Ah yes...dear old '08. Your time is done...and while we hate to see you leave...we have to appreciate the lessons your time has taught us.
We played the game, we have memories both good and bad.

As for me...I thank you '08 for lessons learned and new resolutions formed.
My theme for '09, based on experiences, is a simple NO.
There will be NO more:
Upscale rooms
Multi-hour dates
Champagne
Candles
Music
Shaving the boys
Room service
Gifts
Flowers
And all the other mistakes I made as a newb in the "hobby".

Thanks '08 for bitch slapping me into reality as to how things really are. It's been a rough, but profitable lesson. From now on...it's 'hit and quit' just like what works best for the ladies.

Best of fortune to all, and may '09 be the best ever!

Forgive an unsolicited thought,but...

Why write a list of all the things you WON'T do anymore...when that list seems to include many key items that most ladies of class and style would enjoy? Aren't you shooting yourself in the foot by making a proclamation like that? Wouldn't a lot of the finer, elegant ladies take a look at that list and "learn a lesson" as well as it relates to wanting to spend time with you?

Of course, your choices as to how and with whom you spend your time are entirely your own, but my opinion would be that declaring "I'm not doing any of this really fun, cool stuff anymore" is a certain "classy woman repellent"!

Again, an unsolicited opinion. Sorry you feel you learned those "lessons" as things not to do, when a lot of guys should use that list as an example of things TO do...

(and p.s., I would think most women would find the "hit and quit" comment a tad offensive...but I'm just saying).

Good luck, and have fun out there...

Like....Posting things on the board that will help you get NO DATES!!!   Happy Hobbying in '09

Yes, you have had some "less than ideal" experiences; however, my advice is to out the NCNS girl here to prevent others from her NCNS.  Her inability to get the day/time correct is inexcusable.

Additionally, my suggestion is for you to narrow your search to ladies who are well reviewed by established hobbyists.  If you don't have VIP, get it so you can read the juicy details of the reviews.  This will help you get a better idea about the lady you are hoping to see.  

Also, re-visit some of your "no's".  Specifically, "it's 'hit and quit' just like what works best for the ladies".  Both ladies you have seen offer MSOG.  I've seen them both and they both provide high quality GFE service.

Beverages of the lady's choice, candles, and music are all part of a sexy environment to help the lady get into "the mood".  I know, it's "their job" but a motivated lady will be a lot more fun.  I know I really enjoy my time with a lady at her incall when there is a sexy ambiance present.

I understand your wanting to maximize your hobby funds and do more 1-hr. dates.  However, after a few years of hobbying, I now prefer 90 minutes or 2-hour dates so that I don't feel rushed.  

From time-to-time I have brought a small gift (candle, bottle of wine, candy, flowers, gift card, etc.) to a lady who I think in "special."  These "extras" are appreciated but not a requirement.

Last but not least, don't judge all Florida providers by the few bad experiences you have had.

Happy hobbying in 2009.  

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Get a grip, dude!  Are you just sh*tting us, or is that your real attitude? Did someone NCNS, nail you an upsell, or some other bad?  I though us guys from Jersey had rough edges, but damn...  Somehow, I think this is a BS post, meant to stir trouble...

On a happier note, I have had only great times with the ladies from Florida when they visit us up north.  They are more than welcome to visit us anytime in 2009...we treat them right! Which means most of your no's are our yes's...

CL beckons, dude...enjoy!  You just shot yourself in the foot...

Mel,
I feel your pain.  Sounds like you expected more from the experience than you should've. Just remember this is a pay for play service, enjoy the service for what it is and move on to the next lady. As they say variety is the spice of life.

There are many great ladies out there, just manage your money and expectations and you will be fine.  Take a break from the hobby occasionally to get a fresh prospective.  

Happy new year to you.  

This post is simply amazing, you have put together quite a list there. It sounds as if 2008 was miserable for you!

I gather from your list of NO's for 2009, that you will be using the following list instead?

Run down, "No Tell Motel"
Quickies to 1 hour dates
Water if readily available
Night Lite
Instead of music, maybe the sound of the A/C to romp to
No ball worship
Zip the lip- no need for conversation. Afterall, this is just 'hit and quit' right!


