who is enamored with a Kgirl for the first time.
Sadly, with these girls you can never really cross that possibility off the list, in my experience. Even if they like you a lot. There’s still a relatively high risk they’ll try a scam. Bad habits die hard. And kgirls tend to have some pretty hard coded money habits. On top of that, there’s the respect part. They may start to like you. But that doesn’t automatically mean that they will respect you. Kgirls, again in my experience, tend to be proud, strong willed folk. Before you get their affection and respect together, you have to earn their respect. And continue to earn it. Because they are going to test you periodically. And that doesn’t just apply to our kgirls. The non-pro Korean women I’ve known give respect pretty carefully as well. Still, that’s just one guy’s experience.
Like all other indicators, this is hardly foolproof, but I have found it to be true the overwhelming majority of the times I have started something with a K-Girl. It's the "First date"
K-Girls, just like a few of us here, have highly tuned bullshit detectors and they know a lot of guys are simply interested in freebies. If a OTC date ends up with a paid BCD date at the end of it, she has no feelings for you. If your first OTC date ends up with you having sex and she makes no mention of money, most likely she is playing you for the "long con" as CDL puts it. If your OTC date ends up with no sex at all and she seems disinterested in a second date, I am sure even the densest guy here can figure that one out, but if your OTC date end up with no sex AND it's she that suggests a second date, THEN you most likely have a K-Girl who actually sees you as BF material. If you push for sex, then sorry but you've blown it with her and she won't see you in the same light again.
Your analysis is spot on. I never suggest sex on the first date. I did it the first time 11 years ago and learned the hard lesson. There's no coming back from that. You can only move on once you fuck up the first date by offering a donation for sex or asking for a freebie. This is how some guys just end of becoming "outside" customers, but there is no attraction for the Kgirl other than the revenue stream.
As far as the second date goes, as you say, I let them be the ones to suggest it, but here's where it gets tricky. I will ask them when they had in mind. If they say they're going to be off on X-day the coming week, so how about then, then she definitely regards you as a potential RL boyfriend. If she says "maybe in a few months", you just got a "thank you" date for being a good customer and its probably not going to go anywhere that's REAL, but she WILL go out with you on another "thank you" date in two or three months IF you keep to your schedule of seeing her regularly.
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