No that is not what I'm saying, exactly the opposite. If you are the girl, I am paying you so you get what you want, I am getting my nut for the evening so I am getting what I want. My point is why providers feel the need to lie. I know I don't want it so why would you?
I have seen a few of the lovely ladies of FL and I have limited reviews but that is because some ladies don't like too many but believe me I have seen more than posted. I have had a couple of appointments who I will not dare mention by name out of respect but who have been complimentary to me on either size or performance which I know is not true. I know it is part of this business but I wanted to get both providers and clients views on what providers say and why they say it. I feel that telling me I'm good at something or I am large is doing me a disservice b/c unlike the other guys on this board, I not very experienced in matters of intimacy and I truly care if I am doing things right for you as a lady. Anyways, after that long ramble I wanted to get insight from the girls on why they tell us certain things. Is it because you feel we expect it? Just wanted to start a forum on this topic. Thanks
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I rarely comment on size as it is really not necessary. You guys know what you are and it is not the size that matters but rather how you use it anyway. On the other hand if you are doing something very right I will certainly let you know. Again, I will not say it if I don't mean it as there is no reason to lie but alas yes some do for whatever reason which I will never understand.
For future dates you might just explain to the lady that you don't have much experience and any tips or advice she is willing to give you would be very helpful. Sometimes honesty will get you everywhere and more.
I appreciate the feedback Sara. I received an email from a provider today and it actually turned a light on for me, it was an epiphany. I realized that I am taking this too seriously. I am there to get a nut and she is there to get paid. Nothing more, nothing less. We are not friends nor do we care a thing about each other. We are nothing but a business deal and that is a good thing to realize. I do appreciate the feedback and going forward now with my new attitude towards the hobby I should be better off.
They tell you certain things because it is simply part of their job to do so. They know certain things to be true no matter what.
They know the make ego is fragile and easily fed.
They know it is their job to make males feel good in whatever way they can.
They know a happy client is a repeat client and that will create more of me on their bathroom counters.
I am the only true universal factor and the only purpose. I've been given to tramps, ladies, and everything in between. I've been filled with unpaid child support, grocery money, savings, and discretionary income. I've been used for fancy cars, boyfriends, drugs, boob jobs, education, and christmas presents.
Do yourself a favor and don't over-think the process, it's purpose, or what's involved.
It's all about me and nothing more. Only the truly deluded think otherwise.
I am your friend. I am their friend.
I AM, the stuffed envelope.
Sara said it quite well and I agree with her. I beleive that quality entertainers will not lie, however it may just be that the provider was trying to be nice.
I would suggest letting them know upfront that you prefer that they either be honest or remain quiet. Either way I wouldn't let it bother you. Enjoy and have fun!
...an Absolutely Huge Cock, & you're Beautiful!
Bet you Text the poor providers over & over & over & over..."Is my Cock Pretty?"
Can you say high maintenance & time wasters.
Can't you just enjoy the Hobby instead of bothering them w/how pretty your cock is...isn't fucking them & getting a great BJ good enough?
Some guys on this board I swear. You try to have an honest discussion and this comes out. Jeez
So please do yourself a favor and stop looking for, hinting for or even expecting reassurance about yourself. Her job is to help you enjoy the fantasy. And even though with the right provider under the right circumstances, there can be times (e.g., attending an event with you that SHE finds desireable) when you BOTH can enjoy your time together, it IS a business ... It's a business, it's a business, it's a business!!!
Dude, you've got a couple whitelists....what else do you want...a fucking medal at the Adult Video Awards ?
No that is not what I'm saying, exactly the opposite. If you are the girl, I am paying you so you get what you want, I am getting my nut for the evening so I am getting what I want. My point is why providers feel the need to lie. I know I don't want it so why would you?
Sounds like a stud!! I wish I had that batting average.
It's nice to hear you feel this way and are a sensitive man. Many ladies feel saying anything indifferent about a man's sensual talents or prowess would cause some ill will feelings. I would never bring this conversation up although I will tell a man how to please me. Are you asking directions from these ladies to help you pleasure them during or after your intimate time ?
This is a post from my blog but not intended for you in particular. In my years as a provider many men have mentioned their lacking love making skills or package size. It's a learning curve for all of us and it's hard if each time your meeting a stranger. I would never tell a man something he knows not to be true but I would question why he's beating himself up.
Stop getting hung up on things you can't change. who gives a damn about a cock when you have a talented tongue. Learn to use your tongue and no one will ever care about the size of your cock.
Do you really think every man is hung or can last for hours. It's not what's in your pants that makes a man a good lover but how he creates desire and satisfaction for his partner. You being a loving and caring partner will win me over with 5 inches more than a cold hard fuck with 10 inches.
My assumption from the two white lists you already have is that you have learned this lesson well. Both lovely ladies thought enough of their time spent with you to vouch to the whole community how much they enjoyed time spent with you. Any lady seeing those white lists would be excited at the thought of meeting you.
I don't know why a lady would put such effort into stroking your ego with things that make you feel uncomfortable. After all it is obvious that you have so much more to offer than just a F___ and thank god most of the men here do.
Kisses Haley
That is what the providers said. But then one well reviewed one told me that my dick was really small bit she loved sucking it because she didn't choke when she did.
After she told me that, I changed my name to shortduckdong. I have to live in the real world. Sometimes we have to face the real world Mr Sparks.
Really, I don' know why anyone would have to lie to a client. Yes, we want to stoke your ego but there is never a reason to make something up. Obviously you are not going to tell a guy who has a below average penis that it is huge. That would make you sound like you are just saying what you think he wants to hear. Instead, there is always something about a guy that sets him apart. He may have great abs or a sexy head of hair or a wicked tongue or plush lips that you just want to kiss all day. He may be really smart or very funny. He may smell so good that you want to want to lick him from head to toe. There is always something nice to say that is the truth so why would you waste your time on a lie? Plus, knowing that you are potentially a repeat client and that you care about your performance then if there was something that you needed work on I'd be the first to help you out with your skills.
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I am there to get a nut and she is there to get paid. Nothing more, nothing less. We are not friends nor do we care a thing about each other. We are nothing but a business deal and that is a good thing to realize.
Gosh, when I read this it made me kind of sad. Maybe you guys all feel this way and you are all great actors. I felt that sentence to be very objectifying. Really nothing more and nothing less? I have considered many of my clients to be friends and I hope they feel the same way. And even if they don't care about me like you say, I still care about them.
Of his quote.
It also made me very sad to read and I too consider each and every person that I have had the pleasure of spending time with very dear friends to me.
Sinerely,
Sindie
Out of respect for the ladies I have offended on this board and who read this post I will refrain from typing and visits for I think a long while. It was rude and thoughtless and now I realize. I will still say I have reached a reality with hobbying that helps me and the providers, sorry again!
Heather has the perfect response......some of us have made some very special friends and have connected on a totally different level because of that.....I am sure that there are those who have the "its all buisness" attitude and sometimes I am sure that walls have to be put up and lines that should not be crossed......but to say that there is no friendship that develops with a regular is really missing the best part of this hobby in my opinion....I can honestly say that I have some wonderful friends out there.....and I hope they feel the same........just sayin....Alphasdan
I do not tell men things to make themselves feel better or I feel they expect it. Every man has something they do that I find interesting, satisfying or erotic. Here's a question why do guys see certain girls over and over again?
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