It sounds as if 2009 will be a great year for you!

Good Luck!
Paris

Allright. I really had no idea what this would lead to....and I understand why it did.
All the PM's and back channel stuff that's happening can be cleared up...and I'd like to do that. There's no way to make it short...so sorry.

I know I only have a few months into this.
I realize I have 2 reviews. That does not mean I've only seen two people. There's been about 20. Mostly from other places as I did not know TER existed.
Of those 20 or so...there's been 5 NCNS...1 ripoff (theft)...and some nasty, rude, unappreciative "ladies". Lots of money spend on rooms, gifts, travel, etc.
I've only seen 1 provider since finding TER. I met Heather through other means.
I've had 20 'at bats' with 2 home runs (as reviewed here) and 3 others who do not want to be reviewed. So I'm 5 and 15 on the scorecard. If I was a football coach...I'd be fired!
I've never asked for a 1 hour date the first time meeting someone. I think it's too rushed and want the lady to be able to relax and have fun. I most always get the room..and never a cheap one. Let's just say that everything on my NO list...is what I've done every time.
Apparently it has been pearls before swine. Remember...I said I've only met one TER lady so far...and yesterday was supposed to be the second.

So yesterday I had a nice date set up. Not for me. Good friend going through a very bad time. He's heard about my good experiences, and something like that is exactly what he needed. He keeps pushing me to "get my own girl" and I tell him that I'm quite pleased with the lady I have. I'm good for now. Today's for him.
I set him up with a gallery of gals in WPBeach and said "pick one, my treat". He picked one. She occasionally posts ads on the Fla. board here. She has reviews. She's considered YMMV but it seems based on the quality of guy she meets...and it looks like she's seen some not so nice guys. Perfect!! She just needs some of that treatment I've been doing all along! I set the date with her and made it clear that it was multi hour so she could relax. Start with two...and if she wanted to stay longer...no problem.
So I get the room online and drive 2 hours south (my buddy is in WPBeach). I arrange for champagne, chocolate strawberries, water, soda, and other goodies to be in the room.
I stop at Sak's because that's the only place that sells the fancy perfume she says she likes on her website. So we're set! The only thing missing was candles...and that's because it was daytime.
And what happens next, you may ask?
Go ahead...you may    

Nothing!!! No answer to text messages or calls. Phones not on. Straight to voicemail.
So we figure we'll wait a bit. 2 hours later, a few sodas gone, and the cheese plate diminished, we decide to call the game.
So the Hilton got their room back and I'm sure the housekeeper enjoyed the champagne and strawberries.

We go to meet his step-dad and have a little meeting of the "He-Man Woman Hater's Club" over a few beers. I need to get home....so it's two more hours on the road (no...I was not drunk).

I figure it's over. Nope. I get a text as I'm getting off the interstate. It's little miss special! Says she'll call me soon. I text not to bother. Room's gone...I'm home.
Then she gets pissy. Tells me the date was for Thursday anyway...and I should check me email. I suggest she actually check...because it's for Wed. What I get back is...
"sorry. ur right. mybe nxt tm. Bye."
Gee. Thanks for giving a shit, Miss Thang!

So I get home and have a few beers. Happy New Year, right? I'm trying to keep the pissed off at bay...but the beer isn't helping like I thought it would.
I read Jina's post about lousy clients. Now everything really gets to me about just how shitty people can be. Why the F does it have to be this complicated? (internal question to myself).
I'm pissed...by friend is pissed because his wife is cheating on him with his business partner..and he "can't even pay someone to show up".

So my beer fueled anger brought back all those 15 'wonderful' experiences I've had. The empty rooms paid for, gifts bought, etc.
When I made that post last night...I was done. Done with the hobby, women, and especially being nice...because it doesn't seem like it matters.
I realize that no one will want to see me after that. I've been single for 10 years prior to this little hobby experiment of mine...so I can handle it.
What I DID NOT expect was the reaction or the effect it could have on the ladies I reviewed.
I never saw that as a possibility...and publicly appologize to these wonderful ladies.

