Miss Laney I think you and I have some of the same work ethic. I give the best to the people I meet as it seems you do as well. With that said you have to know your limits and what you will put up with. Yes it sucks that sometimes you will run into behavior like this but you have to know when to call it quits on him. I recently went to far and called it quits on him in the end. After getting tested for all the stds you could think of (per his request) turning down a week of work for an overnight that was told would be worth it...went from almost worth it to not at all when I got the email that a business meeting had come up on a sunday three hours one way away but I still could come for a couple hours lol I dont think so.... I would rather read the phone book then to be run around on. This date was made way in advance. I NOW know my limits what I will put up with and what I wont. and all I can do is think man did he miss out lol
Enjoy life and all you choose to do
It should be fun!
He booked the appointment March 12th for an April 14th date. From that point forward he sent me nearly 50 PMs and 25 gmail messages. He was lewd and kept asking questions about two girls and if I could bring someone but he didn't want to donate to two girls. Something else that raised a red flag was him saying he said he liked to book multiple providers so that he could make a choice and send one away as soon as she arrives without so much as a tip for her effort. Not cool!!! When I got him off that tangent it was something else. He was hugely suspicious and I was highly doubtful the appointment I was working on with him was legit but I kept reminding myself about his reviews and put up with all of the back and forth b.s. Across our correspondence he said something odd to the tune of "it's easier for me if you use email because it takes too long to log in to TER" (I found it strange because I pretty much said the exact same thing to a client I've had recent issues with because I decided I didn't want to see him after a couple of cancellations). The person I'm talking about tonight also made me even more suspicious because he kept changing the date and time of our meeting - pushing back over several days and multiple hours. I told myself he was just a high maintenance client and that it would all pan out.
Well --- just as I suspected I just got an email with this in the subject line: My trip just got cancelled. There was no message, no apology, no nothing. I expected it but still --- wtf??
His last review is brand new (from maybe yesterday when *we* were supposed to originally meet) and he gave the girl a 10/10 so he's in with TER. Is there anything *I* can do about this? Do guys really do these kinds of things intentionally? Is it possible he's favoring a certain girl that might possibly have a grudge against or be jealous of me? I honestly can't understand why people and how people can be so downright mean.
....several weeks in advance only to cancel last minute without explanation. He has reviews and it would appear that he's a good client however the way he handled things with me would suggest otherwise. Tell me if I'm wrong.
He booked the appointment March 12th for an April 14th date. From that point forward he sent me nearly 50 PMs and 25 gmail messages. He was lewd and kept asking questions about two girls and if I could bring someone but he didn't want to donate to two girls. Something else that raised a red flag was him saying he said he liked to book multiple providers so that he could make a choice and send one away as soon as she arrives without so much as a tip for her effort. Not cool!!! When I got him off that tangent it was something else. He was hugely suspicious and I was highly doubtful the appointment I was working on with him was legit but I kept reminding myself about his reviews and put up with all of the back and forth b.s. Across our correspondence he said something odd to the tune of "it's easier for me if you use email because it takes too long to log in to TER" (I found it strange because I pretty much said the exact same thing to a client I've had recent issues with because I decided I didn't want to see him after a couple of cancellations). The person I'm talking about tonight also made me even more suspicious because he kept changing the date and time of our meeting - pushing back over several days and multiple hours. I told myself he was just a high maintenance client and that it would all pan out.
Well --- just as I suspected I just got an email with this in the subject line: My trip just got cancelled. There was no message, no apology, no nothing. I expected it but still --- wtf??
His last review is brand new (from maybe yesterday when *we* were supposed to originally meet) and he gave the girl a 10/10 so he's in with TER. Is there anything *I* can do about this? Do guys really do these kinds of things intentionally? Is it possible he's favoring a certain girl that might possibly have a grudge against or be jealous of me? I honestly can't understand why people and how people can be so downright mean
sure there are Provider White Knights..Just like the Hobbyist White Knights...That will rat you out..but goes with the business
Fuck off and die very early in your story. Unfortunately, there are dicks out there that do nothing but play games. I'm sorry this happened to you.
maybe they would've had some insight.
