i am looking for the exact same - if you find a good provider and it works out  - will you recommend - I am the female side of the relationship trying to set this up - i am worried about the chemistry between me and the girl  - i want it to be fun and light hearted and not feel cold - (like the cold strippers in Tens!!!)  
obviously my husband will be excited by most any woman brought into the mix - but i am not so good at faking and I am afraid i will not be able to participate if i dont hit it off with her - i saw some one write the other day that they wanted to meet for coffee first and see if it was worth a call back but everyone responded that , that would never happen - i am not into going to a swinger club to find some one but i sure wish they had speed dating like scenarios!!!