i would say only 25% of clients treat me like a piece of meat.. but this isn't a business for finding a bf either

I've been very fortunate to have had mostly wonderful guys. The one who treated me like an object was in Norway. I put it down to culture. I didn't take it personally and it was still a pretty hot time.

For the most part, there will always be aberrations (freaks and Pervs) that are sly and can work most systems. If a lady happens to seek certain, shall we say exotic tastes for pleasure, she can advertise any and all descriptions of companions. As can each of us.
That said, as long as hobbyists utilize the resources available on TER, and choose to be respectful and gentlemen, much pleasure is just a phone call away. Reporting of bad experiences and rip offs, as well as blacklisting and whitelisting, should keep many undesirables looking at other forums to find "meat". IMHO. EOM

target market" I cater my Ads to.  
I haven't had a single visitor as you've described in years

The fact that I REQUIRE at least 24 hours advance notice,  
I believe is a deterrent to men who would treat me "as an object" and
this is a HUGE part of why I INSIST on speaking to a potential client before I will schedule anything.