I just got a rude message from someone because they didnt reply to the very vague text that simply said Hello. I explained from via private message that once I verified them, and btw, I always ask how they prefer to be contacted, he said you can text. I explained, ok, but it will simply say Hello, I prefer texts to always be discreet. I also explained if I dont get a reply I know its probably not a good time, and you can either email me or pm me when is a good time. I also am very guarded about my private life and do not like it interupted. Anyhow, when I told him I would never reply to a reply from that text even an hour later if they started asking me questions such as "someone texted me from This number, who is this, who were you trying to reach?" I have no idea who is really on the other side of that text, could be a wife or a girlfriend, Questions like that can ruin his life. Now, if it is him and he is unsure, he should have an idea of the ladies he contacted and he can pm me right? One would think that he he struck the jackpot in the escort world, instead he rudely said this " This isnt the fortune 500, what the hell are you doing here? " Really! I'm still in shock that this level of discretion wasn't appreciated.
Obviously not a guy you want to be spending time with in the first place. Not all business is good business. He saved you a lot of time and drama.
I don't understand what is happening to some hobbyists! But, it happens mostly some where else. Here everyone is awesome!
I don't condone the impolite response. On the other hand, I have received texts that have simply said hello and I sincerely don't know who is sending the text. One time I asked who it was, and received a response. On another occasion I asked who the text was from and received no response.
Very good point, But is it too difficult to simply send an email, or however you normally communicate with each other and say, "Hey, I just sent you a text", or "I'll text you the details in a few minutes"? There is a certain politeness or class you should have. Not even just as a hobbiest/provider, but as a normal thinking adult.
Actually, as I mentioned, I always ask how they prefer to. Be contacted? I prefer pm or email myself as I really rather not risk interrupting someone's private life. That is why I am hesitant about saying more than Hello. What I always do is send a pm, lettjng them know their references checked out, and I then leave my contacts # with a very discreet phrase for them to text me with me. I'll understand but should someone else look at my phone, it fits into my civilian job.
The exchange with this person never got as far as getting verified. He wanted my # right off the bat. I explained that I only give my # once verified. And we exchanged several pm's until he become rude. I was only explaining to him the lengths I would go to to always protect his privacy because he had such an issue with my screening form. I was trying to put him at ease when I told him I would never Volunteer any info should I get a text from his phone asking me who I was. I NEVER initiate contact with anyone on their mobile or private number. I guess that is why I was taken by surprise when he became rude. I understood apprehensive, so I was very patient with him in that regard, but after that, I blocked him.
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to set up a date. Email can be read and responded to when the provider has the private time to do so. Texts can be annoying if with other civie friends who just might glance at the phone and the discretion has vanished.
As a hobbyist, I do not continue contact after the meeting. On the other hand, I have no problem with a provider contacting me, as a number do, to let me know they will be in/near my location in the future. And, I don't mind brief contact with a "hello" or "how are you?" as long as I know who is communicating with me. The original post in this thread raises the issue of communication without perhaps knowing who it is. From my perspective, it would be nice to know who the communication is coming from if I am not familiar with who is sending the communication to me.