So now you know. It is NOT any lady I've seen before. Just another bad experience that I put a lot into.

As far as who it IS....that doesn't matter and there's no point bringing it up. She said she's quitting the biz for school.
She knows who she is...and the only way we'll all know is if she posts an ad on the board again.
Guess who the first response will be from, dear.

As for me, yes, I know the hole in my foot is still bleeding from the bullet wound. Maybe I'll put it back in my mouth. That seems to be where it is a great deal of the time anyway.

I guess I'll just have to start putting all my disposable income back into my boat. That lady will still see me....LOL.

Take care...Happy Hunting....and Happy New Year (for real this time)

I can't think of a worse time for a NCNS from a provider. And driving over 2 1/2 hrs and checking into a very nice hotel, buying gifts for the lady and having the room looking "just right" for her must have been almost as bad as that lonely drive back to your house after calling her for hours and getting no answer

As I wrote you in a PM, posting when you were at your lowest point wasn't the best time to do so, and many of the top notch providers might be a little wary after reading you post.

You seem like a really nice person who just got dumped on and didn't handle it well.

And who among us hasn't posted when we were too emotional and later regretted it? I know I have...

xoxo,

Steph

I am so sorry that you had to endure a NCNS on New Years Eve...or anytime for that matter! I do understand why you're so upset, I would be too if I had've went through as much trouble as you and then be stood up. Please do not allow one bad provider to ruin your hobbying experience. There are many wonderful providers here that would never even consider treating you in this manner.

I understand that your post was written due to your anger and frustration. It would be benefical to hobbyist and providers alike, if you would revoke what was written and instead explain the reason behind the post. You obviously were hurt both financially and emotionally by what took place last night. I recommend outing this particular provider, so that future hobbyist doesn't have to endure what you have experienced.

Best wishes,
Paris

I agree that it would serve you well to tell your full New Years Eve story here, including the provider in question who NCNS. We'd all like to know, as that's exactly what this board is useful for.

Cheers,

Sly

else!

And good guys don't always finish last

I've found on this board the more info you share when something goes wrong the better the postive responses will be.

As far as any back channeling on my end, i just hated to see you getting slammed. You aren't the first person to "have a few" after a bad experience and get the wrong message out.

Hey, you have a boat? Can the ladies come over and lay out topless???

Pretty pleeze

Don't stay away too long, I was just stating to read your posts, lol!

xoxo,

Steph

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no matter what happened, and how pissed you are at the world of providers...unless you plan on walking away from the hobby altogether, or just dabbling on CL, THAT post is NOT going to help with any future meetings!  Believe me, I've put up my share of stupid posts (possibly this one too, and I basically got ripped off for a HUGE chunk of change by a provider. But as pissed off as I was about that mess, I never took a swat at the rest of the ladies! I never took a swat at HER!!!  It just didn't seem to be in my best interest, and wasn't fair to the great ladies out there who wouldn't pull that off.  Hopefully you learned TWO lessons today.  I sincerely hope your future hobbying goes much better, but this post was still DUMB!

that I can imagine.  I think the best suggestion I could make, and that others would agree with, is to stick to the well reviewed ladies on this board.  This should help avoid some of the stuff you've encountered and make the hobby something you can look forward to! Look forward and don't look back! Good luck in 09!

I don't mean to be a hard ass, but I need to get to know someone before I start lavishing them with gifts... or even multi hours.  

I mean, two people may not click and after 10 minutes it's "I need to get the hell away".  But the second or third or fourth time, I can become generous.  

I also prefer incall since my expenditure is minimal at that point.  I've paid for a few empty hotel rooms.  It's no fun sitting alone in a hotel room looking at your watch.

You didn't say how far in advance you set the date.  It's also a good practice to confirm the date and time prior to getting the room.  I didn't see that in your list of activities.

These are the lessons you need to have learned.  Good luck toi you.  I know you said you won't do those things, but if you had the inclination to do them in the first place, you will again.  I would just wait until you know you click.