.... like I said I just kept telling myself the time invested would be worth it based on what I saw on TER.
A few times in the past I felt a man had two or more accounts with TER and this sounds like what your expressing. There's no written rule for men in that regard so it is easy to hide their bad habits if they have any.
I have had men double book with me and another lady only to cancel on both of us at last minute. Did he book with other ladies too ? Perhaps he did and saw one of them. I don't think there's much you can do to protect yourself from this situation other than screening personal info which is harder to double up on. Using whitelist and ladies references still can be the same gentleman if the ladies didn't screen or share his personal info.
I doubt any lady would go to that extreme to cause you grief . Were talking a month of back and forth messages. If your gut says it's the same man this would be more likely
Kisses Hale
I agree - it has to be a guy and I also agree that it could be the same man. I had something similar happen two weeks ago. Same thing - a month of emails, checked two provider references, lots of hype and then the last minute cancellation. This one promised a cancellation fee but has yet to follow through. I have asked the gentleman who cancelled on me last night for a cancellation fee but no response on that yet so We'll see.
Since your asking opinions blacklist him
... before I make any final decisions. Like our reviews, the blacklist information is listed permanently.
Just to see if we know of the same ones (blacklist sites) which are you aware of?
dangezone411 nationblacklist.com google it put him on as many as possible
Black list question. If someone is put on a list can't they change their name and phone number? Not that I saying this has happened to me. Also I have had a couple of ladies call and cancel me and I just moved on. Yes I understad the other side of and it must be a bummer.
I suppose but by doing so he forfeits his pages of reviews and white list because he'll also have to change his TER username. He'd have to start all over again --- unless he's the pathological type with more than one account
He sounds like a first class idiot. Like HCM said, I would have told him to take a hike as soon as he wrote his first lame email to me. No review is worth that to me. First and foremost in this profession, I take care of myself and my soul. If someone doesn't feel right, I won't see them. Period. My peace of mind is worth more than all the reviews in the world.
It sounds like you knew better, too. Listen to your intuition!! This is one more experience to buttress how important it is to listen to our intuition.
I am sorry you had this happen too. I am so glad, though, that it wasn't worse. And definitely list him as a timewaster!
This is the type of CRAP that is going on and you can blame the damn economy people are out of work and they have nothing better to do with their time but harass us we ALL get this and I can not tell you how many times this goes on repeatedly, these Asshats love this shit, it is the next best thing to jerking off and cumming in your face if I sound crude well Fuck it what these time wasters are doing is getting their kicks and leaving us in the dust. I just recently got this line and I quote "sometimes life just gets in the way" Don't you love it? Hey let me try that one when I have to pay my bills they would laugh their ass off!! We gotta suck it up and weed through the bullshitters this is not going away anytime soon just screen and I do not always advocate this but double book it is your money don't let anyone mess with it I always tell it like it is and to those who stand by us this kitty is for you
He booked the appointment March 12th for an April 14th date. From that point forward he sent me nearly 50 PMs and 25 gmail messages. He was lewd and kept asking questions about two girls and if I could bring someone but he didn't want to donate to two girls. Something else that raised a red flag was him saying he said he liked to book multiple providers so that he could make a choice and send one away as soon as she arrives without so much as a tip for her effort. Not cool!!! When I got him off that tangent it was something else. He was hugely suspicious and I was highly doubtful the appointment I was working on with him was legit but I kept reminding myself about his reviews and put up with all of the back and forth b.s. Across our correspondence he said something odd to the tune of "it's easier for me if you use email because it takes too long to log in to TER" (I found it strange because I pretty much said the exact same thing to a client I've had recent issues with because I decided I didn't want to see him after a couple of cancellations). The person I'm talking about tonight also made me even more suspicious because he kept changing the date and time of our meeting - pushing back over several days and multiple hours. I told myself he was just a high maintenance client and that it would all pan out.
Well --- just as I suspected I just got an email with this in the subject line: My trip just got cancelled. There was no message, no apology, no nothing. I expected it but still --- wtf??
His last review is brand new (from maybe yesterday when *we* were supposed to originally meet) and he gave the girl a 10/10 so he's in with TER. Is there anything *I* can do about this? Do guys really do these kinds of things intentionally? Is it possible he's favoring a certain girl that might possibly have a grudge against or be jealous of me? I honestly can't understand why people and how people can be so downright mean.
