All of this over a petty girl fight?? It doesn't seem reasonable does it?  

It has come to my attention that another provider has made a point of contacting various TER personalities - unsolicited without ever having met or spoken to these persons –– to tell them to stay away from me, I'm bad news so on and so forth. I'm not interested in discussing names nor am I interested in flaming it out on the boards. What I can say is that I was absolutely **shocked** to hear that a "sister" of mine would go to such great lengths to run a hate campaign against another provider. Given such I felt a need to speak up on my own behalf.  

Spreading petty politics to people who aren't even privy to our personalities is off-color to say the least but it's also far, far beyond anything I would consider doing to another lady in the business -- particularly when the hostility stemmed from a **ridiculous** girl disagreement and something that would never find a place in the "big picture" if you choose to look at it.  

The provider I'm referring to has crossed some very significant lines with regard to the cardinal rules of hobbying and providing –– all of which have been meticulously documented and archived. These documents show a plethora of unreciprocated hate messages and malicious motives by this provider from publishing ALL of my civilian information online (including my private cell number, my civilian business name, my voter ID no. and more) and then linking it to my TER profile number to calling me from a phone number just .5 miles away from where my family lives and works to leave me a message implying violence and vandalism against my family and our property. I was so shaken and frightened that I shared the voicemail message with an attorney. My documentation shows communication from  AT&T and Google Voice confirming blocking her from calling me on 3 different numbers. The stalking and harassment continued for months ---- ***unreciprocated*** but always documented - but sometimes shared with certain mutual acquaintances she would mention in her hate messages (for protection purposes only).  There was no end in sight and I was at my wits end so consulted a criminal attorney about filing an injunction against her. I gave her fair warning of my intentions (as it is something I really didn't want to have to do) to see if the hundreds of emails, phone calls, twitter messages and text messages would cease. Suddenly and just 12 hours away from filing things fell quiet on the western front.  

I believe that the threat of the injunction is the possible reason why she took her libelous statements underground and started PMing people privately. I sense that she knew she was making a bed and that I was about to make her lie in it with regard to all of the documents and records I have proving her **unprovoked** endless harassment and hate slurs -- not to mention the attorney and the injunction email correspondence I've also saved -- all of which would have come out publicly and most certainly wouldn't have made her look quite so attractive to her gentleman callers after such.  

Again - I'm not going to mention this person's name so please don't ask - either publicly or privately. I've no interest in a tit for tat or a second online war with this individual. I simply wanted to speak up for myself and to remind people that you can't always take people on TER for who they say they are or for what they say at face value. I invite those of you who have been contacted and warned away from me to reach out and see for yourself who Laney really is - a kind, caring, **honest**, witty and intelligent woman who's far more focused on her own personal goals, world politics and the "big" picture than the negative, repetitious theatrics of certain narcissistic personalities who have been using TER and the tools it offers to we ladies to be *successful* to new lows by using it to target and smear persons they feel threatened by.  

In closing, I would like to apologize to anyone who might have been contacted randomly and invited into a matter they know nothing of. I am still doing my best to distance myself from the situation and this person so am declining invitations from friends who have visited with or met her before. My goal is to disassociate myself as completely as possible as she is an individual I've *no* respect for and want absolutely *no* association with.  

And ––– on that note -- it's time for a workout at the gym followed by some hot cocoa and a cozy night cuddled under the covers!  

Stay warm everyone!!!
xo Laney

keep playing the games she does. Jealousy is a bitch and will bite her in the ass every time.

I hope that you come out of this horrible situation with your sanity, safety and reputation intact.
HUGS!!!

I have had a similar situation happen to me, although on not as high a plane as yours.  And all just because I helped a provider in need.  I do not know what drives these people to do things like this, because this is a hobby where we are all supposed to have fun, not endure pain and anguish from others.  IMHO, I hope the old saying 'what goes around, comes around' applies to your tormentor as well as mine.

