I received couple of unsolicited PM from a "famous & popular" provider who frequents this board. She said about visiting Tampa and her interest to meet me. Not professional.
I have rarely been contacted by a provider unsolicited. Personally, I would welcome an interested provider contacting me without me contacting them first. I get it the discussion board is all about the hobby and a forum to talk about things. We all read reviews, do you ladies ever think, hey, I might want some of that! And pm a guy just to let them know you are interested? Would the guys mind, say agree with TER in your profile to put a check mark by your name letting others know it would be ok? I am not talking about mass spam emails from providers to the hobbiests? I am just saying there are so many reviews, it is hard to keep track of them! I may have 50 providers in my "favorites" file but never even go back and look who I put in there to go back and check later and perhaps contact. EOM
Specially if the gentleman is married (Not a very good thing if you sent him a text message and the phone falls into the wrong hands). Part of being successful in the hobby is to be discreet and respect the boundaries that each person has as well as their personal life. As much as girls would like to capture the market completely, we need to have a code of conduct. And yes, everyday tons of reviews populate in this region but if the lady has the right marketing and advertising strategy in place, she won't disappear among all those reviews, instead, those will become extra advertising so she can get unsolicited business regularly. The only exception to the rule is when a gentleman reaches out to me asking if I plan to visit his city on TER, if I do, I will notify him via TER or via email if he so requested.
No where did I say anything about anybody's phone number. The hobbiest must already have username and password. I am talking internal PM from one member to another. Scenario, palomamontecarlo knows brigit3003 and sees that a gentleman in Miami with 200 reviews loved Brigit and left a great review. Paloma asks Brigitte did she have a good time and does she think said gent would like Paloma, too? Brigit thinks so so Paloma sends the gent a secure, internal PM and says "hi, how are you?" Eom
Way to attract and conduct business, if you look a a threat or a couple down, another poster even found the activity suspicious. I think an upscale provider should abstain from that practice IMHO, but every lady knows how to handle her business. Just not my personal preference or how I want to be perceived among the community.
I Respect that, it was just a question. I live in north central Florida and have lusted after your phenomenal body for quite some time. I even sent you an email that you responded to . I would be honored that if our paths ever cross you could see me. Pending references and screening, of course . MUAH !
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Way to attract and conduct business, if you look a a threat or a couple down, another poster even found the activity suspicious. I think an upscale provider should abstain from that practice IMHO, but every lady knows how to handle her business. Just not my personal preference or how I want to be perceived among the community.
I find nothing wrong with sending a PM about something one might have posted on the board to make their answer more private. Also having the opportunity to express one's likes about specifics should be refined by PM .... This is an open board which anyone may read.
The casual banter is fun and you get to know a little about the personality behind the persona
like my regulars or UTR friends I take it as "she is desperate and needs $$" and I feel empowered to begin the negotiation process. Whereas if a girl has her add and rates published and I contact her it is understood that negotiation is not part of the arrangement. My 2 cents
says they can't contact us. Personally, I have no problem with a provider contacting me. If she interests me, I will do the research on her. That will determine whether or not I will visit her. I do have a small number of providers I have seen before that send me emails when they are returning to my town. I like that, because I will probably see them if I do not have something already set up for when they are in town.
texts and phone calls are off limits since the hobby phone is safely tucked away when not being used.
There are several former Tampa ladies who have moved away that sometimes come back to visit. They let me know a few weeks in advance so I can arrange to see them.
It's a sweet notion but I think most ladies have their hands full with screening clients, reading their reviews and checking out the girls they've seen. There isn't a lot of time to poke around looking for someone to solicit.
I've known of ladies who want to see a gentleman they consider "special" or a potentially outstanding client and know of them putting downright *pressure* on the gent to see them. It was so awkward for a friend (hobbyist) that he told me about it and asked me what to do. I was mortified when he told me the extent of the solicitation. He was so out of sorts about it that he gave her a "gift (or two because she kept asking!) but never had a session with her. He was scared of her so figured he'd do whatever it took to appease her.
So, in closing, I suppose some ladies could get away with reaching out to a hobbiest first but she better be knockout hot, young (but not too young) and have stellar reviews. However, hotties and "it" girls are usually in such high demand that it isn't likely she'll go shopping for you. lol! Double edged sword!!!
PMs are inappropriate. To each her own, but I prefer to be pursued. I want to see gents who have found me on their own- via my ads or even these boards. I have sent a PM now and again if I like something someone has posted, but I send those equally to men and women. They are very platonic in nature.
Great question...I would in the form as a PM and only to follow up with a conversation they started. Otherwise, it is shaky ground texting, calling, emailing..you never know.
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. I would be honored that if our paths ever cross you could see me. Pending references and screening, of course . MUAH ! 
EOM