I've been a hobbyist for several years but took a year off from the hobby but have gotten back in it this year. I like meeting new people and haven't really met many that i would consider regular except for a handful. My question is how do i go about asking a provider for a reference and what criteria do providers look for when approached with this request. I am very considerate and treat all the ladies with the utmost respect. Is there a minimum amount of dates that you require before providing a reference? What if it's a girl from an agency? Your response is appreciated.
One thing is for sure is all ladies do things differently, myself included. However, for the most part we pretty much operate the same way.
It is not uncommon that a gent asks the lady who he wants to use a reference first for her permission. Some ladies require this. Generally, just email her (I never do this via phone) and politely ask her permission. Do give her the name, website link, reviews link, contact information of the lady you wish to see. When a gentleman does this I always research the lady to make sure I am comfortable exchanging references with her. My criteria is pretty common. I have run into issues where the lady was new and no reviews. In that case, I will explain to the gent you are welcome to toftt but choosing ladies who have reviews and are well known will pretty much keep you safe. Now grant you that is not always the case. Sadly I have heard of issues with well known ladies who think they own the client and don't want to share, drugs involved and just plain ole drama. However, that is not my call and up to the gent to decide who he wants to play with!!
For the most part ladies really don't ask or want to know details. All I want to know is have you seen the gent and did everything go ok. That as well, is pretty standard.
As far as a minimum amt. of dates...nope. However I do require the date to be in the last 6 months. I can't tell you how many times I have gotten a reference request for someone I haven't seen in 2 years. Plus, I have heard of it from other girls too as well and I will tell you this is a major beef to us ladies. Once you get a new reference, please use her!!
Agencies...some ladies will accept them and alot will not. Me personally, after years of hearing things that I don't like, I have chosen not to use agencies for references. I love the independent girls who are their own boss and prefer to deal with them.
I sure hope this has helped you out some...
Makenzie
Thank you so much for this great information. I believe that references are important especially in this hobby for both the hobbyist and the provider. This is very helpful to me and hopefully to anyone else who reads this post.
It is not uncommon that a gent asks the lady who he wants to use a reference first for her permission. Some ladies require this. Generally, just email her (I never do this via phone) and politely ask her permission. Do give her the name, website link, reviews link, contact information of the lady you wish to see. When a gentleman does this I always research the lady to make sure I am comfortable exchanging references with her. My criteria is pretty common. I have run into issues where the lady was new and no reviews. In that case, I will explain to the gent you are welcome to toftt but choosing ladies who have reviews and are well known will pretty much keep you safe. Now grant you that is not always the case. Sadly I have heard of issues with well known ladies who think they own the client and don't want to share, drugs involved and just plain ole drama. However, that is not my call and up to the gent to decide who he wants to play with!!
For the most part ladies really don't ask or want to know details. All I want to know is have you seen the gent and did everything go ok. That as well, is pretty standard.
As far as a minimum amt. of dates...nope. However I do require the date to be in the last 6 months. I can't tell you how many times I have gotten a reference request for someone I haven't seen in 2 years. Plus, I have heard of it from other girls too as well and I will tell you this is a major beef to us ladies. Once you get a new reference, please use her!!
Agencies...some ladies will accept them and alot will not. Me personally, after years of hearing things that I don't like, I have chosen not to use agencies for references. I love the independent girls who are their own boss and prefer to deal with them.
I sure hope this has helped you out some...
Makenzie
I have to say that when Receive an email about references I always go out my way to help other providers and to make them feel comfortable. However, in the other hand I am finding more and more diffilcult to get a provider to get back to me including many local well known providers... It's ridiculous and in addition to that I'm not the only that is having this problem!
i really don't understand why a lady can't take - literally - FIVE minutes to respond to a reference request. if you're not comfortable responding to a request (too much time has elapsed since you've seen the gentleman, or perhaps a li'l fuzzy on details, or any other reason), it's nice to simply respond that you'd prefer not to give a reference. at least that's SOMETHING.
come on, ladies, please tighten it up a bit. i've absolutely got your back, won't you take mine? thank you, my lovelies!
and to those faithful ladies who never fail to respond...i love ya! a warm hug and a big kiss on the cheek - whichever cheek you prefer! :giggle:
I give the same RESPECT that I would like given to me. Many providers know that I am on the line of defense when it comes to screening my new friends. And I RESPECT others the same way. I have given out 8 references these past couple of days to very REPUTABLE SCREENING providers. I RESPECT THEM FOR RESPECTING ME! And I am happy to do so.
One love
French Kiss
Elle Vegas
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