I have been blessed to encounter many gentlemen in this arena, who would go above and beyond to make me feel very comfortable, that is definitely the memorable. part. The wow factor occurs when they are interesting, successful and of course give you pleasure that rocks your world (of course you want to rock their world too and knock their socks off).
Moreover, I feel that chemistry is everything, so If you connect with that person mentally and physically is what makes the encounter unique and special.

like I am the only guy she knows or cares about. The provider needs to be a good listener and well spoken about various subjects so that we can "connect" beyond the physical part. Sure, physical attraction and play is a big part of a date but the meeting of the minds really adds to the chemistry which enhances the overall experience.

In summary, a true courtesan delivers all of the above.

I am totally taken back when I find a real new friend who I can't wait to see again. The sensual aspects of time spent take up much more time than getting to know more about the men you meet the first time around. This makes it harder to make that connection.

When a gentleman books extra time just for the purpose of spending quality time cuddling and talking I am very impressed. When this man says he's looking for someone to see on a regular basis he's putting his money where his mouth is and deserves more attention from me. By far this is not the norm since with the hobby cums variety.

This mature over 45 affectionate leggy lady has always advertised "on the prowl for new friends", which sometimes doesn't feel relevant in today's fast paced, hit and run quickies.

Kisses Haley

For me,  the greatest delight and success factor, is bringing my partner to at least one memorable ORGASM!  Of course the prelude to this is some meaningful conversation, the journey of unhurried touching, kissing, rubbing, etc.  As the journey goes so in the measure of delight in the destination(s).

I wish more would, and maybe they will given time. I am patient.

Looks like many of us look for the same things from an engagement- to be made to feel comfortable, safe, and like the only one in the world who matters, just for that moment.

But the definition of fun transcends the hour or two we may have spent together in each others company with a clock in the room.  I need to understand the individual I'm with in order to be able to give pleasure as well as receive. The first experience is often awkward because of the nature of the hobby. A first dance, if you will, where you find out if you can both tango or if you are simply stepping on toes. It may not be a perfect tango,  but it should at least be recognizable as a dance.

One of the reasons I have frequented clubs for decades instead of calling on a lady is that I have the opportunity to get to know the person behind the profession. It makes the experience that more pleasurable because I have learned what the likes and dislikes of that individual is before it becomes time for a dance. I get to play with them and possibly make them laugh or blush without the pressure of the falling sands of an hourglass. If I can make a lady laugh and blush then I learn what to recognize in them when they experience true pleasure.  Breaking through that barrier through mutual respect and trust and finding true friendship can add more to the experience than any toy or unusual desire.

I have fairly vanilla tastes, you might say that intelligence in a woman is my kink and that my knowledge of the person I am sharing a moment in time with, makes it a more memorable and lasting experience. I currently have memories in this hobby that are so pleasurable that I will likely see them and experience them as I take my last breath.  What is the reason for living if you don't have fun and ensure that those you encounter in life are having fun as well. And if you aren't having and giving pleasure, then it is time to  move on to someone and/or something new. Anything less just isn't living.