I think men more readily pay for our services than women. Women can hug each other and their family members who are both male and female [it is socially acceptable]. Men are limited in this respect [socially forwned upon in our culture for men to hug each other].
I have a theory that this is why men fight, too, and engage in sports where there is a lot of touching. It isn't a sexual thing; it is 100% the need for human touch. Lol! The UFC fights often look downright pornographic to me.
(Although a growing number of women are partaking in the hobby these days- obviously for many reasons, but increasing discretionary income and sexual freedom are a couple of them.)
I've noticed a lot more gentlemen rather cuddle, kiss, and converse than actually doing the deed. There's something bout human touch that heals you. Does it comfort you?
Sex is not the whole story though. I know i am a sensual being -- the power of simply experiencing senses that you awaken and being alive can also create a flood of pleasurable feelings.
Being physically touched can be as nourishing as food for human beings. We can develop ur ability to focus inward and became more aware of our body sensations. The ability to focus attention on our bodies can take practice, well worth it if you are interested in great sex and enhancing your sexual pleasure.
Are you the type who just gets down to business, or are you the type to want to connect on a deeper level and experience it as a whole?
Inquiring minds would like to know.
Gabby xox
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It's hard to develop that level of connection in just a couple if hours. I guess it's more likely when you are a regular with a lady.
I'm guessing most guys like the cuddling and such because we miss it and aren't getting it at home. I absolutely CRAVE it for this reason. When I'm at an appointment, I want her touching me in some way every second! Even if it's just caressing or stroking my back or something.
I agree that short appointments don't often allow for such a full and deep development of the intimacy one needs for a true sensual connection. I prefer longer engagements, but have my longest reserved for men I already know, purely for this reason. But I have also found that the more correspondence I have with a gentleman prior to meeting, the more intimate we can be right away. So I have begun to relent on my requirement to have met someone in order to have a longer engagement with them.
I am sorry to hear you aren't getting the affection you need at home. I believe that's why women's time at a premium is more in demand than men's: Women can hug each other, men cannot.
I get turned on by the idea of meeting up with a total stranger and just hammering out a few good pops and be on my way. However, by nature I'm more of a people person and enjoy a woman who I can experience more than just the deed or deeds. So while I have my eyes on a few young kinky pse girls, I find more pleasure and satisfaction with the gfe ladies. Funny thing is it takes me a while to get comfortable sharing these intimacies. It's still easier doing the deed than dfk and cuddling. I'm a shitty actor, so if I ain't feeling it, its hard for me to fake it. I'm still a rookie in this game, so maybe this will change in time. I like being vanilla, but adding a little chocolate syrup this year has made this past year very tasty.
It's nice to cuddle and touch and just talk. In booking longer sessions during the time in between it's real nice to cuddle, kiss, touch and talk. Or it's a nice way to get to the deed as you touch each other and become aroused.
having said that.........getting off is what it's really all about for me, whether PSE or GFE it's all fantasy anyway........part of what I pay for is the experience ends with no emotional attachment either way
of course I want to connect on a deeper level, especially if it goes very well and I want to see the provider again and again. If I am there for 1 hour I do want to get down to business fairly quickly though. The answer is yes kissing, coversing, and cuddling absolutely enhance the total experience for me though. That is why I prefer 30+ women bc I am in my late 30's and I just don't have much in common with a 22 y/o.
are really much softer and mushier than many women, and that the cuddle and connection factor is very important to them. I personally also crave that because it is important that my interactions with other humans is multi-dimensional. As you mentioned, all of the senses are involved when you cuddle and touch, and that makes the experience more fulfilling all around. Hedonistically, I need and demand that in most of my physical engagements.
The beauty of this little world of ours is that we are versed in the art of leaving each other for another time (or not). The parameters of the profession establish boundaries that allow us to frolic carefree within them, understanding that nobody will be holding hands on the way out. It's a perfect arrangement for me, and allows me to give so much more of myself to the situation and to my partner than I would to a civilian lover.
I don't think that many younger people realize what a very rare opportunity we have, as human beings, to greatly affect other human beings in a very positive way through nothing more than touch. We innately possess a longing for that sort of connection.
I like sex, I especially love eating pussy. But I crave human touch, and I crave the chance to share my own touch with other sensual beings like beautiful, caring women... because I know the power that touch imparts.
I remember being taught about an experiment that took place here in the US in the 50s or 60s (and I remember it being done by BF Skinner) that was on touch. They had two group of babies in a facility, and both groups had all their physical needs met in terms of food, bathing, diaper changes, and medical care. One group received affection- hugs and touch and human interaction. The other group received none- only what was rudimentarily needed to change a diaper or bathe them. Several of the non-touch babies died. This story has stuck with me, but I can't find anything about it online. I think it has been washed from the internet in order to improve Skinner's reputation. I will search for it in my psychology textbook (still have it from many years ago).
And replaced it with human touch. Affectionate contact is more stimulating for the brain than for the body. As stated above that it is necessary for all human biengs. Unfortunately, for many of us who are single or in loveless marriages there may be no way to fulfill this need. hobbying may be the only option.
I think men more readily pay for our services than women. Women can hug each other and their family members who are both male and female [it is socially acceptable]. Men are limited in this respect [socially forwned upon in our culture for men to hug each other].
I have a theory that this is why men fight, too, and engage in sports where there is a lot of touching. It isn't a sexual thing; it is 100% the need for human touch. Lol! The UFC fights often look downright pornographic to me.
(Although a growing number of women are partaking in the hobby these days- obviously for many reasons, but increasing discretionary income and sexual freedom are a couple of them.)
There is some truth to what you stated. However, when it comes to figjting there is absolutey zero connection there. As an amature mma fighter and I can say that I have never gotten anything from rolling around with a sweaty, staph covered, roiding guy. Yes, mma promotes roiding even more than bodybuilding. I know firsthand. And yes, sometimes getting held in the guard, both open and closed can appear somewhat pornographic but to me it is the equivalent of women wearing tights spending half an hour with their butts up in the air in yoga class. And 9 out of 10 girls say it is not sexual. For some reason I actually believe them.
I don't think it is conscious, of course. Men don't fight consciously seeking touch. It is very subconscious and primal. And definitely not sexual, as I said. Purely a need for physical touch.
Definitely want the sensual connection. That's the main reason I look for "GFE" and what I try for on my dates.
My first experience in the hobby (like a month ago) was preceded by several weeks of interacting over the phone and building trust and a connection, and it made our night together that much more intense and passionate. We still chat every few days, despite being on opposite coasts now.
I think that giving oral to a woman is one of the most sensual and connected experiences possible. It rolls kissing, touching, sexual stimulation, and our innate human desire to "give" all into one beautiful package. Definitely my favorite part of being with a lady.
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I believe that's why women's time at a premium is more in demand than men's: Women can hug each other, men cannot.