I am very new to this. New TER member.

I am trying to find the best way to surprise my girlfriend with a female to join us. This would be her first full experience with a girl and MFF  threesome. I don't know if it's best to start here with a provider, or other online swinger sites or CL or back-page.

Please, anyone who has some advice. Feel free to email or message for more details or just reply. I have about 5 days to plan this.

Thanks!

With couples. Even see a few famous couples on a regular basis. PM me if u are interested in setting something up

I forgot to mention this is for the Tampa Area.

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Since you have little time to research, I would go with the sure thing...a well revewed provider who has experience with the scenario you are looking for. Why take a chance when you can pretty much go with a sure thing. You don't want any surprises on your first experience. If all goes well, maybe next time you roll the dice. Just MHO

in wanting to plan this surprise for her, sadly it can have a great affect or a bad one.

Personally, I love to entertain couples but I have guidelines too as well.

#1 screening on both parties.  While my process is pretty simple, believe me I use to be downright strict on what I ask for...now it is easier but still a requirement for me. If this is going to be a surprise then there is no way for me to screen her too.

#2 I feel it is very important to be able to chat with both participants.  You can really get a feel for both parties through the chat on the phone. Plus, it gives both of you an opportunity to "feel me out too". While I don't discuss services at all the general flirtatious moments can really set the mood.

#3 If it's a surprise for her, do you really know her requirements on her tastes/likes/dislikes, etc.  I am sure you thought this through ahead of time.  It would be disastrous if the 2 just did not mesh because she was unable to view photos of the lady that you chose.

As far as the best part, I applaud your sense of adventurism. You can search other websites for what you want, however ultimately you should end up here for a well known provider with reviews.  So why search anywhere else...just stay here and search what your desires are.

I truly hope this is a success for you but I think it might be wise to get her involved in the process. Much more likely to have a higher "sexcess" rate!!!

Makenzie

That's what I figured, but the scenario I am looking for is one where it won't feel like an appointment. I am looking for someone who is really into it and the financial end of it is just an extra benefit. I don't want a 'professional' experience where time and money are they key elements if that makes any sense. I did start a little late in the game, that much is true.

But I figure there has got to be a girl out there looking to brake in a new girl/couple mostly for the fun of it. But I understand the benefit of using a proven pro.

You mentioned going to a swing club which is what I always suggest first. This gives her a chance to back out if she wishes without putting anyone in an uncomfortable situation. Many ladies talk about a fantasy but really don't want to do it. Sometimes this talk is done to get you hot.

Many women don't like to share their man so be careful how you participate in the playtime. A lady pleasing her is one thing but your pleasure should be with your girlfriend.

Kisses Haley

We have been to swing clubs and experienced some very light interaction with another woman. When we go to strip clubs occasionly, the girls are all over her and she loves it. I am not looking for an experience with other women for myself, that is much more about her. She wants to play and share another woman with me. I would be happy just watching, but she has said she wants me to participate.

We have experienced other types of fun, but the emailing and setting up has been a turn off for her. She has said many times she prefers I just set something up and surprise her. I know what she likes, but there is no guarantee it will be great experience, but when is it ever.

But if I could find someone really into girls I think it would be great experience. We are easy going and I am not concerned at all about her being upset.  I think i will recognize the right opportunity when it presents and I am looking forward to providing my first review when it's over.

If I can't make it work in a week, I can wait. Plan B is a trip to the strip club and some flowers. She is low maintenance and will love it any way.

A couple might be an option too. I am keeping options open.

then pick your lady from one of the ladies who's picture excites your girlfriend. Find the ladies websites and bookmark them. Now make a fantasy night of looking through the pictures and talking about each girl and what she likes about each of them and she would enjoy doing with them. In the end it won't be looks but chemistry that will make this an over the top experience for the both of you.

Kisses Haley

1st - is she okay with you bringing a provider to join u guys?
2nd - whatever you do, i don't think back-page is safe...NO BACK-PAGE...LOL
3rd - whatever you do, make sure this is something that is not going to give you any kind of trouble in the future. (jealousy).
Good luck,
Xoxo