Something I repeatedly hear from the ladies that bothers them is guys contacting them and trying to establish an email,text,or phone relationship, taking up hours of their time without booking an appointment.  While many ladies accommodate as much as they can, this takes away from the quality time the rest of us should be enjoying.

Other common sense things. Ladies and guys, feel free to contribute

1. Don't be too graphic in what you are looking for in your initial contact with the provider.  Read the reviews and make decisions on who you contact based on that information.  Any particulars can come in later conversations.

2. Always establish time and rate up front.

3. When it's time to leave, leave.  Don't overstay your welcome.

I've seen providers respond to a negative review that "if only he would have asked beforehand, he would have known I would/would not do that."

Good stuff. Common sense seems less common these days....

re #1, when reviews are non-existant and no one on the board has any 411, it's difficult to determine a provider's boundaries without asking. I try to be tactful, but language issues sometime intrude. If I can't figure it out, I just don't go. There are too many well-reviewed ladies in this area to get hung up on one.

Keep up the good work, SFG!

Agreed, but the first contact is usually the time to establish a rapport and once that has happened, then you can tactfully hint at which services you are looking for.  It's a delicate balance between getting what you want and not scaring off the provider.

I agree, it's a delicate process to establish these things, but there needs to be some sort of a comfort level before you ask particulars like that.

Maybe the ladies will chime in with what they are comfortable with.

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You would think, really, that it wouldn't be that difficult. That is, of course, if you don't consider the absolute depth of stupidity and rudeness that occurs in some people.
It is sadly true that common sense isn't common. Cliche...but true.

I think anyone who knows a provider on more than only a professional level has heard the horror stories of the emails they get. (the FIRST ones)
* I just jacked off to your picture...wanted you to know. How does that make you feel?
* I'm low on money, but important on (insert board name here). I'll give you a great review for a free hour. It'll help your business and you'll thank me.
* Can you do 15 minutes for $40?
* My buddy is new to all this...can he watch to see how it all works?

Frankly it's a miracle this delicate form of interaction works at all considering how dense most people are. Funny thing is...the truly dense think it's everyone ELSE who has the problem! LOL

Can you do 15 minutes for $40 is the most common I get.  One major time waster is a gentleman who says he is coming to town in 3 months but would like to email back and forth till then so he can get to know me. Get a few of those and when I tactfully say no time for so many emails, I am then called rude and some swear words.

I actually had someone PM me and tell me they have jerked off to many of my pics.

Unbelievable the lack of respect!

You on the other hand have always been quite the gentleman and ALWAYS a pleasure to spend time with!

Ju Rock...Sindie

the military call a target-rich environment.  There are more than enough providers out there who have many reviews, clear depictions of their boundaries, and a fair evaluation of their performance that I can't underst and why guys would go after ladies where they have to ask what's available, etc.  If you have an undeniable urge to explore unknown territory (or TOFTT), then do it, pray for the  best, but please don't come back here and bitch about how poorly it turned out!  It's just annoying; if you want to post a warning-type review about a disappointing provider, by all means do so, but don't expect a lot of sympathy form most of us.

I'm new to this board and so far am finding it to be a 'WTF, why didn't I do this earlier!' Dallas TER nothing like this and the established boards are much different in how the threads post. I am going to love my Tampa visit!

To address your comments SoFla - I have found a few FLA guys get a little graphic and suggestive in PM's that in Dallas might have had me delete/ignore. I decided to acknowledge but not encourage and all have been gentleman. Of course, 90% have been really sweet and cool from the git-go  

There's a fine line between going overboard and some playful exploration but always best to go in baby steps and not be in a rush. It says a lot about the person.

I for one can be the ultimate sex kitten, but I need to feel comfortable and that comes when there is respect in the initial contact - playful is fine during that communication until the first meeting, but short and sweet - ever try to read a novel on your Blackberry? Most guys get this and that is why this is so much fun!

And those of you who got a little naughty, all is cool; but a little spank might be in order!

Point 2 is a given. Point 3 is the tough one, and quite difficult to handle if not wanting to be labeled 'clock watcher'. I wonder how many out there would sit with their 300 or 400 an hour attorney and the hour is up and they just keep sitting there talking legal stuff and not expect to run the tab higher?

I've had it both ways - a guy lingers 20 - 30 minutes and one might give me something extra and another nothing. I don't get mad at the one, as there are many factors - but I sure as hell appreciate the generous guy and he knows it the next time!

I didn't mean to write a novel, but wanted to share something more than my photos.

I have heard that some ladies with very high fees 'get to know someone' by phone and email before. Bullshit. What a lot of time wasted - and a heck of a lot of guys are only too happy to try that on WITHOUT PAYING.

'Tamara G' is not a charity so I am very to the point, professional and quick in responding. I find my clients appreciate that - they're business people too, the aim is to meet and have a great time, not bullshit over the airwaves.

That's the way I like it and I enjoy meeting others of like mind -

Tamara G. xxx

Nothing like a woman who knows what she wants and let's us know also.....

Welcome back from your travels