Here is something the other way. I have known a very well known provider in Orlando for years, met her in public places but has never made a date with her. It is just mutual liking and friendship.
s a human being (at least for me), it is difficult for me to see anyone as a dollar sign.
I DO spend SOME time with gentlemen clients "off the clock"
BUT, it's a rare event and I choose them carefully.
Misleading anyone is a cruel thing to do and I'm happily single, I'm not looking for love so, IF a man is seriously "coming on" to me and seems lonely and or vulnerable ... I do not even entertain the thought. Emails, phone calls Etc are ok with these types but, sometimes, even that can get out of control.
So, I have learned through the years how to "stay distant" AT THE SAME TIME as letting them know I do care, I ENCOURAGE them to see as many women as possible.
The men who are secure in their lives and do NOT want to change their lives are the ones I see "off the clock". As I already said... it's a rare occurrence but, when I do, I usually have a great time as, we seem to see the world similarly. 
Over the years I became good friends with two providers. Neither are in the biz anymore. One - we drifted apart when she moved away. The second - we have maintained a fairly close friendship - I was one of her very first clients and she was one of my first providers.
The first was one of those "Friends at first site". Yes, she was leery at first (nature of the biz), but it was obvious to both we genuinely liked each other. We both were honest with each other knowing there was no romantic future. We had good times chatting on the phone or spending precious hours together. She became very trusting of me as became her "sounding board". She ended up in a serious relationship, moved away and I haven't heard from her in a while.
The second - we still get together and have fun times and serious discussions with no romantic expectations.
From what I know of the biz, this sort of relationship is very rare.
They may be rare for some hobbiests and providers, but for the long time ones I suspect it is more common than you think...
There are several ladies over the 20 plus years I have hobbied that are to this day close friends. Several I speak with on a regular basis even though there is a great distance between our locations we are still friends and discuss our lives and families as well as work with each other.
Some of them have left the hobby and moved on while keeping the friendship we started in the hobby, so yes it is possible.
The sounding board thing is something I think is more common also. When a lady finds a hobbiest friend who is none threatening, kind, and they can tell truly cares about them and their safety they open up and share more back. Those are true two way friendships and golden! Never EVER violate those kind of friendships!
some intimate time. Usually only with my friends that I see on a regular basis, never with new friends. I think it is great especially if you enjoy each others company. I know that there are many providers that would not do this and it is usually cause they have a S.O. or are strictly business. But for me having an enjoyable evening or experience and creating memories counts for more than the dollar.
Great question
Kisses
Elle Vegas
Posted By: 2Magician
I meet several different providers from time to time for drinks or happy hour. I usually pick up the tab but not always. When we agree for a date I pay them for their time. I was wondering if many providers Saw hobbyists off the clock? These meetings are exceptionally private and intimate. Do you believe there is a line that should not be crossed with hobbyists? Thanks, eom.
Elle is the sweetest. I met her at a m&g. Have not seen her privately, however those plans are in motion. Literally one of the nicest ladies ever, very easy to talk to and full of energy. Also she is just strikingly beautiful. Can't wait to see her again.
wonderful things, and I am grateful for that every day. Im involved with my family, the community, many projects, and my day job. Because of that I work very part time with this, so there just isn't extra free time. When I do have some space in my schedule, I'll fill it with family.
I adore my friends I meet here. I give 100% of myself when I am with someone. But I just have a schedule that demands I plan carefully. So OTC is not on the menu. I also believe it blurs the lines. You'll never have to worry about me following you home. Lol! 
I think OTC time is more likely shared by the younger ladies who may not have many demands on their time yet.
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I would normally never do that. I like when guys take me to dinner, of course. Sometimes I will have an OTC dinner with a special client before a date. That's fun - lots of flirting leading up to "dessert."
Recently my fave client went above and beyond to plan a totally amazing birthday surprise for me. He even got my fave female porn star involved in the surprise! So taking him out to dinner is a nice thank-you, and the least I can do.
Wish all my clients were that thoughtful, creative, fun, and awesome
May I wish you a belated Very Happy Birthday wish ! borneo
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when you meet a client and you just click, this happens...on pure accident. I have had a few friends in the past that have helped me in ways I cannot ever repay, but I am so grateful for. I'm not talking just materialistic things but pushing me to excel in school and believe in me. You can't help chemistry!
Usually, if a guy asks to meet me for free, it is a red flag that he is CLOSET HAGGLER.
I do not like getting requests like that !!!
I get often get "closet haggler" messages that hint around about "free dates."
That is the wrong way to start with me ...
In real life, YES, there have been times "off the clock" shared with a client and me.
I actually think the paid dates go better because I am trying to make it "worth it" for him.
"Off the clock" usually goes more like this; I am his city and I lost my wallet. I am sleeping on his couch because I can't get a hotel room. I have no make-up on. I am fully dressed with a backpack on. He has to go to work soon, so we hug and go to sleep.
If you look at this Florida message board, I did put up a post, requesting companionship to a SW FL pregnant bikini contest that I wanted to see !!! FREE SOCIAL TIME WITH ME openly solicited on TER !!! Also, in the past, sometimes I will openly solicit social hangouts, but usually it is "doing something that is more of a girly hobby that the guy will enjoy less than I will enjoy" ... I know better than to ask for financial compensation for companionship to my girly hobbies. For instance, I was soliciting FREE SOCIAL TIME on another PMB, while I was touring Austin, Texas. I really wanted to go to Death Metal Pizza and The Cathedral of Junk and the contemporary art museum. I openly solicited FREE SOCIAL TIME on the ATX PMB.
