A person in the "HOBBY" world happen to come across my personal faceboook page via a mutual friend.
I keep "Jezhabel" a secret in my REAL LIFE
This person told my friend "Hey I know that girl on your page"
My friend responded "Oh ya..how do you know her"
and this person actually told them about me being an escort and about my websites and posts
WOW
My point to this is....People dont do this, there are many of us that really would like to keep this part of our life private.
I did not want this person to know about this 
In the past Ive also had a guy come up to me in public while I was shopping with friends and say "Hey arent you Jezhabel?" Im so and so on such and such .com
Come on people use common sense
Posted By: Jezhabel
A person in the "HOBBY" world happen to come across my personal faceboook page via a mutual friend.
I keep "Jezhabel" a secret in my REAL LIFE
This person told my friend "Hey I know that girl on your page"
My friend responded "Oh ya..how do you know her"
and this person actually told them about me being an escort and about my websites and posts
WOW
My point to this is....People dont do this, there are many of us that really would like to keep this part of our life private.
I did not want this person to know about this
In the past Ive also had a guy come up to me in public while I was shopping with friends and say "Hey arent you Jezhabel?" Im so and so on such and such .com
Come on people use common sense
That's the reason why people in professions who wish to remain anonymous should NOT use social networking sites. If they MUST use them, they should use avatars or something else for their profile picture.
Information like pictures you post can have privacy settings like "friends only", "friends of friends", and "everyone" regarding who can see them.
So while I feel for your situation....if you're gonna use FB....then know HOW to use it and keep your shit private.
Sorry....but some of this is on you for not covering your own ass well enough.
Just sayin'
The reason I stay away from FB, I agree with you 100% Melboning!
Sorry this happened to you Jezhabel, but common sense is the ticket here.
Good luck to you,
Sindie
I have been in your shoes and know the feeling all too well..You feel betrayed and basically "outed"...
This person is to blame for this not you so I will not jump your case. I don't feel that is appropriate when someone is down and out.
I will politely suggest though that you put everything on private if you wish to continue having this. One good thing is that it may not prevent someone from recognizing you (that is if you show your face) but they won't be able to view your list of friends or your wall, etc. I believe each thing has it's own separate private status. Just double check.
I do agree 100%...people need to not spread the word...that is just wrong on all levels..
Makenzie
Good luck to you..
There is no privacy, anyone if they have the time or the money can find out anything about you. Every message or email you send, every post on this site is attached to an IP address.
Sometimes it's best not to put your 2 cents in.
Will you ever learn?
Sindie
Sad thing was , it was a fellow provider I had met 1 time
I have read a few posts both supporting and laying the blame on Jezhabel. But what if the shoe was on the other foot?
I mean come on guys, what if a provider found you on facebook and decided to do the same deal..."hey remember me, I am in town again if you want to get together, etc" and low and behold all your friends and/or SO sees all this. Yeah somehow I dont think the "you shoulda set your privacy setting appropriately" would really fly. And I think the person would be on this forum screaming from the mountain tops about how unprofessional said provider was.
Dont get me wrong, I agree you must protect yourself at all costs by using privacy settings, fake emails, numbers etc. but lets not forget about what this hobby is all about...discretion and respect.
Golden Rule - Do to others as you would have them do to you. So a little common sense and courtesy to the ladies...cause karma can be a bitch.
Jesus-Jumping-Christ-on-a-pogo-stick.....WTF is going on??
Is it oversensitivity day?
Now we have two posts so far talking about laying blame...and karma....and all sorts of other happy horse shit?!?
I'm sorry. I guess I should have belted out some ethereal tunes on my lute while lighting incense and dancing around the fire in my loin cloth woven from virgin vines while gyrating to the sounds of a Pagan drum circle............and merely said "It's ok Honey....you did nothing wrong whatsoever. It's all the other person. Bad baaaaad other person. Life is wonderful. Life is sweet. We must beware the baaaaad people as we do nothing wrong. Wanna apple?"
Fuck that.
Pardon the shit out of me for daring to bring up the concept of personal responsibility and looking out for one's own ass. Anyone who knows me (and if you can't figure it out...you're not too bright or haven't been here long) KNOWS my response was pretty reserved.
And I'm not going to apologize....it makes sense. I didn't blame or blast her in any way. Pussies.
So "karma" and the oversensitive douchebags of this world.......can suck my cock.
Just sayin'
DD
(hey....can you tell I'm quitting smoking this week?) 
LMAO!
Let me apologize. The karma comment was not directed in the direction of the posters, rather in the direction of the persons who do not respect the privacy of our providers, regardless of whether they are proud and open with their profession or not.
So back away from the edge Melboning and slap another nicotine patch on your arm. All is well and I agree with your comments that there needs to be some personal responsibility and accountability to every situation, this included. Sometimes it isn't what you say, but how you say it
I think what needs to be addressed and I feel maybe hasnt is the "invasion of personal space" and the right to do so. Personally, if a provider tells you her real name and wants some contact outside of the business fine, otherwise, as I stated before. Common sense, discretion and respect is in order.
the hobbyist should never have said he knew her as an escort without knowing that her friend was aware of Jez's secret life. That was totally wrong on his part.
This is just another reason for hobbyists and providers who encounter each other in public should be very careful what they say, if anything at all.
I had a situation about a year and a half ago, where I stumbled on a provider's FB page using her stage name on it. I friended her, since I had seen her professionally, and she accepted. Some time later, she posted her provider tour schedule on her FB page, and it popped up on my page. Most of my other FB friends do not know I hobby.
I told her she should remove her schedule or I would have to defriend her. She left it on there and I had to drop her as a friend before some people figured out what was going on.
Swim
Posted By: swimtrekr
the hobbyist should never have said he knew her as an escort without knowing that her friend was aware of Jez's secret life. That was totally wrong on his part.
Swim
It wasnt a client it was a PROVIDER....Come to find out she had done this to others too
must be exercised by all concerned to protect the personal lives of others.
As has been said before, the internet is forever.
I think that if you're going to be on ANY social media whether it be personal or professional a bit of discretion is necessary. Privacy settings can be set, pictures set to certain view settings, avatars used BUT it is not appropriate to spot someone and then feel free to spill their secret to another. Being out about your hobby or profession may work for some but it does not work for all; telling another's business is never okay.
You guys are right, that is a risk in this BIZ but I guess I live by the unwritten hobby rule of DISCRETION ... lol
I guess its so jaw dropping to me because I would NEVER do such a thing
Like I sais, Just wanted to vent
Hopefully this post will teach others not to do the same thing
xoxoxox
People can be such idiots! Outing someone in the biz like that is just stupid! I've seen a provider out in public once, who I've seen a few times, and I didn't go near her, simply because she wasn't alone. If you can't be discreet, leave it alone!
But this is just one more affirmation as to how I live my private life....private. I do not have facebook or myspace. I am unlisted in the phone book...I am now going as far as to not see people anymore in my hometown. I too had a person come up to me in public at friends birthday dinner and try to out me. I just played it off as he was drunk (which he was) and luckily it didnt go any further. This is the risk we both take...as providers and hobbyist in this business. I don't think anyone has the right to play the blame game....we all make decisions and mistakes. What we should do is learn from them and move on.
Jazhabel....hold her head high girl... and don't listen to these assholes who want to pass judgement. We live and learn.
