Nosey Neighbors, indescretion, maybe a stalker client or bitter ex....All these things would run through my mind.  How do you feel?  


French Kisses

Elle Vegas

-- Modified on 10/18/2012 11:01:34 PM

If her review attitude and board attitude are on even kilter then YES. But if she is flakey, then I would pass, out of fear for my own saftey!!!!

Yes

I like it just fine.

No way.

However, unless you are prepared to have people find out your true identity, I would recomend that you only entertain established repeat clients at your home. Also if you live in an apartment, condo or Coop the word would spread like a bad flu epedemic that the hot redhead with the huge boobs on the fourth floor is a blah blah blah.

No problems, except that we once burned the steaks on the grill while we were going at it in the pool.  

With the right person, if you trust them, it's all good.

It depends completely on the neighborhood, providers reputation and her reviews.  Generally I prefer incall so this is not a problem for me unless I have read in reviews that the incall is shabby, in which case I probably would not go there.

you have to think about bedbugs

The last time I went to an actual provider residence, I parked next to her top-down-candy-apple-red Miata, got out of my economy rental car, took four steps towards her front door, and a golf ball landed between me and the car -- gotta hate those weekend hacker slices!  Moral to the story -- while I've had great luck at going to the provider's actual residence, it is best if you know the city well.  That will be my least favorite option going forward, but an open option.

What if the provider is a real slob.  I am sure that there are horror stories about that.
I'd love to here to dirt! lol!

Kisses

Elle Vegas

To me that is all part of the true GFE!!!! Just my 2.5 cents.

Most ladies incall is either an apartment or free standing house or office so you still have someone that could be watching. If you visit a lady at a hotel then you have cameras in hallways and nosey desk people. I am glad your posting to keep things active Elle but  lost on why this question is singled out for ladies who see people at their residence. Your fancy condo incall is as much noticed as a ladies home or apartment.

Kisses Haley

I have done it many times, with no problems.  I could care less about her nosy neighbors, she has to deal with them, not me anyway.  If she is using her residence as her incall, I would think she would go out of her way to be discrete.  Stalker client or bitter ex, I don't think it matters where she is doing incall if one of them is a problem for her.

Truthfully, the thought of any of those never has crossed my mind when visiting a provider at her home.

Swim

Someone takes the initiative to post something for discussion......then someone has to be catty about it.
It's just a simple question....and it's a question for GUYS. You know....the ones you are so fond of saying have nothing but "cock between their ears".
The question doesn't "single out" any ladies. It asks the GUYS a question about THEIR preferences.
Don't be so defensive and passive-aggressive. "Kisses"

And with that.......
The answer is that the difference can be HUGE.
An incall setup is just that. Set up for incall. While looking warm and friendly....it's sterile as far as personal information about the lady. No mail lying around, kids pictures, etc. It's very difficult to find out any personal information about the lady then....which is a good thing.

If hosting at a residence.....well that just opens up all sorts of things.
If it's a house....forget it. Easy to find out who owns it and ALL sorts of other information that's public record.
Very easy for someone to poke around, even for a second, and find out all kinds of things.....because they are inside your HOME.
If the lady lives there....well it's real easy for a whackjob stalker to know when she is and isn't home, who else lives there, maybe watch her kids go to catch the bus. Need I go on?

It isn't always about who is watching (as in neighbors or hotel staff that couldn't care less).....it's about preserving the privacy of the lady.

Just sayin'
DD

One lady I really liked and saw many times before she retired, had a cop living right across the street-

-- Modified on 10/19/2012 4:03:25 AM

but you asked this question to`the gentlemen and neglected to ask the ladies their view. Seems to me if your worried about stalkers ladies should be addressed as well. This is why I stepped up to the plate.

For men no matter what doorway they pass through to see a lady there's always a chance for prying eyes. Looks like it doesn't bother men all that much about seeing a lady at her private place.

Many ladies do see gentlemen at their discretion where they are most comfortable. I'm bringing the ladies into this conversation and hope they speak up since I think a negative / positive response from them is equally important.

Have fun at bike week

Kisses Haley

C'mon. I didn't see any of that. I just got back from my favorite's "home" and didn't feel a bit uneasy, just like the last 70+ times. The question didn't single anyone out that I saw. I would see her at a fancy condo, or out back in the doghouse for that matter.
Try looking at this as a way to get valuable information from potential clients and apply it to whatever you are doing IMHO.

-- Modified on 10/19/2012 1:53:46 PM

I think there is a BIG difference. I never give a second thought to an incall location, but if I know it is her personal residence, I take extra precautions.