2-3 of these in a month really affects someone like myself who generally only schedules 1-2 appointments a week. I'm not lazy but Tampa isn't super busy and I don't tour like I used to when I lived up North.
To go a step further - it sucks even more when on tour, you've been pre-booked us and then you cancel on us last minute when we're already in travel mode, checked in, etc. It affects our tour more than than some realize.
Yes it does we have to pull together I call it the way I see it and when people disrespect all that goes into our schedules well it will come back at them we arrange our personal lives for our business we do not sit around and wait for the phone to ring as for me no one books I do something else and believe me I am busy!!
To go a step further - it sucks even more when on tour, you've been pre-booked us and then you cancel on us last minute when we're already in travel mode, checked in, etc. It affects our tour more than than some realize.
.... I rarely go out socially. I'm not a huge drinker and it seems like a waste of time when I can be at home being productive.
Don't sweat him, just think of it this this way HIS LOSS! I have had providers do the same thing to me 2 even had me drive to a specific location and have me call them, I get to the location and now they don't pick up? Their loss I can spend my $ on someone who appreciates it.
Miss Laney I think you and I have some of the same work ethic. I give the best to the people I meet as it seems you do as well. With that said you have to know your limits and what you will put up with. Yes it sucks that sometimes you will run into behavior like this but you have to know when to call it quits on him. I recently went to far and called it quits on him in the end. After getting tested for all the stds you could think of (per his request) turning down a week of work for an overnight that was told would be worth it...went from almost worth it to not at all when I got the email that a business meeting had come up on a sunday three hours one way away but I still could come for a couple hours lol I dont think so.... I would rather read the phone book then to be run around on. This date was made way in advance. I NOW know my limits what I will put up with and what I wont. and all I can do is think man did he miss out lol
Enjoy life and all you choose to do
It should be fun!
He booked the appointment March 12th for an April 14th date. From that point forward he sent me nearly 50 PMs and 25 gmail messages. He was lewd and kept asking questions about two girls and if I could bring someone but he didn't want to donate to two girls. Something else that raised a red flag was him saying he said he liked to book multiple providers so that he could make a choice and send one away as soon as she arrives without so much as a tip for her effort. Not cool!!! When I got him off that tangent it was something else. He was hugely suspicious and I was highly doubtful the appointment I was working on with him was legit but I kept reminding myself about his reviews and put up with all of the back and forth b.s. Across our correspondence he said something odd to the tune of "it's easier for me if you use email because it takes too long to log in to TER" (I found it strange because I pretty much said the exact same thing to a client I've had recent issues with because I decided I didn't want to see him after a couple of cancellations). The person I'm talking about tonight also made me even more suspicious because he kept changing the date and time of our meeting - pushing back over several days and multiple hours. I told myself he was just a high maintenance client and that it would all pan out.
Well --- just as I suspected I just got an email with this in the subject line: My trip just got cancelled. There was no message, no apology, no nothing. I expected it but still --- wtf??
His last review is brand new (from maybe yesterday when *we* were supposed to originally meet) and he gave the girl a 10/10 so he's in with TER. Is there anything *I* can do about this? Do guys really do these kinds of things intentionally? Is it possible he's favoring a certain girl that might possibly have a grudge against or be jealous of me? I honestly can't understand why people and how people can be so downright mean.
... I arrange for what I refer to as a "drive by". When I have to cancal, I immediately arrange to pass along a "deposit" for my next visit. This way one of my favorites has her donation that she was planing on, knows I really wasn't wasting her time and knows we will see each other later on.
Currently, I have one canceled appointment on the books. The day before our visit, I left the ER with 3 perfect EKG's, two perfect x-rays, and a bottle of new pills to take everyday for the rest of my life. I called and she meet me outside our places at a Target, and I passed along an envelope through car windows. It might be this week, it might be next week, but she knows I will be calling and be probiding either extra time or a super discount. Hopefully she will NOT have to be providing CPR.
This is only someone I have an established, business relationship, never a first time visit.
'rock'