So one of my biggest pet peeves, is gents to time waste. I know there a lot of providers who are known as time wasters as well, but right now I'm focusing on just gents, from a providers view.
Now, I understand there's a lot of options. There's an array of providers you can choose from. And thats great. There's a huge variety so you can find someone who is best suited for you. But please...Please please please. Do not send out an email, a text, or a website booking, if you do not fully intend on falling through. This past week alone - it's a pretty busy week in Orlando apparently due to a couple of conventions - I had 2 pre-bookings, one through my website and one through another site, with a date and time, location, etc already specified. But when I reply to confirm and cover a few last details - nothing. As I said above, I'm aware that there are plenty of options, and okay, maybe someone you messaged prior had responded. And while that's frustrating, as well, it's a little more respectful to just shoot a quick email "Hey, sorry, plans changed" or just let us know whats going on. For most of us, this is our business. Our means to pay bills and simply get by. While there's a lot of women I'm sure do fantastic and do not have to depend on every single booking, it isn't the case with everyone. So when a booking is received, we've set that time aside, probably turned down other people, and are depending on you to follow through. I understand things happen, but my biggest frustration is the ghosting and not hearing anything back until last minute, or people that message multiple providers at a time to wait until one replies. I understand it may be tedious to message one girl at a time and wait back to hear a "no thanks", and then move on to the next, but please be considerate in our time and business. Just a little PSA and rant.
I completely agree. I admit that I will reach out to multiple ladies at once; however, I will not leave anyone hanging. Once my first desired lady responds and confirms, I definitely let the others know that I will not be coming. I feel a lot of the hobbiest sometimes do not respect the girls times, is because we often get the run around and are made to wait and ponder, so it seems like it’s just part of the business. Time is valuable and we should all respect each other’s time; it will make this hobby/business better/fun for all of us.
on black lists as a time waster faster than you can imagine; unless you are trying to pick the low hanging fruit.
When I book a date, I do not double book in case one falls through. I never set up a plan B, so to speak. I sympathize with you ladies having to put up with guys that double/triple book and don't let you know they are not going to show up. IMHO, that is just inexcusable. Your time is valuable, esp it this is your only source of income, and those guys are just total assholes in my eyes.
Come on, guys, be nice to the ladies, and don't waste their time. If you make a date, keep it!!!! Or at least give her the courtesy of letting her know you are not going to follow up and see her.
LLAP,
Swim
.....But sadly, not a lot that can be done ..... Chalk it up to a reflection of THIER character .....or rather lack there of .......Besides, who wants to spend time with anyone that clearly has no consideration for others......just my opinion....Hope you have a great day!
I personally keep a call log of each individual that text,calls or emails me.With notes for each person,so I can go back to see if they were TW or legit.It helps out more than many may think!
Absolutely! I could not agree more ... would not book again with this person and would certainly pass the info on should the need arise, .....I was referring more to that moment of frustration. I hope you have a great day!!
This has been happening a lot lately around this board!
Not wanting to give out the requested information, thinking that TER Reviews or White listings are a safe way to screen. They are not. And accounts and account sharing occurs. Where is the safety???
One thing worthy of mentioning, When you book an evening with a lady, me specifically, be it a swing club or a multi hour date, I BLOCK that day off for you exclusively! That means that travel plans have been scheduled around this, and no other appointments or inquiries are being entertained. So CANCELLATIONS especially after appointments have been set for days-weeks or even months in advance are subject to cancellation fees.
And FYI if you have inquired with me in the past, and I said no, nothing has changed and the answer is still no. Please stop with the emails.
Make 2018 great! Don't be a time waster!
Rant Over!
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AGREED!!!Not to mention it's a lake a common respect....many could care less!It's not their bills in need of being paid,its ours!
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How does one compete with women who are available 24/7 or uses their apartment/home to service clients?! Of course a gentleman is going to make arrangements with a "first responder." I have a day job during the "year." However, I have enough sick days/vacation time saved up to service a client. With enough notice, I could make something happen. I can't keep up with the Available Now ladies or the ones who use/treat their homes as hotels rooms.
I'm sorry men are wasting ladies time. No one should WASTE anyone's time.
From a client perspective, I think its being missed that the client is making a purchase decision and in some cases a sizeable one. Therefore, its my opinion that we should have some latitude on making the final decision where to make donations. Unlike outside the hobby, once the donation is made, we cannot expect it returned no matter the quality of the time spent together. I realize from a provider perspective, you look at this from your view - you believe you are fair to the client, provide a good time, etc and expect that clients will respect but the client doesn't know that unless they've previously met you.
Also, if your client is a person of some success, their circumstances likely limit their availability and their calendar can change at an instant. Our own professions comes first. If they didn't, we wouldn't have the means to spend time with you.
So while I agree its frustrating, on both sides, I suggest it's simply part of the business and nothing else. I don't let it frustrate me (anymore).
From a client perspective, I think its being missed that the client is making a purchase decision and in some cases a sizeable one. Therefore, its my opinion that we should have some latitude on making the final decision where to make donations. Unlike outside the hobby, once the donation is made, we cannot expect it returned no matter the quality of the time spent together. I realize from a provider perspective, you look at this from your view - you believe you are fair to the client, provide a good time, etc and expect that clients will respect but the client doesn't know that unless they've previously met you.
Also, if your client is a person of some success, their circumstances likely limit their availability and their calendar can change at an instant. Our own professions comes first. If they didn't, we wouldn't have the means to spend time with you.
So while I agree its frustrating, on both sides, I suggest it's simply part of the business and nothing else. I don't let it frustrate me (anymore).
Ahh, that ahole should fry! 🔥
You're right, Harley. Sometimes the other party can be careless or rude or scrambling to salvage a night after someone torpedoed their plans for the night by not responding or cancelling with no explanations. I planned 3 months out to see a provider in another city, who shuffled the times and days of our appointment, only to end up cancelling the DAY of our appointment.
As long as we're ranting about pet peeves and issues with partners, here's what drives me crazy when meeting for a date:
- Set up a date and make specific requests as far as wardrobe. The day of the appointment, you meet and she's wearing nothing remotely like what you requested. What do you even do in that situation? Its not like I forget to bring the wrong kind of currency.
- Sit down to talk during a date and things turn into 30 min of hearing about problems at home/job/kids. I value being able to talk to a provider, but shouldn't there be a cut off point during a date? That might be nitpicking, but sometimes I'm trying to forget about problems, not hear about more.
Seems over the years this happens more often then not. I get a lot of gents who are all talk and no action so 2 speak.. but it's just become a part of the hobby sad 2 say