Used to do it regularly but in the past 3 years I have had three disastrous incidents:

1 & 2.  Mugged by pimp posing as boyfriend surprising us
3. Confronted by LE responding to neighbor's complaint   Spent 45 minutes asserting my civil rights, as did she, so no harm done except for not being able to get a boner for over a week.  

Have also heard countless stories about ex-client stalking and confrontations with other clients coming or going.  Have heard stories about using the guy's car plates to track him down and blackmail him.  

Only see providers at upscale hotels (only inside room entrances).  

I entertain in my house daytime only and have been very lucky. Never had a problem in 8 years I have been a provider..
Lisa

-- Modified on 10/19/2012 7:50:03 PM

been with a lady who I have gotten to know quite well through various means (PM's, emails, phone calls, board pressence, previous encounters, etc.).

And that was my point. Most people got  the point of this discussion. Clearly, one got nasty and revealed herself again and her true colors.
No surprises here, it takes all types in this world to make it go around. I just try to avoid stalkers men and women, and keep my private life just that. After all we all need our safety zone, for me it is my house. It's scary to think that this is a cruel and wicked world we live in but  I am reminded of it every time I turn on the news.

Once again thanks for your input. After all this is a discussion board. And we are all entitled to our own unplagerized opinions.


Sweet French kisses

Your Angel

Elle Vegas


-- Modified on 10/20/2012 8:40:19 AM

Like D.D said, hide family photos, mail, use your extra restroom so you don't have somebody snooping through your cabinets.  It is scary either  way, even Incall at the nicest places don't guarantee safety.   I caught a gent going through my wallet looking for my D.L.  Which I never bring along.   And I am 100% about references, Nubies aren't my thing  and sometimes even old friends cross the line.  Like I said it is a scary world. Women are beaten, robed and most of the time they have references that check out  too.  And vice versa, it goes both ways although most of the time it's men that are assaulted and robed by pimps or stalked and threatened.  Thank goodness for our community.  After all this is why we are all here.


Sweet French kisses to you

Elle Vegas

-- Modified on 10/20/2012 7:19:08 AM

This was her incall and she screens and sees few if any men who are not TER members. Her computer had lots of private info wide open for this man to get and sell. If this happened to her we all could fall into this same situation but then it could happen anywhere.

One man could be perfectly fine with one lady and blow his mind with another. We don't know what's going on in any man's private life so nothing is for sure.

Even in an incall I would never give someone the opportunity to snoop. That means your undivided attention is on the gentlemen your spending time with. This is good for them and for you.

PS : Never go anywhere without a government ID because that's reason for you to be picked up and taken to jail should LE want to. You should have your ID at your incall so that you can be identified just incase something goes down or you might spend 72 hours in the slammer while they check you out. This is for gentlemen too who might be fine but could walk into a sting.

Kisses Haley

Being an ex-marine, I learned to defend freedom to the very death, against ALL enemies foreign and domestic. Arrest me for not carrying a government issued ID, and we will all make the evening news. I would not do it if it were required. If you remember your name and birthday, they will ID you in short order, no harm no foul. Maybe I don't know current law? Please post a link if you can.

were not talking walking down the street here i'm talking getting caught in a sting. I don't think there is a time frame other than to say it depends on what they want from you (talk) and how fast they want to move. So IF forth with is best when asked by LE when your suspected of a crime in Florida....

Please read the info on this link so you understand since you are the co-sponsor of the next party....all people are screened so i'm glad i'm a lady and need not show my ID

Others please bring your ID when you are going to a meeting don't leave it in the car.  I mean a meeting with a lady !

Kisses Haley

-- Modified on 10/20/2012 12:21:02 PM

I read it all and it seems I was right. Identify yourself, name only in the document, will work.
I don't get the "picking on you" statement, as I just challenged the validity of what you said, and you seem to have proven me right.
Try to not find hidden messages in what I say, or ask me outright and challenge me to clarify please.
My messages will be clear and to the point as much as possible, and if I violate that, please point it out and an apology will be heading your way.
please also explain, If you are caught in a sting, is a government issued ID a "get out of jail free" card? If so, I will be compelled to follow your instructions.
There will also be NO illegal activity at any event I sponsor, but all will be screened for security because the event is not open to the public and Cinni and I will decide who is appropriate for the occasion. Kinda like hell, all are invited, most will be there. And what a party it will be  JK.

-- Modified on 10/20/2012 1:21:24 PM

CoSigners should know better,

There is  no reason anyone needs to bring ID  to the mixer, leave it in your car.

Here's another one who has nothing nice to say about anyone.


Be safe,

Gabby xox