i'm not certain what you mean by "take a cut from a regular", but i always respond to reference requests, without fail.  even if i see a guy frequently, i'm grown-up enough and understand this hobby enough to know i have no claim over him.  a gentleman is free to see who he wants, when he wants, and i will always do him the courtesy of a reference.

i also get plenty frustrated with women who do not respond to reference requests - for whatever reason - or who play games to try to "retain" a "regular".  there are more than a few right here on this board!  ladies, i have a bulletin for you:  we do not own these men, and the name of the game is VARIETY.  sheesh!

So, woke up from a dream tonight and was thinking about this...
A friend of mine asked me this question.  Ladies, are you you willing to give out a reference to take a cut from a regular? or do you not reply? I always answer requests, I am happy to provide references for true gents and it's the name of the game.  If they return, that's great, I am thankful.  I give everybody this respect, do you?


French kisses

Elle Vegas

to be used as a reference, but indeed I would.

Do you mean to give a reference to someone else that your regular wants to see? Of course I would give a reference. I am not getting the money because if he wanted to see me then he would but he wants to see someone else and in my opinion to not give the reference because I am angry/upset/bitter that a regular is seeing someone else is silly and childish. I don't own any of them so why not? I cannot tell them who to see and who not to and even if a provider would not give a reference he will see who he wants to anyway. There are providers who do not seek references so he can have his fun behind my back, whooo! LOL.

I dont see this as a catch 22 at all.  I think giving a reference is simply part of good customer service.  I always respond to reference requests.  Although I am continually surprised at the ladies that give no response at all.  It simply says something about them in my opinion.

in the hobby, as in life, attitude is everything...

I agree. I encourage gents to have fun with other ladies. Most of the time they come back e

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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m_wfHbWywjA

............when they leave, or if I forget, in my thank you e-mail, the following:  While I truly enejoyed our time together, and I would love to visit with again, please know that you may list me as a reference, should you wish to visit with another lady".

  This makes it very easy for the gentleman, as some feel like they are "cheating", if they see someone else.

  While I do not rely on references, as a sole means of verification, I would never not provide one.

Hugs and Kisses,
Kelly

don't own anyone.  That is part of the fun with this hobby is that all men have different tastes and wants.  Therefore, variety is the key!!!

I just don't understand for the life of me why ladies get so possessive and go ape over a gent wishing to test the waters.

For me, I will gladly give a reference if the gent has seen me in the past 6 months is my personal preference. If it has been longer, I will just inform the lady as such.

It all boils down to jealousy and there is just no place for it here..let's just all have fun!!!

I ALWAYS give a reference whether it is locally or from out of state. I also recommend ladies in my area to clients who ask when I am not around or traveling (which is alot LOL) I believe and was taught that caring is sharing LOL. And we are just one big family who should support one another afterall we are all here for the same reason. In my eyes it's bad karma not to share. Just my opinion and what I believe. I also think its nice to get to know who the refernece friendly gals are (they are the ones I DONOT HESITATE to refer). Hugs Aways JoJo

this is probably a HOT topic on the providers only board

I can only imagine what goes on, on that board ....................

Like so many posts I see on here,I think this qualifies for the general discussion board but to answer your question: if Ive seen a gent in the past 6 months I will gladly vouch for him. I WILL NOT ever go into detail with a ref request.

As far as the "take a cut" comment, I dont follow. You mean take money from the girl for giving her the ref?

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I don't do it often so when I ask it feels important to me. Saying that I understand how others feel about being safe. My problem is men I haven't seen in over 2 years or more using me as a reference and really not knowing their right first name never mind last.

I have only used screening in the last few years and that is only if I go to a gentleman's hotel. Now with my new incall I am very careful as well. To all the nice gentlemen who might read this with a smile and were forced to visit my no-tell motel for their first visit to save themselves from divulging personal info I want to thank you. My experience through the last 15 years is very different than any lady here. I just love it when a lady has his first and last name with a phone number and e-mail and all I have is a 3, 5, 10 or maybe even 15 year old fake name. Once I talk with the gentleman I know exactly who he is and can give a reference. Some have moved away years ago and use to see me once or twice a month. Tough to remember what a man was really like after a few years so I do mention this but most of the time my judgement is spot on.

References are important but not expected so respect and understanding for a ladies schedule goes a long way. Many of us don't have fancy cell phones so if it's not in your mail box right away don't get upset. Same day appointments don't fly because a lady didn't get right back to you. She is working just like you. It's the man's fault for not doing the courteous thing and contacting the lady himself and giving info about his future date. I know I always check the lady out and match info that is available. Hope others do the same

Just a little extra info on the subject that some never think about

PS : On my website it is noted about how I handle references

Kisses Haley

a gent will see whomever he wants, when he wants.  he does not need permission - in this case, in the form of a reference - from Provider A to see Provider B.  most of us know how to screen without references (although it's less than optimal), so if Provider A decides she's unwilling to take a "pay cut" from her regular and balks at a reference request...i daresay he's going elsewhere anyway.  all she's done by refusing to cooperate is hurt herself.

sheesh.. women!

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it is the BOTTOM LINE, IMO...

a great provider WANTS her clients to see
as many other providers as possible.


It has nothing to do with "pay cuts"... It is the OPPOSITE.
IF you are "on top of your game" they will always return to you.
Seeing other providers should only remind them of what they like about YOU.


The "pay cut' mentality is EXACTLY what they are in this hobby
to escape from.

giving of references when asked by another reputable  provider was part of being a professional in this business.  I have never had a problem with this, but that may be because I usually see very established & reputable providers, and I almost never try to schedule last-minute appt., giviing plenty of time for the provider to obtain references.  I'm not even sure I understand the concept you're alluding to, taking a lower fee from a client to promise to provide references?  If anything, iit would seem more likely for a client to offer a tip above the agreed-to fee if you were to promise to give good references.  This would indicate he didn't think he'd 'earned' a good reference on his own.

But there are women that won't give references at all!
I had one provider that refused to give a reference and told me that she would not give one of her clients to another provider cause that was her income. Horrible angry and rude she was and I wish I could name her! But I can't I'm too nice anyways.


French kisses

Elle Vegas
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I mean its qute simple, do unto others....

Those who are not kind in providing refs will prob suffer in the long run.

As far as take a cut, this is what t is and we are who we are, so its safe to presume that guys will see other girls, rght?

I love it when a lady I've seen gives me a great reference. If I find out they gave me a great reference and I remember that we had a great time together I'll book with that same provider again. That's my reward for helping me try to find another good provider to see every once and a while. I want that reference process to go by as smoothly as possible.