Swim
xoxo

So sorry to hear you went through this.....
I first started in Seattle and we were ALL a close knit community and us gals all worked together. It was such a great friendly sister atmosphere . The other gals helped me with questions per the hobby etc etc. They were all so awesome! If I was booked I would call another gal and ask her if she was available and they also reciprocated. Great times. No jealousy,  hardly any drama and it was the perfect time to start in the hobby in Seattle  (spent 3 1/2 years there) .  
Then I moved to Florida LOL. Completely different type of atmosphere here as I found out (5 yrs ago). It's not the same here. We are all in this together and I take pride  in surrounding myself with established providers who think and have the great morals that I began with.  
Kuddos to you Laney for being so professional about your situation. And what she did was uncalled for and I truly believe that Karma will take care of those who do wrong to others in one way or another. Once again I feel for you and stay strong!

you do seem to attract drama and that must be exhausting at every level.

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... I've barely posted or started a thread in over 6 months. I've seen only a handful of people while caring for the dog but I attract drama? Highly doubtful.

...as that's always how I've viewed our special little community. I've always thought of ourselves as members of a tight knit club and that anyone who was a part of it was special --- and good. I've always thought we should protect one another's identities like we would protect our own and thought we all did until this happened. I don't wish an "outing" on anyone but let me tell you that if it does it registers a very specific reaction of physical violation. It was like a stranger had been in my home. It's affected me so intensely that I've all but sabotaged every single invitation extended over the last several months. I've been concerned about my physical safety and have been scared to see anyone in Orlando so have chosen to go without rather than live in fear. I've never given that much power over to anyone in this business but according to my therapist she's a serial narcissist (serial bully) and that makes her dangerous to me.  

hear! hear to girl power and a hear! hear! hear! to girl code!!!  

xoxo L

And I am sure your comments are a great comfort coming from an alias.

Aren't there enough problems and pressures from outside the community without those inside adding

How is the little guy doing?  He was so cute.

Coming from someone using an alias too funny.

Please keep in mind that this is simply a reflection of her character ...... or rather lack there of .....
Pathetic, childish and completely tasteless acts .....
Kiss kiss,
Torre

Friends in the hobby and I speak of those who have been through this before.  Where one person or the next feels they care be bigger by intimidating or pushing another into the gutter.  When we see this it usually takes us back to a time when we have personally been dragged into something less than positive.

I can remember a few I have been dragged into and they are situations I would rather forget.  I believe in many instances these bad times make us stronger and create a desire to make sure we treat others with more respect.  In turn when we someone go out of their way to make another feel or look bad in the eyes of others....  I think we tend to loose respect for the person slinging the mud...  

I do not know Laney but from what I can see she is a good person and I respect her for standing up and letting the world know she has been wronged without slinging mud at the person responsible.  That is CLASS!

Laney I am truly sorry someone has wronged you it is just WRONG!  Yes Torre I used that line again my friend  

I hope this once again will bring about reflection and for us to think before we treat others in a way that is less than respectful, because I truly believe there is Karma in the world and those who do things for the wrong reasons will live out the Karma in a way that is less than delightful.

DJ  AKA Bigpart52

How did your parents come up with USGrantlover as a name for you? As you imply it is not an alias  

I love that line ..... but it's better when I can hear you say it ... you say it with such conviction and I like that!
Love you - miss you - mean it .....
Kisses,
Torre

... forever home. He's living with children, parents, grandparents, another dog and a bunny. He gets to sleep on the bed, he lives inside all of the time, he gets fed premium food and has a plethora of toys. I'd pretty much go all in on betting that he's super stoked and that he's forgotten my name already!!!  lol!!!

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Not sure lol never asked them. I love guys tho with no reviews bashing someone else who expresses an opinion using same. Quite humorous. Not quite sure why all this drama. Just like clockwork it seems......

...should be left at the door. : )  

xo LL

you assume no reviews . . . the beauty of an alias  -  lol

The invite from the hostess.

A vicious circle indeed