Lesson learned. Select only ladies who have been well reviewed on TER.

I find it very fitting that the first response to this message was, "Is this a rant or a recommendation?"  Because, this treatment is exactly what some men want when they ask to have a mistress and it's not far off the mark.  Many BDsM communities do not include sex in their scene work.  

I'm curious if you discussed what you wanted in your session BEFORE it started?  If not, I would hope you would refrain from giving this provider a publicly posted bad review.  Instead, see this as a good opportunity to discuss with HER the feedback from your session directly.  

Communication is key!  If you don't talk about what you want, then it's not likely that you'll get it.... especially when it comes to the very wonderful and diverse worlds of kink and BDSM.  

I encourage everyone to practice discussing their desires so that you can get what you want!  

~Siren

I am sure there are at least a few of us here that at least dabble a little in a bit of DOM/sum play.  The most important part of such, as with just about anything here is trust and consent.  Regardless if ones partner in a hobby experience is dominant, submissive, or not into D/s, its important that both ( or more) involved are getting or doing what they want.  It is especially important in a D/s interaction that the one in charge make sure that while limits may be stretched, the submissive is not being taken out of their comfort zone.  In a professional encounter such as the one in this situation,  the one getting paid should be absolutely sure the client is getting what they want as long as it falls within the providers limits  Admittedly its harder the first time to know what is expected but there is no excuse for a provider to ignore a clients wishes or requests.  It is the responsibility of the dominant one to make sure the submissive is safe and at minimum not having a problem with any activity going on.  

There is a multitude of activities that fall under BDSM and it seems that the dominant in this situation was stuck on only humiliation and the client wasn't looking for a full session of that.   It seems that the provider had her limits or areas that she practiced that did not match the clients.  They should have discussed what each was expecting before to make sure their interests matched or the session should have ended or at least paused when limits were reached.

I know I may not have expressed the above exactly right but I hope my meaning got across.    

As usual, I will put on my flame resistant attire for the replies.