Any good relationship needs rules both parties can agree to. If you dont think its cheating it doesnt really matter. What matters is what she thinks. And is it ok if she does whatever you do? Talk to her about what you want to do, she may surprise you if you tell her she can do whatever you can do. But if she says no way, then you have 3 options: dont do it find a new partner who is ok with 'swinging' or can provide you with what you are seeking outside or be very careful and discreet
I agree with what another poster said, let's get some discussion going on here.
What is your opinion on being with an escort if you are not single? I tend to think that the heart needs to be involved for cheating to occur. This isn't the case with escorts IMO, as it's a service you pay for, not a romantic liason. I came to this conclusion as I was getting a lapdance once (well, after it was over anyway), and didn't see much difference between that and taking things to the next level of hiring an escort.
Maybe I'm just rationalizing things, but I'm curious to know what others (single and not, escorts and hobbyists) think about it.
As a hobbyyist for a number of years, when it becomes necessary to "go outside the home" to get basic needs met (strip club with lap dances, MP's, providers, etc.) then it is not cheating. It is a fantasy that comes true. Just my opinion.
Likewise, if you have an affair with emotional involement, then that is a different story.
I tend to think that it makes no difference what u think, as Gman said, its what ur wife thinks. My wife and I hobby together some, and i hobby alone. If she knew i was hobbying alone she would consider it cheating....go figure.....
When I was doing it I never thought of it as cheating. I looked at it like a business deal. Look at it as an investment in the improvement of your marriage. LOL Nothing wrong with that.
Any good relationship needs rules both parties can agree to. If you dont think its cheating it doesnt really matter. What matters is what she thinks. And is it ok if she does whatever you do? Talk to her about what you want to do, she may surprise you if you tell her she can do whatever you can do. But if she says no way, then you have 3 options: dont do it find a new partner who is ok with 'swinging' or can provide you with what you are seeking outside or be very careful and discreet
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